My parents disapprove of my boyfriend and hes leaving for college in a week, I love him a lot and we have an amazing relationship, my parents have made me promise that I'm going to break up with him by the time he leaves for college. They say they have a strong feeling he'll become really clingy and I won't be able to get rid of him, his parents live in another country so I'm kind of the only one there for him, I can see where my parents are coming from and they're probably right. I'm in my last year of school this year and don't know where I'll be going for college next year, during his holidays he'll be going overseas to be with his family - is there any point in us retaining our relationship? He's my best friend and I could not stand to lose him completely. I know I'd be breaking his heart but I'm torn between my parents and him, what should I do? I feel forced to end it but how could I ensure that we stay close as friends?
2007-02-10 10:08:28 · 10 answers · asked by tamahere.ballerina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We've been together for six months now, the longest time we've spent apart is a week - and thats hard enough
2007-02-10 10:10:36 · update #1
Don't listen to your parents! If you really love this guy, and you feel like you would die without him, keep up with the realtionship!!! If your parents don't like it, then that's their problem. They obviously don't respect you enough, or think your mature enough to make your own decisions. Your a big girl now.
2007-02-10 10:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by The PUNK Goddesssss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I left for the military when I graduated and left my girlfriend behind. The best thing to do is be open and let him go and experience college. If you keep in touch fate will bring you back together or you'll at least be friends. Being in a long distance relationship rarely works out. You both should date and have fun until you are ready for college. By then your answer will be clear. Then decide if you want to attend college close to him or move on.
2007-02-10 10:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by transam79ccnc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make a promise like that to your parents... Its not their issue, and they shouldnt be asking you to promise them things, like you are a child.
You should however, break up with him... he needs this time to become a man, and become independent and experience other people.
You need to do the same..
Of course stay in touch as friends, but it is likely that you two will grow apart, and move on in your lives.
It is the natural progression of life and there is no sense in trying so hard to make it work.
If you are meant to be together it will happen much later down to road.
Expand your horizons and open more doors for yourself.
You will have other best friends and so will he.. he will be sad right now, but it is for the best, whether or not he likes it.
He needs to be pushed out of the nest to figure his own way.
2007-02-10 10:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're parents are right. Not only is he going to away to college, which really changes your life style. But, when he's done, he will go back to his family overseas. Even if you continue to see each other, things probably won't end up working out anyway. He goes overseas, then what are you going to do? Leave with him? Then your parents won't have their daughter. I know you feel forced, but your parents are only doing this in your best interest. They do it because they love you.
2007-02-10 10:12:18 · answer #4 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty typical. Unfortuately, if you stay together, you may still end up breaking up. Long distance relationships are difficult. He will be meeting a lot of new people. Normally I would say try to keep it up if you really care about him.
2007-02-10 10:11:38 · answer #5 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds hard to deal with but why don't you talk to him and in all sincerity tell him what your thoughts and fears are about...all that you wrote in your question, that you want to be sure that you'll stay close no matter what distance will separate you... One way or another life must continue and you are still so young!
2007-02-10 10:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Annabelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, dear , to lose a guy is not so bad, you can find another one,but once you lose your family...you are doomed! Overall parents usually have more life experience and know what is best for you in most of the cases!
Why to hit your had on walls if you know for sure it`s made of bricks!!?!?!
2007-02-10 10:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by Aynat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already have a way out
remember he is leaving during holidays he will be leaving to be with his family, so relax the relationship will fade on its own
2007-02-10 10:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to end it now but it won't last. e will be around other girls and just stop calling you so it would be easier for you to break up now and just remain friends. If it is meant to be you 2 will meet up again.
2007-02-10 10:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by CctbOh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents you want to continue the relationship but not think about taking it further for a year
2007-02-10 10:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋