My two best friends always demand my undivided attention.They don't want me to hang out with other friends by myself,without them,they get bored when we talk to other friends of mine,whom they also know(!!).They want to go to the same place all the time,but literally ALL THE TIME,just because they wanna run after 2 imbecilles they like.I've followed mani times,but I'm sick of it.I never get to do what I want,and whenever I object,they get offended?What's this?I have other friends to attend,and they demand that we always go out together.I think they love me and I want to be with them but not SOLELY!I'm suffocating in here.
2007-02-10 10:11:22 · 12 answers · asked by Demi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like you need to set boundries for these friends and let them know that while you do love spending time with them if they don't start doing stuff you like too then you won't be hanging out with them as much. Make sure they understand that you'll still be friends but that you need you time and if they can't handle that then they aren't very good friends.
2007-02-10 10:17:29 · answer #1 · answered by hotmamainmi1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like they are just controling and they are doing a good job with you. You need to tell them you want to be friends but also want to do other things not just what they want to do. ANd if they get offended well get new friends and drop them, they will know later how good of a friend you were, But you need to tell them now and if they get mad move on and forget them.
2007-02-10 10:20:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot, I'd tell them that I had some kind of sickness that I had to stay home every day after school to rest--with no company. Or at least, I'd tell them I was grounded--and not allowed company--or even phone calls!
They have absolutely pushed this too far, and they're lucky that you're even concerned with not offending them by this time.
2007-02-10 10:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do something about! Talk to your friends and if they can't deal with you spending time with your other friends. Then maybe it's time to do your own thing. You go to the places that you want to without get some one pissed off at you. Have fun!!!!
You may find out that your girlfriends might end up going with to your favorite place.
"Take Care'
2007-02-10 10:19:03 · answer #4 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHy are you letting them rule your life? You are in charge of yourself. Stop allowing them to make you so unhappy and frustrated. What's the worst thing that could happen, especially when you refer to them as imbecilles.
2007-02-10 10:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by mtnflower43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, selfish ones aren't they? Well, no matter, you have a mind of your own. Break away if you need to, there's nothing wrong with that and if they object, oh well.
2007-02-10 10:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Pontius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they dont have anyone else to hang with then they are being selfish and need to be told about it and if they just really enjoy your company then you need to realize that maybe they look up to you... dont disappoint them you must be a great friend
2007-02-10 10:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by HH72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them it's your turn to decide what to do and do whatever you want, don't let them boss you around. Unless you're a pansy you should be able to do it, you need to stand up for yourself.
2007-02-10 10:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell these friend that you need space and time away from them, and if they can't understand that, then it is their loss.
2007-02-10 10:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them they are acting very immature and need to stop.
2007-02-10 10:16:48 · answer #10 · answered by 3120johnsons@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋