So for about the past 3.5 yrs I've been friends with this guy and for like the past 1.5 yr we've grown really close. We're best friends. The only thing is I want to be more and I'm confused as if he does. Well, for starters I'm a freshmen in college and he's a sophmore in high school. There's a 2 hr 5 mon. age diff (I'm 18...19 next month...and he's 16) and a 3 yr grade diff (4 if I end up graduating college early). But even though I've been away at college (which is only like 2hrs away) we're still closer friends than ever. We hang out all the time and like 12 hrs a day when I'm home on the weekends. Sometimes he even makes up an excuse to his girlfriend so he can hang out w/ me. When we're together we have the best time just laughing, talking, and havin fun. I can tell he cares a lot about me. He's gotten me to "come out of my shell" as he says it. I'm pretty sure he knows I still like him. This past summer another friend went behind my back and told him at church camp how I felt...
2007-02-10 13:30:34 · 8 answers · asked by Careabear88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go and ask him out! Who cares that he's younger, you certainly don't! You friend told him how you felt only because she/he cared about you. " This guy", he seems like he really enjoys being with you and maybe he feels the same way, he probably doesn't want to break it to his girlfriend until he's totally sure that you like him too!
2007-02-10 13:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he already knows you like him and feels the same way, why does he still have the girlfriend? He may think it is great to have an older girl like him and be using your feelings for him to make himself look good to other guys, etc. If he truly has feelings back you both still have some time to figure out if they are lasting. Since you are both still in school, you should finish up first and take things slow to decide if this is a lasting thing. You will have to talk to him about your feelings to find out if the feelings are mutual and what to do about it. Don't let him talk you into being the other women, it never works out that way. Good-luck!
2007-02-10 13:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that having a male best friend is one of the greatest things ever! The fact that he is younger than you are means that he is not as mature as you are. Lets face it you are both young, and take it from someone older and who has been there if you two sleep together and one of you gets weird about it, your friendship, you can kiss it goodbye! Sometimes it is better to keep your friendship for life than to ruin it with sex and the expectations that come afterward. Relationships more than not end bitterly and most of the time you dont remain friends. Are you willing to gamble on your friendship falling apart after the deed is done, or play it safe and keep him as your friend for life by keeping it platonic. The choice is yours so choose wisely!
2007-02-10 14:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by msbluecakes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 23:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by pilkington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be a downer but if he has a gf then i dont think you should go for him yet. him making excuses just to hang out with you is normal since he's prolly used to u guys hanging out so much. im sorta in the same situation its just that me n my best friend are the same age.
2007-02-10 13:42:59 · answer #5 · answered by jane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should tell him yourself how you feel and maybe he will tell you he secretly feels the same way. And tell him not to let it ruin your friend ship if he says no.And if he says no just go with it. And still be his friend and proably later he will change his mind.
2007-02-10 13:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Applekisses11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell him how much you care about him! If I had a guy that I grow that close to, I would! Try puting it as easily as you can though.
2007-02-10 13:39:57 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to explain to him how oyu feel maybe he feels the same way bout u cause ditching his girl for his bff is uncommon, so go out there girl and tell him, tell him how u feel and maybe there will be a reward.
2007-02-10 13:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Double A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋