I am a sociology major so I know about relationships. I have done everythign. I have broke out of my shell and communicated often and about everythign. I have left him alone when he needed space. I have spiced things up when they were getting dull. He is currently in Iraq and I found out he has been "chatting" with another girl in a very sexual way. She sent him everyday pictures to masterbate to. I at least had enough sense to send him sexy pics to do it to. What really gets me is she is not attractive at all. I am not saying I am all that but she is not pretty at all. I am at least pretty.
2007-02-10 08:29:21 · 4 answers · asked by kandisue76 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Believe me, if you aren't seeing any type of effort from him, while you are trying so hard to "make things work", you will get tired..emotionally rundown, and you will keep trying to do other things that won't work. If he's not trying, and not even responding to your attempts, then it sounds like he isn't interested. Don't waste your time and effort on someone that doesn't appreciate or acknowledge what you are doing..ESPECIALLY if you know he is corresponding with someone else. Your self esteem will suffer. If you continue to chase after someone who isn't even looking back to see where you are, or coming back to see HOW you are, then don't bother. Find someone else that doesn't make you work so hard with so little return. Cut your losses.
If you are giving him "space" and he isn't trying to eventually close the gap, then he will drift further away... so........let him keep drifting out of your life if that is what he wants. You deserve better!
2007-02-11 07:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by catchernkeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say if you were married or not but anyways,if this was me I would make sure you opened up more telling him you were going to add abit of spice to your life too.Get yourself a boytoy!See, how he likes sharing~~but make him a hunk of a man...takes two to tango.he wants variety give him that and enjoy yourself too.
2007-02-10 16:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, stop being available all the time ... and consider a break up if this does not work ... you can't make someone love you no matter how smart,tolerant,educated and good looking you are. If he does not appreciate you, he does not deserve you ...
2007-02-10 16:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's looking for variety. I wouldn't put up with it that's for sure. If he's not putting anything into the relationship, why should he get anything out of it? Find someone who appreciates you.
2007-02-10 16:37:47 · answer #4 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋