I know girls get loving when were under the influence of alchol..but if a girl ask if you want to be lesbians and is playing with your hair...is she intoxicated or is there some truth behind it.
And if you tell your best friend that you and your hubby want a threesome 4 some and she invites you over to spend time with her and her fiance more could they be.....?????? I dont wanna scare my friends away but I am attracted to girls. and me and hubby have wanted to try something outta the ordinary. we have been married for 11 years and have a strong bond. we enjoy each other for who we are. Can any one offer some advice at how I should go about couples dating???
2007-02-10 13:21:36 · 5 answers · asked by Babydoll 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just ask, sober. The girl will give you a sober answer. Save the alcohol for later.
2007-02-10 13:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"I know girls get loving when were under the influence of alchol..but if a girl ask if you want to be lesbians and is playing with your hair...is she intoxicated or is there some truth behind it."
Could be. Only asking her will tell for sure. Or ask her if you can kiss her.
"And if you tell your best friend that you and your hubby want a threesome 4 some and she invites you over to spend time with her and her fiance more could they be.....??????"
They could be full-fledged swingers, or they may be just as curious as you. Again... only asking will tell.
"I dont wanna scare my friends away but I am attracted to girls. and me and hubby have wanted to try something outta the ordinary. we have been married for 11 years and have a strong bond. we enjoy each other for who we are."
It's always touchy with friends. Our motto is that's it's easier to make friends out of swingers than swingers out of friends. When you start a relationship with someone with the understanding of the possibility of sex between you the relationship is very clearly defined.
When you try to take a non-sexual relationship and make it sexual, it changes it's dynamics completely. Sometimes it works-out. Sometimes it doesn't.
You're last comment there tells me that you "get" what being a swinger couple is all about. :-)
"Can any one offer some advice at how I should go about couples dating???"
First, join a swingers dating site like Swappernet, Swingular, Swinglifestyle, or Lifestyle Lounge. Create a good profile and then start searching for others that you are interested in. They'll be doing the same for you.
Then you meet for dinner or drinks to see if there is any chemistry. Sometimes it happens on the first date, and sometimes it doesn't. It all depends on what you are comfortable with. Some are comfortable with first date sex. Others like to get to know the other couple better and there might be a couple of dates before everyone wants to get naked with each other.
You may also look for swingers clubs in your area if you want to check one out. Most are allot like regular night clubs except there are both private and public rooms you can go to have sex in if you wish.
There is much more you should consider between you two, like discussing what you both want out of this, why it turns each of you on, what your rules and boundaries are, etc.
For some good, objective, and truthful information about swinging, please check-out The Swingers Board http://www.swingersboard.com . The discussion forums are chock-full of great information and there is also a very good FAQ section that goes over the basics.
2007-02-11 02:03:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm to totally straight. Never had a wet dream involving a guy and pretty much conceptually opposed to anal penetration. Since my perfect wife died I've made love, without penetration with my Gay lady Friends. They LOVE and respect me and KNOW that I am not taking them for vantage." God how my Gay friends can kiss! It makes all the other stuff almost irrelevant."
Nooky" is "nooky" as I see it. Nevertheless these beautiful evenings have come about by chance not planning.
Love transcends sexuality but even after dancing with a gay bloke I choose to go with my lady friends. Politely but "no thanks!"
I guess (guess) mind you that having two beautiful and loving ladies make mad passionate love to me would be great but I wouldn't push it and at 60 I'm still waiting.
But this is avoiding you question and just evidencing my tolerance.
Pick up lines used by my friends have included "I've got something much better to play with than my Meccano set -wanna see?"
"Do we, as a foursome, love each other more than most people . . . . ."
Crying "I desperately love ******* but I ache for you. Is it alright if I ask ****** and ****** if we could be together just one night. What harm would it do and it would make me sooooooooooooooo happy I'll sing for a week!"
Can we go out tonight to (special restaurant) and come home to a VERY special bedroom.
And don't let it scare your Friends away, you are who you are, let people accept you or not. You have nothing to prove.
2007-02-10 21:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by salubrious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go for the young, club age girls out drinkin at the gay bar. I am sure there are ads/boards for this stuff on the internet. You could also look in your local personal ads in your local newspaper.
2007-02-10 22:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by kar506 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well online is a good start i'd say
ask around, there are alot of bi girls out there
are you looking for a 3 some ? or just girl-girl??
good luck
2007-02-10 21:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by ceecee800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋