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if they are indeed attracted to the same sex? i believe people are not born gay and it is a learned decision, so no need for the special rights.......

2007-02-10 08:18:45 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

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Speaking from experience I can guarantee you have only recognized one gay person for every 10 you've met.

For the most part if I don't want you to know I'm gay you're not going to know.

Take a look around there are quite a few straight people you would swear were as queer and $3.00 bill.

2007-02-10 14:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

Actually it is in exact psychology that most people discover if they are gay by age three. It's the same time that straight people realize they are attracted to the opposite sex that gay people realize they are attracted to that of the same sex. There are also studies indicating that a girl can suffer from lacking her other x chromosome and boys can suffer a lack of their y. These are usually the people that feel like they should've been born the opposite sex. Example being physically a man but feeling female inside. Many scientific studies have also been done that DO show proof of a link in genetics to homosexuality. I'm straight but have had college classes explaining this. I guess it's something that a straight person could never totally understand since they're not wearing homosexual shoes but how are they hurting you? Who or what a person is attracted to should be their choice and theirs only. Gay or straight. Different people are attracted to different things. Attraction is only an opinion and everybodies definition of what is attractive is going to be different. Cosmo magazine and the like are always trying to tell us THIS or THAT is what beauty is and what we SHOULD be attracted to. That if you are this tall you have to be this small. Then in the real world you have men that are only attracted to big women rather than Miss America. There are people out there that are only attracted to somebody outside their own race. A gorgeous woman will settle for a less than body builder type guy. The tall date the small and so on... It's soooo crazy. My point is somebody shouldn't decide for you who or what is attractive anymore that you should decide for someone else and you shouldn't sterotype either. Not all gay men act feminine and not all gay women act masculine.

2007-02-10 09:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Eulalia 3 · 2 0

You have come to a conclusion based on an opinion not fact. This type of logic is no different then those who had believed that people suffering from mental disease were possessed. It was not until research had been done [and I mean real scientific research, not the crap the anti-gay people are peddling], that it was proved otherwise. The research that has been done so far points the idea that it has more to do with how biology than a matter of choice.

Your question as to why gay men and women act like the other sex is based on gender identification and genetic factors. We learn gender identity through social interaction. Growing up we are taught what a man and woman are. Its quite complicated to discern how much of a role socialization played and how much of it is due to our genes.

2007-02-10 10:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 1 0

I was born gay.... I have always been attracted to women. I did date men to please the family.

How can it be a learned decision when I was not raised around anyone that was gay? Everyone in my entire family and friends were str8, untill my youger cousin came out that he was gay and a few years later I finally told my family and friends.

What special rights should hetero's have just because they sleep with someone that does not have the same thing between their legs?

What makes hetero's so special?

A hetero womans brain and a gay man's brain are simular.. Hetero women likes men, gay men likes men. Just as hetero males brain is simular to a lesbain, they both like women.
If you would actually do some research or atleast talk to others before going off making yourself look stupid as you did here, you might have a better understanding of what makes everyone different. A gay males hormones in the brain are like the hetero womans brain. Just as a lesbians hormones in the brain are simular to the hetero male..

2007-02-10 08:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It's more than you can absorb I think. Being gay is not a "learned decision", people ARE born gay. It's not that they are attracted to the same sex or act like the other sex, (as you put it), it is not a decision, it's a true feeling. I know a lot of gay people, three of my cousins are gay. If you look at gay people as "gay people", then I feel sorry for you and your "little" mind. You need to open your mind, then maybe you'll be able to open your eyes. Then again, probably not.

2007-02-10 08:39:34 · answer #5 · answered by cuddles 2 · 3 1

So being raised in an anti-gay community, people just decide they want to become something that is hated a lot? They would want to add such a hardship on top of any other hardships they might go through? Do you "they choose to be gay" people even think about all that? How many people decide... "you know, my life is another very hard and everything. I might as well choose to love the same sex and make life every harder. That's a great idea!" Seriously, very few people would ever do such a thing. Do heterosexual people choose to love who they do because they choose it or because it's what their heart is drawn to?

Yes, that last bit of the question did throw me off from answering the actual question.

2007-02-10 08:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

Being gay is a choice affected by environment, belief, social status, and even genetics, but none of these thing control the outcome.

The term gay is just that, a term. There is gay behavior, but it doesn't mean such a person has to continue that behavior or any other behavior.

I choose a straight lifestyle and am attracted to women, but I am infuriated by the notion that anybody would tell me that I don't have the freedom to do any different, and I am infuriated that anybody believes I didn't have to choose to be straight. I am equally angry that somebody who chooses a gay lifestyle gets the same kind of treatment.

Behavior is flexible, and if we could learn this our world would be SO MUCH MORE TOLERABLE.

Furthermore there will never be a body of evidence large enough to prove that genetics predetermine anything except potentials. Statistics can and will always be used to make any point that anybody is sufficiently driven to make.

People who argue the opposite are simply trying to deify science because they have been poisoned by modern life. It's just a tool, don't become one in it's defense.

I know people want to defend their feelings, but your feelings of needing justification are built on scars, not love. Love is acceptance, period.

As far as "special rights" are concerned... Gay or straight, it doesn't matter, there should never have to be "special rights". Once we give over to special rights for people, corporations will take that power and use them against us.

Freedom has been ruined by our limited concept of rights and responsibilities, which is now controlled by abusive financially controlling interests and which someday, I pray, reverts to a more natural, simpler, less violent conclusion. But this is as good of a forum as any for each of us to redefine the world, so let's get on with it...

Good question.

2007-02-10 08:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

I'm a straight guy, married, a lawyer. Let me offer this: I have no idea why or when or how someone "decides" they are gay. I have to assume there's some pretty strong inclination, because otherwise, why put up with all the crap that straight life throws at them? I think the "special rights" is a different issue (and far more complex than gays want to admit). Frankly, I don't think anyone needs "special rights." They just need the racists, bigots, religious fundamentalists and political extremists (ie: people who lack a reasoned argument / something more than just some rule or tradition) to step aside. If we all feel that we are getting equal treatment under law, we're more likely to seek change from within the system. [To find Peace, seek Justice] :-)

2007-02-10 08:35:42 · answer #8 · answered by bullwinkle 5 · 2 1

Um, I'm gay, my boyfriends gay, and we have tons of other gay and lesbian friends, all of us with the exception of one couple, all act the stereotypical way our sex acts. The stereotypical way homosexuals act like the opposite sex is often a product of society, a way for the gay community to distinguish themselves from the straight. If someone wants to act that way, that's great, it's a sign of comfort with ones sexuality.

You can believe that we aren't born gay all you want, but please realize you're wrong. Xq28 Gene, check it out, it is one of the genes that determines male sexuality. Just to let you know how well known this is, even wikipedia has a brief description about it, (and that's wikipedia).

You're basically arguing that anyone that isn't you, does not deserve rights (in regards to, gender, race, sexual orientation, etc...) because I mean you believe that those are all learned behaviors as well right?

(Learn things before you make statements)

How is homosexuality a learned trait when people never exposed to anything homosexual turn out to be gay, and people who are exposed to it continue to be heterosexual (Common sense).

2007-02-10 08:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Vantado 4 · 4 0

The evidence really does point to them being born that way.

You are right that sometimes they may have some traits of the opposite sex.

One thing that scientists and behaviorists have now that they didn't have in the past is home movies on videotape. In the past relatively few families made home movies.

Scientists are now able to see that, as very young children and toddlers, people who grow up to be homosexual behave a little differently (less feminine/masculine) than heterosexual children.

2007-02-10 08:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by reslstancelsfutlle 4 · 0 0

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