I've always wondered... If you are married, who do consider first in your life (besides God, if you are a Christian), your husband/wife or your children? Because you love your spouse, you fell in love with them, but you gave birth to your children (or men... you "made" your children.) What do you think?
2007-02-10 09:43:29 · 11 answers · asked by juliefan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my children without a shadow of a doubt, my husband will always come second to them until they are old enough to take care of themselves. and i hope he feels the same way about me, though none of us will ever have to choose one or the other
2007-02-10 09:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by sue brew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is too easy... If you are a woman.. you love the children more.. If you are a man.. you love the wife more. Its all about chemicals and until you have a baby and want to kill anybody who gives your baby a germ.. you don't want to believe this.. but it is a magical thing that happens to women at the exact time of birth. Yes we still love our man.. but don't let him burp the baby with too strong of a hand or we'll whisk that baby away for some soft hand burping.. Men don't experience this profound chemical/mental change at the exact moment of birth.. when they get the male protective change is when the world starts hitting on the child.. then most men feel that they should do 'something' to protect the child.. but usually don't know what to do.. some men are good at relating to a child when the child learns to speak.. then they try at communicating.. Good luck on finding a communicator.. :)
2007-02-10 17:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should honor the pact you made with your spouse at marriage. But you've brought new life into the world and it's more important to nurture your babies. Your love of your spouse will never change but, children are the exclamation point. There's going to be nothing but good memories throughout the years to deepen the love for your FAMILY.
2007-02-10 18:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by jtjt60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first promise in marriage was to God and your wife, this was in your vows, your second promise is to your children. Wife then child it is normal and very honest...don't feel guilty because your wife comes first, this is not something that you tell your children it is just the way it is. Take care Heather
2007-02-10 17:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says in the bible to love god first then your husband and then your children
2007-02-10 17:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a healthy happy marriage you shouldn't have to make a choice between partner or children. It should all be part of the one package.
2007-02-10 17:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say children, just because your husband, although he is though marriage part of you, your kids are litter ally a little piece of you and your husband, and I just think that they are more important that way.
2007-02-10 17:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by ♠ Joanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is number one. My children are a product of that union, therefore, they are secondary.
2007-02-10 17:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say my children. It's probably a selfish genetics thing - you see your genes passed on and you want to protect them above all.
2007-02-10 17:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by izzy9954 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there really shouldnt any reason to label them as a "place", your family and friends should have an equal "place" in your life... unless it comes to priorities like, your childs health over your husbands feelings then you need to "place" them accordingly.
2007-02-10 17:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by HH72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋