I asked a friend to be part of a charitable business my husband and I run. The only requirement was that they attend 2 mtgs/yr. This person works for herself, her son is in school, then in daycare until 5:00 pm. Our meeting was in Dec. In Oct prior, she was already telling us that she could not attend because of work (she works for herself and can arrange appointments anyway she chooses to). She then said she could attend by phone (after she told us she had to work), we do not have the equipment for that. She asked us to move the meeting (when the other people involved had already arranged their schedule), childcare was the next issue (she would have been back long bef). The meeting went on without her. She then sent a vengeful letter berating me in every way she could think of simply because I had reminded her that her only obligation was two meetings a year, and if she could not uphold that responsibilty, perhaps she should step down. Was I wrong to do this?
2007-02-10
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This women you speak of seems to be very self absorbed.She has no problem with inter fearing with other peoples schedule,knowing all along she has no intention off ever attending.I would respect her more for just coming clean and admitting she does not want to be involved.You went out of your way for her,and you were nicer than I would have been.You were right!!!!!
2007-02-10 10:20:37
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answered by RhondaJo 2
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2016-12-04 00:30:16
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answered by Anonymous
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No you were not wrong, two meetings a year is not a big responsibility if she was really interested she would of been there. ingnor the letter she doesn't really know what she wants and you can't change a schedule when there are so many people involved. She was given the conditions and is trying to reverse the responsibility back on you and its her. Feel good that you did the right thing, ignor the letter and do your best for your chairitable organization. Its not your fault and she needs to prioritize what is really more important. Take care Heather
2007-02-10 10:16:31
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answered by Anonymous
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Of course not. You gave her notice, and she did not respect that. She can't expect you to run your business around her schedule. She will probably get over it, just try not to make it any worse by fighting with her. Tell her calmly that you tried your best but the schedule was set and you are sorry she couldn't attend. She still has one more meeting right? Well, tell her to go to that one and make sure her plans are set ahead of time.
2007-02-10 10:14:15
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answered by bluefairy421 4
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No, you have every right to notify her of her obligations. It seems as though she is not taking them very seriously. Maybe if you tried to explain to the person that the meetings will continue without her being present and if it continues to be a habit, discuss it at the meetings. I wouldn't rule her out as a friend unless she does anything directly to you.
2007-02-10 10:17:35
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answered by Jamie 2
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You could have arranged for a conference call port through a website called Freeconference.com. Obviously she wants to be involved, but has a lot of obligations. She told you up-front that she could not make the meeting on the date you had set. It's not like she canceled at the last minute. You don't know the entirety of her obligations, and you don't know what it's like to have to do it all on your own. I think you went overboard. Here's the website for the conference call capability. All you have to do is put a phone on speaker, and she can dial in to the conference call number. If you're trying to run a serious organization, you have to be able to accommodate such requests.
2007-02-10 10:17:13
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answered by artemisaodc1 4
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No, you were perfectly right if she is in a high position in your organization and she can't even show up to any meetings and keeps making up excuses then you are right and she should step down from her position until she earns it back or something like that.
2007-02-10 10:15:12
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answered by ? 2
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Step down?
FIRE HER
take a vote and REMOVE HER
You know good and well that you were not wrong.
You dont need us on yahoo answers to confirm that for you!
She is a bytch so dont be her doormat!
Sounds like she is single and now you know why.
Sounds like she works for herself because no one could work with her.
why would you want someone like that working with you anyway!
It is not fair to you or the rest of the people that are on the board.
YOu owe it to them not to ASK her to step down but to REMOVE HER by voted if needed.
I wouldnt even tell her.
if she does not show up how would she even know.
p.s. what did you see in her?
2007-02-10 10:15:42
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answered by onestepbeyond 2
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Nope you did everything right. What did she want you to do?! You let her know way in advance and only 2 meeting a year gesh sound like laziness to me. Perhaps she only wanted any beneifits (like tax right offs or w/e) and didnt want to put forth any effort.
2007-02-10 10:28:54
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answered by christmas382000 3
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No. I'm completely on your side. She doesn't really seem to want to take part, and once she's lost the position she starts hesitating and gets crazy over it. I think she's overreacting. >_< You should be open to her, and ask her to be open to you, because at the moment she sounds mysterious, and you seem like you have no idea who she is anymore.
2007-02-10 10:15:34
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answered by Nightwolf 4
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