talking to my ex girlfriend who I am trying to remain friends with i told her through a txt message that "my friend is having a party and that there are probably some hot guys there. im not gonna drink, but she usually throws good parties. wanna go?" several people thought that that was a jerky thing for me to say. why is it so jerky? i just wanted it to look like i didnt care (even though i am in love with her.), if she said that to me i wouldnt get insulted. please explain why it is or isnt jerky.. thanks
2007-02-10 08:43:35 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
the answer i got when i asked why its jerky the answer i recieved was: "it just is, and its just not you."
2007-02-10 08:47:51 · update #1
we just broke up two weeks ago.. which is why i have to hide my feelings. she didnt feel the spark and I have to take things slow if i want a chance at this working out.
2007-02-10 08:49:58 · update #2
should i apologize or just drop it? i wasnt trying to piss her off.
2007-02-10 09:01:34 · update #3
to be honest its a bit strange that you want your ex to meet hot guys but no i dont see any problem saying that to her if you have no issues with the matter
2007-02-10 08:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by mark a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys and girls have different views on everything. You would probably go to a party just because you knew hot girls were there. She, on the other hand, probably goes to parties to have fun, not hook up with hot guys. If my ex sent that to me, I would think he was calling me a skank and trying to say that I am just looking for hot guys to get with. You should tell her you are sorry about mentioning the hot guys part and was just trying to be a good friend.
2007-02-10 16:49:20 · answer #2 · answered by saram 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not jerky, it's kind of weird that if you are in love with her, why would you try to hook her up with other hotties, while you're gonna be right there? You should let her find her own hotties, this way you won't be hurt again!
2007-02-10 16:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rebeccamarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
".probably some hot guys there..."
.U suggested she needs you to find her a new boyfriend - an' it sounds like U & yr friend have been talkin about her. U don't get that???
2007-02-10 16:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kella G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it was jerky but txts can often get misinterpreted...
By the way: if you still love her, you should tell her.
2007-02-10 16:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by runningballerina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rather clumsy, not jerky ... and why hide your feelings ...
2007-02-10 16:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not mean but if you're in love with her I wouldn't be recommending hott guys to her.
2007-02-10 16:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Arielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we do sometimes say stuff that protects our own ego's, so we won't get hurt. u just don't want her to know u still care in case she rejects u.
2007-02-10 16:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it sounds fine to me. no reason to apologize. if she doesn't like it then i would just say tough. you have the right to do what you want to do without justifying yourself.
2007-02-10 17:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude what is wrong with that? It sounds ok with me.
2007-02-10 17:04:58 · answer #10 · answered by Emily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋