I wish I was kidding, but I'm not. Women hate me for being a healthy, intelligent, confident man, and dismiss me as "boring" and "too nice", and I'm tired of that. So, I need to start mistreating women so that they'll see me as a challenge, and will think I'm exciting.
Please offer some good advice on how to go about this.
2007-02-10 13:55:07 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Mike, you have asked variations of this question before. Why don't you just get over yourself and move on with your life. Obviously you were dumped for a reason and nobody really cares. Move on with your life and you can't do this by constantly regurgitating this relationship and the problems associated with it on yahoo for heaven's sake. Join a gym take some courses at university. All women are not alike as you have found out all men are not. Time to stop obsessing and do something positive for yourself. You sound like you are stuck and that is not a good place to be. I don't mean to sound judgemental but there are better ways to deal with the hurt and anger you are obviously feeling right now. The number of women who actually like azzholes is few and far between and at the end of the day you will realize that.
2007-02-10 14:57:00 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
seriously. Take her out to really sleazy places and wait for some really sleazy guy to hit on her, then don't back away from him and kick his *** if it comes down to it.
Seriously. There's a difference between mistreating and being cloying and wimpy. Both of them are turn-offs to women. Be confident, self assured, interested in them but not obsessed, and don't act like you're going to commit hari-kari if they shoot you down. Kicking their asses won't work any better than kissing them. You actually have to have or be able to give the impression that you have something they want, but figuring out how to do this requires experience and careful observation. And every woman is different. There's just no way to get a handle on the specifics by asking a few questions. It's more a matter of feel than predetermined procedure.
Listen to them. Really listen. Most will let you know - deliberately or accidentally - what it is they really want. Sometimes it's hopeless. They will just have physical, mental or spiritual requiremnts you don't nor can you possibly pretend to have. In those case just move on.
2007-02-11 04:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I don't think 'mistreat' would be the right thing to do to a woman. I think you may be mistaking what women want. I know for me, I look for someone who is confident, slightly on the arrogant side, but not too arrogant. There's a fine line. You may be intimidating women with your intelligence. Don't act like you are the smartest guy on earth, just always have the answers in an interesting way. I think you should probably act a little more mysterious. Mystery can be challenging. But as for the healthy part, most women look for healthy guys. I know they don't look for men who are always in hospital with ailments.
2007-02-10 19:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Claire H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If women are finding you "boring" and "too nice" I promise you, it's not because you don't mistreat them, but you could be right about not being a challenge.
I like the other idea the poster had about dating MORE women. Stop being exclusive with them and date around. Make no promises about it and be honest. For some reason we all want more of what is just a bit elusive, what we have to fight just a little harder for. So, perhaps if you became a man known for being a terminal bachelor you would quickly avoid it exactly that. It just so happens I married just such a man. The catch of the century. And I was competing with a dozen women who were prettier and smarter than I was. How did I get him? I was "terminally single" myself.
2007-02-10 14:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't really want to compromise yourself by acting like a jerk to impress women, not if you're as intelligent and confident as you say you are. So you must be kidding. But in case you're not, try going after different women, not all of them are so shallow and naive. Any girl who thinks a guy is "too nice" is potential trouble...instead of trying to conform to what they want, get away! And try to find a girl who will appreciate you for who you really are, not someone you're trying to be.
2007-02-10 14:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by wendy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Learn to not need women. They sense needy men, and that's your downfall. It's perfectly OK to be healthy and decent, but you're not allowed to be needy.
Also, take a look at the kind of women who attract you. Chances are you're picking bad women if all they want is a "bad" man, or if they just want to abuse you.
Relationships require both individuals to be mature, and to want a mentally healthy partner.
2007-02-10 14:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by Boomer Wisdom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damn, all the good men are going in this world....
I wouldn't think you were boring. In fact, I'd find you interesting. I love to debate and love sporting games of verbal jousting (pretty much the same thing). It's a shame you're trying turn into one of the many @$$es of the world. Oh well! Just another reason for me to stay single! =D!
2007-02-10 14:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Are you an idiot or just desperate? You say you're confident, but don't sound like it to me. If you're overeager you scare off women, just like overeager women scare off men. Get your mind off women, and think about cultivating some interesting hobbies. The women will follow.
2007-02-10 14:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by heel75 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Too cute!
Desperation from the boring, nice guy...
Okay, if you really want to be a sexy bad boy, you have to aim for quantity rather than quality. Drop your standards. Date lots of women that nobody else would date. They will only have their dad to compare you to, and you won't measure up, but they will love you anyway. And you won't love them back, so you will be a bad boy.
There is a book called the Machiavellian guide to womanizing... made me swear off men, but you could learn a lot about being a bad boy from it.
Live well ;)
2007-02-10 14:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Display agressive dominant behaviour, give the women the feeling like you noticed them, dont act as if you dont see them you have to give them the feeling that you COULD be interested, but you really have places to go and other girls to meet. Also surround yourself with girls, keep female friends, some might start to like you but you just keep keeping them as friends, which makes them crave you even more and their craving is addictiive to other girls who want to find out what the buzz is all about. Yeah keep beeing nice and non sexual with a core basket of girls, and whore around with any and every girl in their orbit. Personally I would be carefull about it though, STD Aids etc.. Youre better advised to find yourself a good girl that hasnt been done by the block twice and settle down with her.
2007-02-11 00:38:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋