Given that everything else about this guy is cool. He doesn't use drugs, he isn't abusive... Just the typical "nice guy" who happens to not make a lot of money. Be honest. The question isn't whether or not it matters if the guy earns less than a woman, the question is about whether or not YOU would marry a guy who makes less than you. What if he makes a lot less than you? Would you be embarrassed? I'd love to hear your thoughts.
2007-02-10 08:42:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES, wholeheartedly! as long as he's not making less becase he's lazy and just wants to work part, versus full, time. as long as our needs are met, that's all that matters!!
2007-02-10 08:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by blondgirl324 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. If you are already at the stage where you are thinking of marrying that person, than whether you realize it or not, you have already over-come any misgivings that you have about him earning less than you.
It would not be embarassing, but you might have to tailor your own lifestyle towards his budget - even if the two of you split the bills when you go out. A 3 course meal twice a month may seem as perfectly acceptable for you, but if his bills are stretched it, it might be someout straining on him - so opt for something less expensive and you won't know the difference - because you'll be sharing it with somebody special.
Also, guys like to treat their ladies with a special something once in a while, so just accept that the special something he gives you might be worth less $$$ than what your girlfriends got, but will be a bigger committment on his part - and make it all the more special.
Eveybody can make money, but not everybody can find a special somebody to share it with - so count yourself lucky and go for it.
2007-02-10 09:15:12 · answer #2 · answered by baltimorestar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some of your *assumptions* are incorrect. Maybe the man is just in charge of the money, maybe the woman can cook, and maybe, just maybe, she didn't get all dressed up just for you! Say your assumptions are correct - well, he just got unlucky, didn't he? So many, many fairly attractive men are just weighed down by women who look oompa loompas, right. How can you judge a man the way a woman would? You can't. I might look at these couples and think "average man, average woman - no big deal." You seem very, very particular about women and their appearance. And you sound like a much darker version of someone else on this board. Hmmmm
2016-05-25 04:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did.We been married for over 14 years.He is a great guy.He is kind and compassionate.He is a man of honor.A man of integrity.A man with moral and family values.He does not use drugs nor is he abusive.Oh and in case you are wondering we were not with child at the time we married.I married him because I love him.The way I see it love does not come from a man's wallet or his bank account.So not only would I marry a man that makes alot less money than me.I did.I would not trade him for all the gold in California.
2007-02-10 09:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would but given my own previous experience, I would ask if he felt okay drawing up a pre-nup. I wouldn't want to be stuck with spousal support if things didn't work out. This is based on a near miss/personal experience. Also, no, I wouldn't be embarrassed to say what he did for a living. As far as what either he OR I earned, I don't generally feel it's anyone's buisness, anyhow.
2007-02-10 11:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Gal 35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If he's just starting out in a promising career, I'd stick it out during the hot dog and macaroni years for sure. But if he's honestly not ambitious, no I wouldn't give him the time of day. We wouldn't even have time to talk about marriage-he'd never get that far. I admire people with strong goals and the go-to to pursue them. I also would want someone educated. If he's a teacher, but doesn't make alot, that would be okay if he felt passionate about teaching and that was his dream in life.
2007-02-10 10:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
money shouldn't be the key issue if you love someone. there are plenty of fish in the sea if it that important. i would marry a guy that i loved if he made less then me and no i would not be embarrassed. what is wrong with people today. the amount of money you make is not as important as the person you love.
2007-02-10 08:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by lynnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if a man makes less than a woman. If a woman loves a man that is rich she is loving him for the money not for him.
2007-02-10 10:05:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! If a found him worthy enough to date and fall in love with. He is special. Of-course, I would marry him, he is almost perfect. And no one is perfect, few are near perfect. No drug usage, a cool guy, not psycho, typical "nice guy" absoutely. Have a great day. Great question. God bless****
2007-02-10 09:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he worked as hard as i do, i would. If he made less than i do cause he is a bum i'd leave his sorry ****. One thing, tho, if you are a really succesful woman, you are going to get bored after a few years with the "nice" guy. Talk from experience here.
2007-02-10 09:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would marry him. my husband, at one time did make
less than me. Was I embarrssed no. Its to hard to find someone
that is nice sweet and loves you. will be there for you.
I was with someone that had money, but was abusive.
So now I am with the sweet guy. poor but happy.
2007-02-10 09:14:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋