I am so incredibly frustrated. Not any of you can even begin to understand how upset I feel about this for every waking minute of my life. I know I have the power to dristract myself from feeling so stressed over something as 'silly' as this...
But this is my dream. This is the most important thing of my life. I want to lose my virginity on the night of my wedding...why can't those special to me be happy for me? Why is it that the vast majority of people I meet think I'm strange for wanting to do so?
No one can begin to understand how hard it is for me not to feel bad of the way everyone around me reacts at the one most important thing in my life.
Of course, I'm happy with myself and I'll keep to my dream. To heck with their opinions. It would be nice to have those most special to me support me, at least.
But since that's not possible, can someone at least give me a guess to my question? I want to know, why exactly can't I be supported? Why is this look down upon? Discuss
2007-02-10 13:38:03 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I needed to vent, pay not much attention to the details.
As you can all see, I'm so exremely pathetic and desperate for support that I've resorted to asking to strangers on the Internet {sorry, I don't mean to offend}. But really, I don't care. I just want to know...is my dream stupid or something?
I'm so ashamed of asking over the Internet to people whom I don't even know, but...I'll give it a shot.
Please & thank you.
2007-02-10 13:41:14 · update #1
Hang on to your dreams. You are not wrong to desire yourself to be pure. You might remember: NOT EVERYONE CAN PERSUE THAT DREAM. You need to be understanding to be understood.
2007-02-18 09:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by j.wisdom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Should'nt Care About Others Think And You Should Do What You Want To Do And I Want You To Know That I 100% Fully Support You In Losing Your Virginity On The Night Of Your Wedding.
2007-02-18 12:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if its your girlfriends who give you a hard time its probably because they are jealous that they didnt have as much constraint as you. If they are guys, then it is obvious, they want to get into your pants. Hold true to your values. This is your life, no-one elses, and if people give you a hard time, try to put it into perspective. You have every right to choose whatever way it is you want to live. These other people have the same choices. They chose a different path to you, but that doesnt make them right or wrong. Same as it doesnt make you right or wrong. . I think its pretty rude actually that these people are trying to force their values onto you. I would be very angry with these people, they have no right to expect you to be the person they want to mould you into you. The people who are giving you a hard time, are obviously not your friends. A friend accepts you and your choces without wanting to change you. I personally, would give these people the flick, they are not worthy of your friendship. I also wouldnt be letting their opinions make me feel depressed..they are the ones with the problem, not you. Why is it so important to other people that you lose your virginity? It seems very immature to me. I congratulate you for holding onto your values...it is a very rare trait these days. Dont ever change because if you can be so strong on the virginity issue and not cave in to social pressure, then you can achieve anything.
Congratulations on being such a strong individual.
2007-02-10 13:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not something to be talked about. If the right guy comes along the whole problem will be mute. If you are using it as a tease you are asking for trouble. I am 50 and know what I am talking about. I have raised 2 girls and know that both chose when and where not on the grounds of a piece of paper but because they knew that they had chosen where they wanted to be. both are older now and both are still with the guy they lost it to. Both knew when they met the right guy and neither were married when they chose to go down the road. The big thing to realise is that its not a dinner party conversation. It stays with you until YOU choose to air it in the right circumstances, with the right person at the right time. You will know and if you haven't reached that point yet keep looking because you aren't with the right person at the right point in your relationship.
2007-02-16 20:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by ehmjt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be proud of yourself, it is something rare but not strange. All those people don't understand you, may have never been exposed to the things you have been or raised the way you were. In reality girls are looked down upon for being promiscuous that's why men don't want girls that are "loose, or have been around", they may like these girls for a little while,but to do not look at them as girlfriend or marriage material.You have something very special that a lot of girls don't, hang on to it until the time is right.
2007-02-18 11:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by Pinklady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeking approval. If this is what you want you don't need the support of other people. The fact that you make a big deal about it claiming it to be the most important thing in your life is probably what makes people react the way they do. There are plenty of people saving themselves for marriage, and plenty of people that admire that, but they don't advertise it or talk about it all the time.
2007-02-18 05:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by yentruoc311 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know so aren't supportive and some are. I got the same issue. I lost my virginity on my wedding night and I was determined to wait till then. I am happy I did. I was 23 when I did. So don't worry. I think most people just give a hard time because they are jealous.
2007-02-15 22:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by l_peplow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow YOUR own heart and mind. There's absolutely nothing wrong with your decision. I commend you on being such a strong-minded individual in a society that worships sex, money, and power. A lot of people who are hassling you are probably jealous. They could never have the will power to do what you're doing. It's really hard to do the right thing and they wish that they could be that strong, but they can't. So, don't let them sway you or bring you down. Know in your heart that what you're doing is right. 3 Cheers and a "You Go, Girl!" for you!!!
Stay Strong,
Journey
2007-02-10 13:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A Virgin is defined as : A person who has never had sexual intercourse... So.. Doing it in the butt is still sex... it's called Anal sex after all :D ... Her giving you "head" or you giving her "head" (oral stimulation of the penis/vagina) this is also sex.. its called Oral Sex :D so sorry to tell you.. to put it in her "other place" is exactly the same as putting it between her legs. So.. to be fair.. Your penis going into any of her entry ways is sex.. period. BTW.. sexual urges are 100% natural... to deny sexual urges for too long can lead to some very serious mental problems and issues.... masturbation is a good way to keep sexual urges in check....also just so you know... Sex is freaking awesome! There is nothing better than sex in the entire world! And women that like to have anal sex are a rare thing as well! Lucky! ...that being said Sex has its many dangers... Sexually transmitted diseases for one. The risk of getting her pregnant. When you do decide to have sex... (I will not say "If" because the fear of gods anger will not hold you back forever.. nature and facts will win over every time...) Do yourself and your partner a HUGE favor.. USE A CONDOM! A little more touch of truth though..there is one thing better than sex in all actuality... sex with someone you love and who loves you in return. During those times, that's when both of you can reach out and touch heaven, if only for a little while.
2016-05-25 07:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl don't worry about asking over the internet because sometimes its very good because people are more objective. I don't think that there's anything wrong with keeping your virginity but for me I didn't want to wait because I want to know what i'm getting into. What if you get someone thats small? Do u want to deal with that for the rest of your life? And what about a guy that just isn't that great in bed? Your stuck with him forever and you'll never get to fully enjoy sex. All i'm saying is that you won't buy a brand new car without test driving it so why would you gamble your sex life that. The divorce rate is high in this country and if its not financial then most likely its sex, but its up to you to decide. Good luck
2007-02-10 13:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
more power to you, there isnt anything wrong with your choice, there are alot more ppl staying virgins longer now. there isnt anything that cant be supported it's just maybe everyone around you isnt a virgin so they expect you not to be. it's not the fact that your a virgin that's looked down apon i think that fact that this makes you different than everyone else and some ppl have a problem with differences. many ppl are still virgins and wait 4 that person and there are some ppl that arent virgins but want to become as close as they can get to becoming one again. forget what those around you think
2007-02-10 13:48:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋