Am I wrong to suspect something because I hear my husband use new words?

Question

it's as if he is learning from someone else...

the other day he said "let's just cuddle"
I was shocked after 15 years of marriage to hear him say this he never used this word before.

Answer 1

I would say you are wrong to suspect something - but well within your rights to say, "where did that come from?" As we get older we change and mellow - we hear the jokes and the lines in the movies enough to think that is what a wife wants to hear - or we hear new things from new friends. It is reasonable to want to know what gave him that idea, but it is not reasonable to suspect your loyal husband of 15 years of doing something wrong. He has earned the benefit of the doubt, right?

Peace!

Answer 2

No not really. He just may be waning to cuddle and try new and romantic things with you . Just enjoy this time with him and do it. If you are that worried about it just ask him. It is bringing your closer together and making your marriage better so i dont see how it is a bad thing. I would be much more suspicious if it were something he was saying or doing to make the marriage worse or to draw away from you.

Answer 3

Maybe he's trying to figure out how to make the marriage better. He could've learned it from any marriage self-help sites on the net, bought a book, saw a show, etc.

On the otherhand, if he is suddenly disinterested in sex, I would make sure he didn't have a health problem, then be suspicious.

So it could be a lovely thing or the worst: can't tell much from here, but hoping for the best. Ask him what is on his mind. Watch his body language. After 15 yrs. I assume you two can talk, right? The fact that you are suspicious makes me suspicious quite honestly.

Answer 4

That is a very very common word my dear. If he interacts in the world and watches TV then I am sure he has heard it before. I wouldn't suspect anything, I would appreciate the fact that after 15 years you get a cuddly man. I have been married for 2 so I guess I have another 13 to go :)

Answer 5

Maybe he read something online or heard it on the radio or a tv show. Sorry you had to wait 15 years to hear those words! Maybe he wanted to be close but was just really too tired to um....perform ya know.... Exhaustion hits us all some days! If you are suspicious then YOU are the one with issues NOT him!

Answer 6

That is one of the signs of someone cheating .Has he done anything different in bed besides saying that one thing to you.Has he been telling you he needs to work later or asking you if it's ok with you if he stops after work to have a few beers with the guys.Does he say if you don't want him to then he won't because he doesn't want you mad at him.If you feel thing is wrong then 99% of the time it is.We just can't accept the fact that the man we love and trust would ever do anything as hurtful and digesting and despicable to us.But I'm hear to tell you not only do they do that but they have no guilt about cheating until they get caught .So watch him very carefully and go to his PC and check the credit card receipts and his cell phone bills.Look in his wallet and check for newer or different keys on his key Chan don't forget to look in the truck of his car for extra cloths. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 7

For now, relax. Let him know that you would like to talk with him, uninterrupted sometime soon.He could have been really tired that time he said "let's just cuddle". Or, had something (not someone) on his mind. When you do talk with him, be open to hear what he has to say. Just ask him, let him know this is different for him to say. Did he learn it from you? Is his health okay? Take care.

Answer 8

Ask him......where did the word cuddle come from....you never used it b4.....whats up......that way he will know if he is up to no good ...... then you are on to him. depending on his response and the look he gives you....you may have to begin snooping and so fourth. There is also some type of spy ware that you can purchase for your computer.....it will send you copies of every email and IM that comes from the computer.....this cheating husband spy ware is suppose to hide itself so that it cannot be detected.

Answer 9

Even though it's an odd thing for him, I wouldn't read too much into it. He may have picked it up from a movie or a magazine. Even a friend of his may talk that way. When he starts having new moves in bed or not coming home at night, that's when you should suspect something.

Answer 10

he could have read that on the net, or heard some secretary at work talking with co-workers saying she cuddles with her boyfriend or something. I would not get suspicious unless more, stranger or ruder words were used. Let some time pass.