When you separate/divorce, what do you do with the photo albums?
I personally don't want them,(ex, I'm sure the same, tho haven't asked, should I?) not out of bitterness, just now as time has gone on, they are no longer relevant in my life anymore.
We have children,should I hang on to them for them?
It just seems wierd, simply putting them in a rubbish bag doesn't quite feel right.
Still, even tho they are out of sight, they nag at me somehow.
What does one do with them?
2007-02-10 11:09:50 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That was me told off, well and truly wasn't it? I see I should have been more specific in my question,I actually meant the wedding albums. Of course I would never think about trashing the baby photos, in fact they each have thier own. It's just a theme for me as I have recently moved house for the 2nd time in a year,both times I had to move and find space for them. As we have much less space,I've had to be ruthless and get rid of a lot of things I inherited that I don't really want from the marriage.I would have liked to start afresh (past is past) but financially and practically, not very realistic.If it was just me, I think I would give them a ritualistic burial or something,light a candle, say a few words and put them from my mind. That's why I asked on here as it's not only me. If ex wants them,well he would be welcome but I'm 99% sure he wouldn't.The kids would go along with whatever I do.Thanks to all the answers, the best idea for me is to rid of the bulk and the rest put aside.
2007-02-11 00:21:30 · update #1
Put them in storage or possibly at your parents house until your kids are old enough to take them with them when they leave the nest. (if they arent already) I still have my wedding pictures and stuff in a box where i keep all my pictures. They dont bother me though. I guess i just figure they are a part of my past, and its not like i can forget it happened. I learned alot during that time and i dont regret it.
If they bother you, give them to the kids. They will like them even though things didnt work out. You guys did something right....your kids. Just think of it that way.
Good luck.
2007-02-10 11:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I can hardly believe you have asked this question! Even if YOU personally or your ex never want to look back at your children's baby/child photos, how can you think of getting rid of them. It would be totally wrong and totally uncaring. You were with that person, you had kids together..... this is their past life you are thinking of disposing of..... probably the only record they have of it! You should DEFINITELY keep them - they are not going to eat anything are they?? Maybe you are bitter at the moment, but there will come a time when you want to look back.
2007-02-10 23:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can sit down with your kids and ask them what pic-
tures they like and keep them, if they are old enough to
understand, and if not then just keep a few good selected
ones maybe of their father and you togeather as after all
they are just pictures to you now, and the rest you can
burn as to completely erase them physically so as no-one
can see the past and scatter the ashes to the wind so as
to complete the process. This is only a suggestion and
It might even make you feel better because you will have
been in total control in getting rid of the pictures that you
did not want to remind you of bad memories.
2007-02-10 11:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of current circumstances they are still a part of your life and therefore your children's heritage, and when you are no longer here on earth your children would love to see them so my suggestion is to put them in a nice album with names of all the individuals, dates etc as best you can remember and then store them away somewhere out of sight so you no longer have to visually see them. Your children will be extremely grateful to you that you did this especially for them.
You could add something like this:
To the Past, Present and the future
I dedicate this Book.
To the past because I came out of it
To the Present because I live in it
To the future because my children shall inherit it.
Then a personal note.
Do hope this will help you. Good Luck & God Bless.
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2016-11-03 02:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by atalanta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long you have been separated/divorced probably correlates to how you are feeling about those photos lingering around. I can completely understand-as I'm separated and divorcing with children in common. I will always keep the photos around for my kids. When the day comes that they want to remember those times or see a picture of "Dad"--I'd hate to say that I threw them away because of my bitter feelings towards him. I don't like looking at them either...they hide away too, but my kids are very young. So please, please....don't throw away the good memories captured in photo, if only for the sake of your kids.
2007-02-10 11:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by lann977 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't throw them away. I have been married twice and both ended badly, my first husband and I both tore up our wedding photos and now my poor daughter will never see them. When I kicked out my second hubby I put all the photos, memorabilia into a box and put it in the loft for my son. I also am keeping the rings to pass on to my children. After a while the photos won't bother you anymore.
2007-02-10 11:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by Dimples 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep them for your kids sake...Eventually they will want to look back. I had a son in high school and actually dont even communicate with his bio dad but i have saved all the pics and letters because i am counting on the fact that one day he will be curious. Put them in a box and in your attic or basement until the right time.
2007-02-10 11:14:13 · answer #8 · answered by cherokee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hummm, tough. Photos are usually a record of happy memories, events we want to remember. Divorce or Seperation tends to put a different view on them. I know what you mean though, Ive personally put mine into a box, labelled for my Daughter in our loft. I dont think about them or anything. I just didnt want there to be a space in the photo record of her life.
2007-02-10 12:45:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The photos capture better times, and you may currently want to deny these good times happened with your ex, and you may wish to expunge them to compound the idea that Ex=bad times, which you are using as a healing tool..."I'm better off without him" etc..
But in years to come, when you are comfortable with the end of the relationship, you will again cherish the memories that make up your life.
2007-02-10 12:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋