I am a Christian. Should I marry someone who is a Christian,but doesn't go to church consistently?

Question

He does believe in Jesus and God, but he is not active in a church or a church member

One of my friends just got a divorce from a minister in her former church. He physically abused her and never practiced what he preached to others. This man in my life has a good, caring heart and would never hurt anyone. He is sincere in all he does. He is a better man than my friend's ex, yet he doesn't go to church consistently. Does that count for anything?

Answer 1

I would want my Husband to be as committed to the church as I am. I believe in Sunday school, Morning worship, Sunday Eve, Service and Wed. night Bible study. I believe in tithing. I would want that same commitment from my husband.To many people say "I am a Christian yet they don't go to church and rarely open their bibles. Just to say I believe in Jesus and God does not necessary make one a Christian one must live the life.We should be equally yoked with our spouse Why won't this good man of yours go to church? will his lack of wanting to go to church keep you away? Do you think there is a chance he will go with you if you ask?Is it important to you that he go to church?.I am sorry to hear about the divorce of your friend.Don't let one bad apple scare you off from a good dedicated man who will go to church with you.

Answer 2

I don't think that you have to go to a specific building to be saved. Some people are not into fellowship, especially since so many churches nowadays are more about their own doctrine than the teachings of Christ. Many churches seem to be concerned more with the monetary health of their parishioners than their spiritual well being. I know a lot of Christians that have lost faith in the church, but not in the Lord.
Remember, "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." Matthew 18:20

Answer 3

No you should not. You should want to marry someone you're equally yoked with. The Scriptures tells us, "Not to forsake the gathering together with other believers". This includes attending church on a consistant basis. Christians should also be a member of a Bible believing, Bible teaching church. We need to pay our tithes, pray for other members, and be of service to the church. Sooner or later his not going to church will start interferring with you going. If he's not interested in attending church, then what is he doing with his time? Do you want to be in subjection to a man who is not giving to God what's due Him?

Answer 4

If he really believes, I say yes go ahead and marry him. If church is important to you and it's not to him, then there may be problems later on with children, etc. I married a man who would not go to church with me until last year after 27 years! That was lots of lonely Sundays!! Many times I wouldn't do social things with my group because I didn't feel like I really fit in. I wasn't single, or widowed and all the marrieds always had their spouses with them. God bless!

Answer 5

As long as he's respectful of you and your faith and trust in God I don't see why not. He may follow your influence and become an active member over time. Continue to pray to God to change his heart in His time; that he will devote more time to the church. Talk about it to him, maybe ask him to attend certain functions, like a friends and family type of service, to get more comfortable being at church. "Church Folk" can be pushy and scare him away so he will have to become active at his own pace.

Answer 6

What matters more than his church attendance is how compatible you are. Someone who goes to church every week insn't necessarily as religious as someone who never goes to church. If you are compatible on a spiritual, ethical and moral level, I don't think it will be a problem. If you are close to marriage, think about how you want to raise your children, whether you want them to be baptized and if you want them to attend Sunday School. You may want to discuss this with your boyfriend so you're on the same page now.

Answer 7

Well, the bible tells us we reap what we sow.
If I chose someone who didn't go to church before I married them, I might think, I'll change them later, but probably that will not happen. it's hard to find someone perfect. I'm not so I can't expect my wife to be.

do you love the guy? that's important. more important. does this guy love God? you can't marry him then brow beat him into church.

why doesn't he enjoy church? you do.

if he say's too many hypocrites , tell him to look in the mirror.

we're all hypocrites.

why not find a guy in church, who loves God, and loves you?
easy to say, hard to do.

Let me know how it goes, [e-mail]
blessings.

Answer 8

you don't have to be active in the church to be a Christian... the Bible says "behold that when two or three are gathered in my name i am in thy midst agmongst thee". that in itself is having church even if you aren't in the actual building. if you love him and he loves you than that's what matters most. not if he goes to a worship sermon or not

Answer 9

Find someone whose commit matches yours. The man is supposed to be the priest in a Christian home. He's supposed to be the spiritual leader. You want to marry someone who can fulfill this responsibility.

Answer 10

I understand people have strong religous beleifs but come on just because he doesnt go to church your questioning if you want to spend your life with him?? you must not love him like you think you do....