I am 25 weeks pregnant. I have HARD pregnancies and this one is no different. My husband has been working 2 jobs and leaving me with our 3 children at least 70 hours a week. I am always tired, swollen, and having cramping. I also have a low lying placenta that I keep spotting from. I just want to give up. I want to curl into a ball and sleep til this little one comes out. Am I the only one? Anyone else ready to just throw in the towell? Anyone else feel like they are not going to make it to their due date and don't even care anymore? Please.. I just need to know I am not alone and that someone else isn't thinking this pregnancy thing is fabulous! Thanks in advance~
2007-02-10 08:08:05 · 10 answers · asked by Mrs. Always Right 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
BTW... the two jobs is so he can have "extra" money. He is not using it for the family.
2007-02-10 08:09:52 · update #1
To the first answerer. Yes I know I have depression. I am on stuff for it. My 3 kids are taken care of great. They are NOT suffering in any way. I am done having kids after this one and the 2nd job did not come until after hubby and I tried for this one. Thanks... thanks for knowing the whole story and judging!!!
2007-02-10 08:15:31 · update #2
I have also had hard pregnancies (out of 3 i only carried one full term). I didn't even have any other children and I was ready to be done about the same time with my daughter (who was born full term). I was done, thank you for playing, but i don't wanna anymore. I couldn't sleep in my own bed, i had to sleep in a lazy boy. It seemed like everything made me nauseous. Whoever said that pregnancy is fabulous i wish they would have shared their stash with me. (My grandmother told me that she felt her best when she was pregnant and i wanted to knock her lights out.)
Ask a friend/neighbor to watch the kids for a couple hours and take a nap, shower, do your hair and makeup. Have a family member come and stay before the baby is born.
I'm sorry your feeling this way, and i know its hard to keep your eyes on the prize. Try to set smaller goals, set day by day goals instead. (like make it to the end of it without losing your mind, or killing anyone)
Much love!!
2007-02-10 08:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Kookie Momma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is absoutly wonderful that you have gotten this far! Pregnancies ARE hard! They are TRYING and the little things can really seam like a huge deal when you are in the moment. Think back to when you wern't pregnant though and things seemed like they were a bit easier to handle. As soon as this baby is here you will forgt how sucky this time was for you and revel in your family. You husband is wonderful for thinking that you guys need some "extra money" right now. Help him feel supported and say thanks. Have him help you feel wonderful and have him recognize all the hard work it is for you to basically be a single parent right now! I say, you are both doing a good job. Help each other by giving those pats on the back. In time you will look back at this time and be happy for it. I promise. :)
2007-02-10 08:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you stand for this? If my husband worked a second job and left me at home, pregnant with three kids so that he could have some extra spending money, I would divorce his sorry butt in a heartbeat. Then he can get a third job because that is going to be what it takes to cover the child support for 4 children!
2007-02-10 08:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a wonderful person for toughing it out through 3 pregnancies. You can make it.
Tell your hubby that he needs to step up and give your some down time. I hear those pregnancy massages are absolutely fabulous. I think a week at the spa isn't a bad idea, no?
(I thanked my wife after both of our beautiful little girls were born)
I know you'll make it. Talk to him about getting snipped. It might make you feel better making him squirm a little. :)
2007-02-10 08:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by Quinton1969 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you have every reason to feel worn out 3 and one on the way sounds like a Loretta Lynn song but just remember it will get better. If i were you get out and have some quite me time get a sitter maybe a family member and get out for a little while if money is tight then just window shop or maybe grandma and grandpa can take the kids for the day and you just have some nice veg-out-on-the-couch time for mommy
2007-02-10 08:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by lynx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 22:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I don't think it's depression
I don't see why you two are having so many kids seeign as how there isn't much of a father figure present.
Life sucks at times, start giving the kids more leeway, you can let them do w/e and spend a little time for yourself. I was raised that way and everyone who meets me compliments my mom saying how she raised me right...even though she did next to nothing for my social skills. Take a hour long bath or something, do what you love
2007-02-10 08:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that selfish of him
you need to put your foot down
get those children to a daycare so that extra money can be use for the family and start taking a rest
you do need to relax while you doing that start thinking about how you will spend that extra money
he may be working for it, but you deserve it
2007-02-10 08:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yep! you my frined is not laone many people have been tried of waiting and just want to give up! in this kind of situion seems like it has only one way out but this isnt it! girl go out and enjoy life! your husband needs the "extra" money for what exactly? (hope you can enjoy life) throwin in the towle is not right choice wait for your due date and enjoy the itime in bettween
2007-02-10 08:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by natsume_01_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are suffering from depression and it is very common. I am sorry you are feeling like this, however I implore you after this child is born to not have any more kids. It isnt fair to the ones you have and it certainly isnt fair to anyone your husband works for HIMSELF and not the family, and leaves you to do all the pareting. I will never understand why people continue to have children in these situations.
Good Luck.
2007-02-10 08:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by banderson 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋