2007-02-10 12:36:01 · 23 answers · asked by whereRyou? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What do you think made your marriage work when so many fail?
2007-02-10 12:40:23 · update #1
Fifteen years, and I love my wife dearly. I can understand why
you would ask such a question, considering only 50% of
marriages survive. Sad isn't it?
2007-02-10 12:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by jon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yeah, I still love my DH. What has kept us going so long is being committed to each other. Before we even got married we had plans on what we'd try to do to work things out if either of us ever wanted a divorce. We both agreed that working things out would be our priority which meant we had to communicate very well about everything.
We also started out with no kids from previous relationships which was a huge help judging from the number of step-family questions on here. We didn't have our own kids until we'd been married for a few years so we had some "us" time.
And we got a handle on the money issues that can plague so many marriages. I'm so glad we talked to someone about that and started paying down debt in our first year.
But I don't think any of the other stuff would have mattered if we hadn't been committed to making our marriage work.
Oh yeah, it's 15 years and 3 3/4 anniversarys at the end of this month.
2007-02-10 20:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!!
We have being married for 28 years and happily so. Invest more time in the relationship, the rewards are more than what you put in.
Treat each other as if you just got married, or if you can't, just remember how it was when you first fell in love and find the reason why chose to get married to your spouse. The feelings will come back.
2007-02-10 20:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by P.B. 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to my hubby for 15 years and we have been together 17.And I can honestly say I love him more now than when we first got married.I think one of the main reasons we have been happy for so long is that we are friends we were before we started dating and have always put our friendship first over our marriage.
2007-02-10 23:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest sister--will be married 51 yrs. this June. My other sister, just celebrated 41 yrs. Yes, they still love their spouses, and their spouses love them. Even more as time has gone on. They took their marriage vows seriously, and made the committment to each other on their wedding days.
2007-02-10 20:53:37 · answer #5 · answered by SAK 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes we just had our 10th in Nov. I think it is working at it, not just giving up. It is really hard nowadays to make a marriage work, so many people want to give up. People really need to look at it as a life long commitment not a until you make me mad or do something I don't like. My vows are for better and worse no matter how better or worse it may be. Also don't stay with someone because you have kids. I stay with my husband because I want to be with him not for my kids sake.
2007-02-10 20:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by tabbikat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you talking about, there are many couple who have been married over 25, and even 50 years, and are still together, and in love with each other.
2007-02-10 20:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I've only been married for 4 but we've been together for 10 so I'll answer this question anyway ;-)...I definetly still love my husband...and it doesn't feel like we've been together so long because we get along really well and are really good friends in addition to being married. I feel bad for people that are in loveless marriages...that would be horrible!
2007-02-10 20:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have been married over 30 years and I still love her as much as when we got married. She is my beautiful baby doll! We are both Christians and GOD certainly blessed me with her. She and I have three children and one grandchild. We became Christians about twenty years ago. I can never tell you enough about how importand GOD has been in our lives. IF you never do anything else make sure that you become a CHRISTIAN and continue to study GOD's WORD each and every day of your life. HE must be an importand part of your life or you will fail miserably in life. Thank you for this opportunity.
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2007-02-10 20:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by Eds 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My grandparets. One set has been married 55 years, the others have been married for 59 years. They seem incredibly in love! My grandpa had to stay with my mom because my grandma was sick. My grandpa is too vulnerable to risk catching a nasty bug, so he couldnt see her til she was totally better. They called eachother every day like teenagers and talked about how much they missed eachother.
My mom and step dad have been married 11 years, and their relationship is BETTER than it was in the beginning.
2007-02-10 20:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married 29 years and still very much in love !
Many reasons........we are best friends...have great sex...make each other laugh....never go to bed angry...don't be afraid to say I am sorry........and we don't go out with our friends separately..we go places together ! That is just some things...
And we are renewing our vows on our 30 th wedding anniversary.
We do have children but they are grown and married..
Hope this is helpful ....â¥
2007-02-10 20:54:45 · answer #11 · answered by Bren 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋