If you lived 5 hours from any family, and you were enrolled in college locally, your boyfriend of 4 years had desided to turn violent. He's the only one with a job, so you have no means of moving out, and no place to go locally to get away. He has lied to his family as to why there are problems between you. If everyday was misarable and overwelming. How do you get away? How do you stay focused on school? How do you rebuild your ego?
2007-02-10 08:15:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Call your family and explain to them what is going on.Family will be there for you.You can allways apply for more student loans to or see if your family can help you with housing while at school.You might want to be careful of the boyfriend normal people don't just turn violent it may be that he has found someone else and is trying to force you out without telling you about her or maybe he has been introduced to drugs.But whatever it is you need to get away from him.Good Luck
2007-02-10 08:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by sparky75us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you go stay at the dorms? You are in school there is no reason you should have to worry about things like that... Turn him into the local police and have him arrested is the first thing that you can do. That will at least by you 2 days. Then call your family and tell them what is going on, you are going to need someone to help you through this and who better than your parents? Baby you don't have to take this, you are far better than that, and if he can not respect you then pack your stuff while he is gone and just go. Pray to god for some direction and what what happens. You have friends talk to them and go stay there, but I would just explain to my school what i am going through and see if I can stay there. At least you will have some security. good luck...
2007-02-10 16:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where there is a will, there is a way. Seek answers from the Creator. Look into local agencies that can help you. You are a victim of domestic violence and Shadow, let me tell you from personal experience, your abuser will only get worse. Find a friend to stay with, get some kind of job so you can contribute and continue your studies. Your ego really has nothing to do with it. It will be destroyed if you don't remove yourself from your abuser.
Best of luck and many blessings to you!
2007-02-10 16:22:09 · answer #3 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shadow, do you have any friend locally you can turn to? Let them know that things are not well between your boyfriend and you, and that you need to leave the situation immediately. No matter what - you need to leave your boyfriend ASAP if he has become violent and possibly consider pressing charges. There is no excuse for that type of behavior.
2007-02-10 16:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get Out. Right Now. Leave! Go back home to your parents' house, move in with one of your friends, or go to a homeless shelter. Anything would be better than living with an abusive man.
2007-02-10 16:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by waltzorro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try part time job, see a counselor (colleges should have one), and repeat to yourself that the only salvation is within yourself ... Try contacting some shelters if nothing of this works for you ... No one deserves to be humiliated just because a violent partner is the only one with job ... He is going to get worse, you know ... and nothing you do can't help him ...But you can help yourself ...
2007-02-10 16:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a first step.this is for you if your serious about getting away.completely, moving out..In your phone book there is a yellow pages, look up domestic abuse information and treatment centers.Also check out the Human services organisations.Also crisis interventions.If they can't help you go home, miss a semester of school, get back on your feet both mentally and physically...Don't be a victim.
2007-02-10 16:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your parents! Let them in on what is going on. If you were my daughter I would be there in a minute, but I have lived that life. Get away quick it will only get worse the longer you stay.
2007-02-10 16:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mary B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd move back with the parents.
You'd only miss one term and that's better than your life of misery.
Even a P/T job and fewer courses might take you longer but what you're describing is hell.
Move out
2007-02-10 16:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
go back to family transfer to the school there, finish your studies, and don't fall for anything he says to u again. get some counseling, as no one deserves abuse, just stay focused on school, know that your future lies in your studies. u just got involved with the wrong man, u can get out of it but just don't go back to him ever again once u get away.when we let people control us and abuse us it does hurt our self esteem.
2007-02-10 16:30:23 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋