my boyfriend wants us to need each other. for us to be like one person, i've always been so independent and gradually i'm needing him more and more. i am a little scared of it, cos i've always been independent and wanted it like 'i really want to be with you' not need to be. i'm getting so i dont think i'd go, if he cheated, if anything happened and it worries me!! i'm not a clingy person, i want him to be free, but also to be with me.
2007-02-10 12:20:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe that you should, never "lose yourself" in a relationship. I disagree when people say a marriage is like being one person. You are two people, with different beliefs, ideas, dreams, etc. Relationships work better when you understand that. Of course, you should support each other totally, and share your beliefs, ideas, and dreams. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else. The other person can compliment your qualities, but you should never feel like you "need" the other person to live.
2007-02-10 12:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worry away, if you're an independant person, be an independant person. Stop before he makes you dependant upon him and decides to ditch out! Sit him down and be ready to leave him cause thats some shady s*** going down. I'd never make a girl dependant to me...or however the grammer goes, dependant on me
2007-02-10 20:25:20 · answer #2 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the much healthier attitude. Beware of those that want to be your whole life it is not a good sign at all. If you are feeling a little scared of it, please trust your instincts. They are tryin to warn you of trouble.
No matter how much you love, even if you marry it is never a good idea to make one person you entire world. It is not good for the relationship either and certainly would not be good for and children in such a union. I think you should trust your own instincts and get away from this mess as soon as you can.
2007-02-10 20:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's more important to you. Independence or love? Anyone can be alone. That's sad. Love is a gift. Don't ignore it. Give it the special attention it deserves. Love can make you happy. I've never heard that of independence.
2007-02-10 20:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, that is hard. But if you want your independence that badly, then you really need to find a guy who is willing to accept that. Maybe you really like this guy, and you don't want to break up wiht him, but there is only so much us on Yahoo Answers can tell you. I know this sounds a little sappy and like it's out of a romance movie, but the rest is up to your heart. I sincerely wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-10 20:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by sugarsnap335 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I didn't know better, I'd think you were starting to fall in love with him. Just remember, communication is the key. You have to be open with each other....no secrets. Think of each other first in all decisions. If you and him can both do this......you and him should have a wonderful life together. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-02-10 20:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry his probably not cheating. guys like to have their own time and you cant blame them they need to feel free, not that he doesnt love you or that the doesnt like spending time with you its just that he also wants you to feel your independance and that you can survive without him. Some advise.. Men/Guys love it when they have a woman/girl that is confidant and that can still show love towards him and carry on her independace it makes them want you more they dont like a woman thats to needy.
Ms.Nunu
2007-02-10 20:27:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't sound right for you. talk to him about this, that might make him more needy thinking you'll end things, but it needs to come out. do things apart at least once a week just to remind you both that you aren't half a person each making up one whole, you are two whole people who have stuff in common who have fun but aren't going to die if the other person wants to do something different
2007-02-10 20:25:47 · answer #8 · answered by ahsatin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him his freedom if he loves you he willbe faithful to you and you only but if he does cheat find out why. don't just throw him away. talking is the best way to find out what is wrong. being independent does not mean you ave to give up you own self. becoming one with another person means you know each other inside and out.
2007-02-10 20:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by ren cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really young, its a little early to be so clingey with something that will probably not last anyway. Grow up then worry about things like this.
2007-02-10 20:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by #1wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋