my x husband is very wealthy and has investigators all over my boy friend and has said if i see him ever ever again he will take the kids,by the way 18yrs ago my boyfriend had a drug problem he found out about ,what do i do have not seen the love of my life for 3 weeksjust terrified i will lose my kids,i have filed for divorce!!
2007-02-10 09:32:54 · 11 answers · asked by patrick s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
me and the boyfriend have been together for 3 yrs so its not a fling my children love my new man and his children love me
2007-02-10 09:59:15 · update #1
and they love each other
2007-02-10 10:05:48 · update #2
until you are divorce leave him alone... Don't want to bring drama in his life because you can not handle your crazy X....
2007-02-10 09:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by Shonda 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In your posting you say your xhusband, but later you mentioned you are filing for divorce. So, I'm just guessing, but it doesn't sound like you are legally divorced. Consult with your lawyer about what your husband is telling you. You may need to get a restraining order against your husband. Right now he is probably very jealous and hurt, (thinking that he is losing you and the kids), so he is trying to threaten you and scare you. At this stage, I would take what he says seriously. Explain to your new love what is happening. If he loves you he will wait until you are legally divorced. When you are newly in love all you want to do is be with that other person, but dont risk losing your children for the sake of your new found love. Good luck.
I just read that u said your relationship with your boyfriend is not a fling. How long have u been separated from your husband, and why havent you filed for divorce before now, if the new boyfriend is who you want to be with? Is it because you are afraid your husband will win custody of the kids because of his money and your new boyfriends past history? Get rid of your husband if you are unhappy and start over from there.
2007-02-10 09:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off, he's not your ex until you are actually divorced. And that your husband has gone to this trouble, wealthy or not, shows that he is hurt by your actions. 20 yrs. is a long time to throw in the garbage for a fling that probably won't last through the rigors of divorce. Unless your boyfriend is thinking that you are going to come out of this with enough money for you to support his cheating a@@. Why would you leave your husband of 20 yrs. for someone with those kind of morals? Anyone worth knowing or loving is not going to be a cheater or someone who encourages anyone else to cheat. Hopefully your ex-to-be will get over you, not have to pay you a dime, get the kids (and raise them in a moral environment), and find someone who's worth loving.
The euphoric 'in-love' feeling you are experiencing now will wear off within a couple of years (or as soon as the money runs out) and you will be left crying over what you did to your husband and your children while wondering how you ended up the loser.
2007-02-10 09:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get where you're coming from, my fiance and I are also having a long engagement ( to finish school ) Personally, as a woman, I would not care what ring I got...the meaning behind the ring is more important... I'd get her the 1ct. With small fingers, that would look best (plus, not be too "bulky" for her to work with). I don't know Zales policies that well, but is it possible you can make your own ring? Then you can be in control of what diamond you want... If you can't, then I'd get te 2000 one...don't go into debt up to your eyeballs just to get a ring....you can always upgrade after marriage. With the 1200 you're saving, you can put that into a CD or mutual fund and save up for a down payment on a house (since it's a long engagement) Good luck to you both :) Congrats!!
2016-05-25 04:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you leaving your marriage for this other man? Do not be with him again until the divorce is final and once the divorce is final there is not much your husband can do about this. Wait until your divorce is final before seeing or being with this guy again and if this guy is the right guy for you he will wait for you. I dont feel however you can lose your kids over this especially if the new guy is not doing drugs anymore. You may also want to talk to a lawyer about this.
2007-02-10 09:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i just hope the boyfriend was worth it all.I mean too throw away a marriage what r u thinking?Unless your husband is a wife beeter or just plain treated you or the kids terrible i could understand completely.You know sometimes we think the grass is greener on the other side and alot of times its just not.Goodluck".
2007-02-10 09:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya right once you get a divorce you will leave the new guy. He is just a way out.
2007-02-10 10:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welp, here go my series of questions: Are you happy with your husband? Have you ever been in the marriage?
2007-02-10 10:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have done that before you found the boyfriend
2007-02-10 09:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by longhaired_jesusfreak 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.
2007-02-10 09:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋