what would you do if your mom hates you and you got in a big fight and it ended with you saying?

Question

I can not take it anymore (years of abuse from her and siblings (grown) and then you were upset because of multiple happenings yesterday and you had no sleep two days so real emotional and said after she criticized you yet again when you told her you were a basket case and been on phone to suicide prevention three hours (not suicidal just highly upset) and said "I'm done..I am never calling you again unless you call me (which she never does) and this was after you called earlier and you were trying to apologize for being upset but it ended like this. Mother is dying 6 months..reconsilation attempted (only by me multiple time) but she never will talk when you call visit (too tired/too sick/too busy/just walked in etc).

Then after funeral for aunt yesterday and finding out several awful things 3 sibs said behind your back, you were crying and mad all night and losing it and wishing for death and then you need to get away and so you are going to a political potluck you've been waiting

waiting two months for as new building opened and got dressed, did a flower arrangment, made food and then could not find your keys and after 435 minutes remembered it fell in back seat of son's car and went you got out he had autolocked the door and you could get it but he was fixing something and we both forget..can't contact him till at least Monday..need to leave..called mom back as brother who has the only key lives there. me is John there her no click..tried calling back phone at least 300 times she wouldn't answer then she hung up everytime I called I am on verge of hysteria..

.she hung up on mre at least 10 times..she has no idea if it is an emergency. Finally got other brother and he drove over. Brother with key came back and he refuses to talk to me or drive the key here even though I said I'd pay him 10 which is a lot for me as I am disabled and extremely poor. He refused to talk to me why I do not know apparently he did not talk to my mom..asked him why he says he refuses to bring it and he won't talk to me when I am hysterical..I said tell him he does not have to talk to me leave key in car..he refuses then my mom started screaming (angry I guess) and he said he'd call me back, I told them I had to do a presentation and was needing to get out but other brother says I am covered in paint and can't come..call you back..so far no one did..what should I do..I am so starting to hate this family and wishing for death more and d mroe but won't kill myself..what should I say I am hurt noone cares and maybe I should not answer the phone?? Please advise.

she's 77 and acting like she's ten..

Answer 1

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Honey???
you need to take a deep breath!!!

how old are you?
your mom is 77???? she's not gonna change.

you cannot make her love you.

you cannot please an unhappy mother.

you cannot control your siblings.

you need to take care of yourself.

please call and talk to someone who will listen.

1/800/suicide
please call, they will listen even if you are not thinking those thoughts.
there are counslers to help you thru this hard time in your life.

you need to meditate, take a hot bath, and ignore you siblings and your mom is not a nice person to you! she is TOXIC!!

if you put your hand in the fire and get burned, don't put your hand in the fire!
**that means, don't call her and expect her to be nice to you when she's not nice to you!!*******************

look in the phone book under community services and find a grief support group..

you are in a lot of pain and need to talk
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Answer 2

aw damn girl... you need to seperate yourself from your family abit... Depending what is killing your mother maybe affecting her now although if you say its been going on for years... about being locked out you should get another copy cut and leave it somewhere where no-one knows for emergencys like this... I have read a couple of your other questions, and you have had a very interesting I guess you would say life, and I wish I could help you... Just try to focus on yourself and your son and when people critisize you just remember that you are a good person and be proud for everything you have achieved and everything that have fought through you will come out of this a better and a stronger person, good luck babe keep holding your head up

Answer 3

sweety you have to live your life no matter what the situations. GOD would not put more on your plate then you can take. Someone out there will love and respect you for who you are. The time will come just be patient.

Answer 4

Go get yourself profession help