i am a heterosexuall guy, i get nervous around the ladies and i often wish that i was a girl?

Answer 1

and your question is??

Answer 2

i think anyone who tries to tell you that you are gay or bi or straight doesn't understand the spectrum of sexuality... only you can determine what exactly your sexuality is, even though you may have gay or straight mannerisms... i think like a few other people said it is "normal" to be nervous around females, and vice versa... and while a lot of guys probably won't admit it, i think the average guy would like to "be" a girl for at least a day, just to find out what it's like... it's called curiosity, something that is natural for everyone... the problem is i think too many people are afraid of their curiosity, and instead of embracing it, they despise it, which turns into hate of the very thing they are curious about!..

neither your nervousness around ladies or your desire to be a girl is a good measurement of your sexuality, in my opinion... your sexuality is based on who you are attracted to, and who you find attractive... i also think sexuality is something that develops over time & experience, so it may take some time before you figure it out...

since other people have brought up the subject of transitioning from male to female, i'll say that although i don't have a personal experience, i can imagine it would be a painful process... emotionally, mentally, & physically... there is no "magic wand"... i'm not saying it's not worth it, i'm just trying to make sure you have a realistic approach... i think you would definitely want to talk to a therapist even before taking pills or injections, b/c once you start messing w/ the body's hormonal balance, it's hard to get it back to where it was... hope this helps, even considering i answered questions you didn't ask...

Answer 3

You could use a gay-friendly therapist to help you deal with the female issues that make you so uncomfortable. You may just be overly nervous and think that by being a girl, the comfort level would improve. Not all of us get along well with the opposite sex. And just maybe, you might really want to be a woman. Who knows at this moment. Talk to someone who can help you find your way.

Answer 4

This is something many heterosexual guys go through when around the ladies. Not much more I can say about that. On the other hand...

How strongly do you wish that you were a girl? Is it something that rarely comes up or something you feel like you must go through as if your life depended on it? This could either be a phase or you in fact could be discovering that you're transgender.

Answer 5

Thats like a mild description of myself.
I don't get nervous around certain woman. but some who i feel a certain attraction to, i feel nervous to stay around them for a while.

I wish i was a woman simply because i could use my personality to add to female charisma, to become more noticeable. Plus there is the simple fact that woman are sexier and more noticeable than men to begin with, they have more bells and whistles i guess you could say.

But then again, i wouldn't really want to have to deal with the period thing.

Other than that. I'm glad i am a guy.

Answer 6

Dear Jon

Although it is fashionable to say that being gay is the hardest, it is really not easy being heterosexual. It is hard for most men to understand women.

But you might actually have a good idea, wishing that you were a girl ... what better way to understand women more.

There are guys (mostly younger) who like guys or who like guys and girls ... who hang out with women a lot and be like them to a great degree.

This might be a really good thing to do, it gets a guy used to being not so macho and he learns a lot about girls.

So you might want to actually think about being "more of a girl" somehow. You don't have to actually be gay or be a girl, but maybe it is wise to find a way to learn more about girls.

Hope this helps.

Answer 7

You're not weird for being nervous around girls. Most guys are, whether they want to admit it or not are the same way. As far as wanting to be a girl, that's not gender confusion. I'd love to be a girl, find out all their secrets, go into their changing rooms, find out their demented way of thinking and turning everything into a soap opera, see them naked (and myself), have the opportunity to be on the other side (being the one that gets approached instead of the other way around), getting people to buy and do everything for me.
I'd love to be a girl too, but at the same time, glad I'm not.

Answer 8

Many men are heterosexual but have fantasies or in some cases are actually in relationships where a Dominant Woman makes him dress as a Woman as part of a power exchange role play scenario in which he is dressed as a woman as a sign that his power is taken by the stronger Woman and sometimes as a means of humiliation as part of the role play activities enjoyed which may include any number of additional kinky facets!

Perhaps your desire is for humiliation by a strong Woman and the dressing up is only one means by which she controls and humiliates you? This is a fairly common relationship type these days for those that enjoy it! It is also a common fantasy among the Ladies to dress a man as a Woman wouldn't you agree Ladies?

Answer 9

Dude, stay the manly guy you are. I can easliy help you discover the pleasures of non-nervosity. All you must do is count to 1392.

Once you reach the number, fold your tee-shirt in 2 parts, right side over left.

All the ladies will then swarm over you.

If not. I will.

Answer 10

I agree, find a therapist that specializes in or is at least familiar with Gender Identity "Disorder". Who knows, and you'd never have to experience the negative aspects of having menstrual cycles.

Answer 11

That's a common wish. You know, the old, "walk a mile in their shoes," kind of thing. If you could be one, you'd know what they wanted. You'd understand their motivations.

But, that's just it! YOU ALREADY DO! They aren't another species, they are just like us, they want to be happy, appreciated, loved, for who they are, not for how they happen to look. Although it doesn't EVER hurt to compliment, ALOT! Instead of being nervous, just think about the kind things you would want to hear from them and say it to them. They appreciate kind words, loving actions and respect. Give them what they want and deserve!