I was best friends with my friend for about 5 years. We were like sisters. I told her everything. Well her one rule, I guess you would call it was not to sleep with her brother. Well I thought that was fine, because I was never interested in him. Then one night we all went out, got messed up. I ended up staying at her bro's house when everyone else left, one thing led to another, and before u know it, I was freaking out, because I knew what I just did. Well I kept hanging out with him, I didn't want her to find out, then we kept seeing each other, we were kind of just friends with benefits. Everything was great until she found out through her mom. now she just cut me off completely. I kind of don't blame her because she let me know from the get go, but I think it's so childish. i don't know what the big deal was. I could see if I dogged him, but we ended with mutual feelings. She still won't talk to me, and I miss her. Like I said, she was like my sister. How do I mend our friendship?
2007-02-10 13:58:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All you can do is talk to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her that your sorry and that you made a mistake... and tell her that you got strong feelings for her brother. A true friend wouldn't come in the way between true love. But if she won't budge, then I guess you have to pick. Would you rather have your friend back or this relationship? What's more important? Which one can you live without... and which one can't you?
2007-02-10 14:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend should at least talk to you and find out what you have to say. If you did not mean to sleep with her brother and she found out , maybe it was said that you were caught hanging out unlike you are normally seen and things were blown way out of proportion, But since you knew your friends rule about her brother then you can see why she is mad at you. If she won't talk to you now then there is a slight chance she wants nothing to do with you and thinks you are a complete cheat after what happened, so just move on a consider it a lesson in life when making other friends. So you made an honest mistake, everyone makes a mistake and learns from them. It seems your friendship is not really worth mending.
2007-02-10 15:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. Sisters always know something about the brothers she may not tell want to tell you. That is a strange thing to say to a friend. It sounds like something deep is going on that you don't know about.
Walk away from this. Your friendship is not the first or the last that will happen to. If you have other friends it may be time to build a new friendship. So sorry this happened to you
2007-02-10 14:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by SHAy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits? I don't understand how someone can sleep with some one they just consider a friend! If you were to say it was something serious I would've taken your side. I would've loved to have had one of my brothers marry my best friend! Then we could be sisters for real.Just tell her you are sorry. I guess you and your friend just don't share the same values. I hope she forgives you. Please stop having casual sex! Wait until you truly care about someone.
2007-02-10 14:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try to explain to her what happened and tell her it was all an accident.She will proably understand i mean five years of friendship she can't let that come between that if she still doesn't forgive you than you have no buissness with her anyway.
2007-02-10 14:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Applekisses11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize.
2007-02-10 14:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by ~Val~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 her, say ur sry and ask y she feels this way maybe ask her brother to talk 2 her 2
2007-02-10 14:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and apologize
2007-02-10 14:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
crap happens...tell her you are sorry and hopefully she gets over it...what a mess...
2007-02-10 14:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Smoothie, aka Mr. SmartAss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋