Can someone please tell me HOW anyone ( male or Female ) can cheat on their spouse or the one they "supposedly" love? The cheating I am referring to is having unprotected sex with someone other than their spouse. In my opinion the person does or could not possibly love their partner, IF they are willing to put them at risk for STD's or the emotional mess that can occur.
2007-02-10 12:10:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No Alcohol or Drugs were involved during the cheating -- For either party
2007-02-10 12:37:53 · update #1
I agree -- they CAN'T love their spouse if they would even consider cheating.. From what I have seen a similiar situation the
male was spoiled, and immature. All he cared about what himself. And his "TOYS" (cars, 4-wheelers-snow mobiles, etc) And after he cheated, he felt SOooooooooooo guilty , but it was because he was afraid he was going to get caught
2007-02-10 12:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy_09 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that people who cheat are all losers with no morals. Until it happened to somebody close to me. This woman loves her husband a great deal, but their marriage was on shaky ground and they didn't know it. Well, one night she was celebrating a friend's birthday and drank too much alcohol(she rarely drinks). Well, her best guy friend told her she could crash at his house until she sobered up, and next thing she knows, he's taking off her clothes and getting on her. She tried to stop it, but due to the amount of alcohol in her system and the guy's size, it didn't work and she gave in. The only plus is that the guy wore a condom. She told her husband a week after it happened, and you know what? He forgave her. Once he knew the circumstances that night happened under, he knew that she wouldn't have done anything had she been sober (which she wouldn't). I say don't judge somebody's behavior until you have all the facts because not everybody who cheats is a horrible person. Many blessings.
2007-02-10 20:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. I would never cheat on a partner and never have although I have been hurt and cheated on myself several times over. It's a horrible feeling and one I am hoping not to have to go through again. Single at present but never would cheat on a partner. I know how it makes you feel and I wouldn't put someone through that. No way on earth I could be that nasty. Not to mention the risk to health of course.
2007-02-10 20:15:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been married 17 years and love each other deeply. But we also enjoy sharing each other and dont look as what we do as cheating because we have mutual consent. We dont do it with just anyone, thats asking for an STD. We take our time to get to know people and dont even hook up with everyone we meet. Last time we played with others was 16 months ago.
But anyway... I don't think anyone says, he I want to get married and become a cheater. It just happens!
2007-02-10 20:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Their love for their partner is definitely questionable...their love for themselves is MUCH stronger...it's selfishness...caring more about what they want than what the consequences might be or how it could cause others to feel...
They deserve the karma they get...the sad thing is the person they are cheating on typically doesn't appear to deserve being cheated on...
2007-02-10 20:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't agree with you more.
They are selfish and their immature instant gratification is more important than their spouse. Simple as that.
They usually don't care much until they get caught, then it is all love and remorse. Don't buy it. Don't believe it. Cut your losses and find a real man. Cheaters suck.
2007-02-10 20:16:20 · answer #6 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a question I've asked myself a thousand times. I used to think of these people as despicable. It wasn't until recently when one of my best friends of several years admitted to something similar that I even tried to look at it from a different perspective. He was very remorseful. I started in with the, "You should have thought of that before" lecture and he then told me he knew but he gave in to temptation. He asked if I had ever been attracted to anyone besides my girlfriend. I said yes but you don't act on it. I do believe he loves his wife dearly but I do look at him as weak now. So I don't agree that they don't love their significant other I just think they are weak.
2007-02-10 20:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Inquiring mind 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has their own sense of what it right and wrong.
For example in China - they ofter kill female babies. Many would find that appauling but every culture is different.
The cheater - risking somone's life with what is out there now is only thinking about themselves and not thinking about the consequences of thier actions. This is not uncommon in our very permissive society.
Wish the best to you.
2007-02-10 20:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
even if it is protected sex it is still way wrong. Usually they do it because they dont care, some have mental problems and can't control it and need to get help (I think this is crap though), and others just get down and in bad situations and make the wrong decision in a weak moment that they regret for the rest of their lives.
2007-02-10 20:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by HereIAm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree 100% with you. My husband cheated on me and still professes that he loves me.....I don't believe him nor will I ever believe it. In my opinion if your marriage is that unhappy or bad GET OUT, nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
2007-02-10 20:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by be happier own a pitbull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋