Before you have "mixed" children please think about this.?

Question

I am what I have tagged myself a "halfamerican" my dad was black and mom mom white. My adopted parents were black. (I am 30 now) Growing up I was never accepted by black kids (all the way through college) to be honest the white kids were more accepting. It was ok for my black friends to call me "Casper" or "Half Bake" or 50/50, but none of the white kids did that. It was fun since my adopted parents did not let "whitey" into the house, only black friends. I just want mixed marriage parents to think about the social issues their kids will face before selfishly breeding to "see what our kid will look like". I live in Los Angeles so it is not like I am speaking from a small town point of view. All of my mixed friends went through the same thing.

To: tonalc1

Maybe because I was adopted and my wife and I have two adopted children of our own I feel more passionate about people breeding to "see the result". If your REALLY love and want children why not adopt? They still take your last name so genealogy is not an issue. What is the reason then for not adopting, and my "narrow mind"?

Some people amaze me, name calling, "narrow minded", "self absorbed", "get over it". Don't you think white and black parents in the slavery days tried to teach their children "to look past it". You can teach your child whatever you want, but the kids they are dealing with in school (the majority) are not taught this so how does this help MY CHILD deal? As far as using my race and an excuse I have no excuses, I had idiot adopted parents that taught me everything wrong, I have a beautiful wife, 2 kids and a job as a producer of one of L.A.'s top morning shows. If you are not mixed child or a product of a mixed relationship then you have no business posting because you can't relate. As I have become older my color is not an issue as my accomplishments in life overshadow my mixed race. As a child and growing up you have nothing to fall back on except your appearance. And if you don't believe me then get involved in your children's lives, your missing it.

Answer 1

I think race-mixing parents are selfish. They are more concerned with their own pleasure at the moment than what their child might want. I know I would never have mixed race kids and I definitely wouldn't want to be mixed, myself.

I'd give reasons, but I'm sure all the close-minded, politically correct multiculturalists here would just whine about it and say it's racist, so I'm not going to waste my time.

Answer 2

You know, I agree with you actually.

Race mixing is what I like to call a cultural disaster waiting to happen. Marriages between two people of the same background (Whites, Blacks etc.) are hard enough to maintain these days. So its not just about the child's identity - which they will most assuredly not have - but the safety of the home and relationship as a whole.

However, should one person really and truly love another they'll take the chance that their marriage is going to crash and burn.

That being said, I would never consider entering into a relationship with or marrying a Black woman. If any PC freaks here want to call me racist for that then so be it.

@I hate white people: I almost feel sorry for you. You and me would have a real big problem if we saw each other on the street, simply because I'm White. That is just a by-product of your sad and wasted life.

Answer 3

I am in a mixed marriage and my daughter does not go through any such thing. She is well liked in her school and I am proud to say that she has not experienced any kind of racism. Now days prejudice is not acceptable in our society. If you were treated like that its because of the way their parents brought them up. We raise our child to love & have compassion. I allow her to play with any child that is of any race, as long as that child is respectful and of good character. She has friends of all different races and we enjoy each others company. That is what makes this world a beautiful place to live in. To be among different races and not thinking twice about it. I must admit people of different races like and respect my family and there is no other way I would want it. Life is cool. Oh yes, my daughter is very pretty but that is God's blessing and she don't think twice about it either. She's an O.K. kiddo you know.

Answer 4

What the hell are you talking about? What does being "mixed" have to do with not fitting in? Children will pick on anything that is different. That is life buddy. I have three biracial children and they are very well adjusted boys. Yes my oldest was teased once for being biracial, but he was also teased for being smart, and wearing glasses. I was teased when I was young for being smart, and having big lips. Kids tease, it is a fact of life. Being biracial doesn't make you anymore prone to teasing. Do you have any children? Have you been to an American school during this millennium? Well I can tell you that probably 15% or more of the children there are biracial. It is so commonplace now that I highly doubt they are teased anymore than anyone else. Like you said you are 30 which means you were in school during the 80's. That was a long time ago buddy. Things have changed, get over it!!!

Okay, children who are adopted are teased as well. I had a best friend in the third grade who was adopted and other kids called her an orphan and said she had adopted cooties. So people can preach the same nonsense that you are warning people not to adopt. The problem is not with biracial children, it is with bullies. So let us all just stop having children for fear that they will be teased!!! Give me a break.

OK you say "if you are not products of a mixed marriage don't comment" but your post was addressed to people who are considering having biracial children! So now why do you say for us not to comment??? I am very involved with my children. And my son was only teased once for being biracial and it wasn't by a black kid. Another kid was mad at him during a game of soccer and called him "black a.ss" and that wasn't even really about being biracial. And as a matter of fact he is sitting right here and he doesn't even remember the incident. I just asked him if he and other kids get teased for being biracial and he said "No, most of the kids at school are mixed." I also just asked him if he has a problem being mixed and his response, "I don't really care." So no I am not an authority on the subject because I myself am not biracial. But my son is biracial and he scoffed at your theory that children get teased more for being biracial. In his own words, "kids don't even care if you're mixed."

Answer 5

My grandma on my father's side is half white, my mother's mother is part Native American, her father is mostly Native American, and my dad's father is multi racial, my daughter's father is all white, and I have cousins that are half Mexican. Beautiful people, wouldn't wish they were anything other than who they are. There have been a few ignorant people that have called my daughter "that white girl", but those same people envy her mid-back length brown spiral curls. I was called Pow Wow and HItler... I know what its like, but I really don't care, I sum it up to jealousy. Little nappy headed bald girls pulling and cutting off my hair cause they had none when mine was near my waist.... I feel as if I hadn't gone through that and if I hadn't been born as I am, I wouldn't be where I am now. If I had been accepted by little ignorant ghetto kids I'd be in the same predicament they are in, no job, no education, standing in the welfare line..... I knew I was better, it showed by the way they hated me so much...

Answer 6

I am sadden by this. I have mixed relatives .They seem to be doing okay. Maybe they don't want to talk about it or may be it's the size of the town. I would never say that to a person or about a person. Then on the other hand black children are called names, white children are called names also.I think time is out for the name calling. No one made them self.

Answer 7

SAHM????? have not a clue what that stands for, hahahaha. that is an outstanding list to flow by technique of i imagine. i did not examine the reaction that has you so fired up nonetheless, it should be humorous in case you've been speaking about one among my responses, reason I do get harsh about youngster being pregnant, yet I lay countless blame on the mum and dad, not completely on the teen who were given pregnant. besides, i imagine human beings decide so harshly, and that i will admit i visit judge harshly as well, because having children is such an significant accountability. 17/18 years old is youthful to have a baby, yet that would not propose you won't be able to be an outstanding mom. I in basic terms discover it not uncomplicated to trust because i turned right into a bus driver for a even as and that i said the habit of extreme schoolers, and maximum folk, with 3 to 400 youthful ones interior the bus loop, acted like youthful ones, yet that is because they are. i could not imagine giving the accountability of elevating a baby to this boy who's were given the bus broom and is stabbing the neighboring bus with it via the bus window, that is not precisely grownup habit. he's not worried about the wear and tear he's doing to public belongings, he's not worried about the protection of himself and the different scholars. that is in basic terms one get collectively, yet i ought to offer you limitless others. That boy may advance as a lot as be an outstanding father, yet not in the present day, he remains a baby himself.

Answer 8

I suppose it depends on the area because where I'm from (Kansas), bi-racial or "mixed" children most likely weren't accepted by whites when growing up. Now, I think race relations are better, but we still have a long way to go. As far as the name-calling goes, that's just ignorance. Some may take it as a joke, but those are still hurtful words. My niece is bi-racial and I worry about she'll be treated by her peers. What ALL parents need to do is teach their children to respect everyone, regardless of how they look.

Answer 9

Being mixed hasn't seem to hurt Beyonce Knowles, Evan Ross, Tracy Ellis Ross, Hally Berry, Shemar Moore, etc.

You have to ignore the "ignoramouses" out there and get on with your life. If they didn't make fun of you because you were a half breed it would be because of something else, trust me.

Unfortunately the United States has no shortage of simpletons and numbskulls, which is odd considering all the education there is available to people in that country.

Answer 10

if you're ******* 30 years old you should realize that the attitude toward interracial relationships and biracial children is VERY different than when you grew up. i have mixed friends and family and i like guys outside my race as well and ive never heard of blacks having a problem with it nowadays. (im 17) as far experiementing....i dont think coouples are thinking about "experimenting". the first thought when you WANT a child is you want to create a human being of your own flesh and blood to carry on your bloodline and legacy. and there is something awesome about seeing the baby and how it looks like either parent - you think "wow ive just created a beautiful human being" dont be so narrow minded and ignorant sweetheart. i agree more ppl should adopt but going as far as discouraging ppl from reproducing their own offspring?? i dont think so...

Answer 11

Well, I think times have changed a little more since when you were a kid. nowadays, it seems like 1/5 kids is mixed. and children are more accepting of it. i personally, never made fun of the mixed kid, and i still think its cool to be mixed. Hands down, mixed people are the best.

When you can take the best out of each culture and create one life. Its amazing.