i wish i could be more hard faced !!!?

Question

i always get told that i have a very nich nature.i wouldnt hurt a fly and dont like anybody to be upset or harmed.i now it sounds soft but it is just the way i am.maybe to soft for my own good at times as i always see the best in people.i answered a question about people being evil and alex!!! put that it was a load of rubbish.how would he now what i am like just because he musnt have a nice nature.is anybody else out there that is like me!!!

Answer 1

I have a good nature, people like me, i like me and to be honest i think more people should be like us.

Answer 2

Hi,

I think theres nothing wrong with u, being hard faced is not necceseraly a good thing, i think like anyone put in a position u could be forcful if u wanted. So u choose to see the glass as half full? Good on u i say!!!

Rx

Answer 3

I think something happened in your life that makes you back away from it a little.

We can compete a little bit, and in a friendly way, because we know that everyone else is too. Society takes care of the balancing - you won't get your way more than you deserve, trust me. In fact, even being a little competitive, you probably still won't get your fair share.

Relax, do what everyone else does; you won't go far wrong and you will enjoy it lots.

Answer 4

I don't think you need to be a cruel person, they are just annoying. Maybe you need to be more assertive which is basically having the ability to deal with difficult situations and people in a healthy way. Unhealthy styles can be passive people who get treated like dormats and can't release their anger in a direct way and aggressive people that loose their temper every 5 minutes and push people around to the point of bullying. A passive aggressive person when challenged will use manipulation or backstabbing to get their own way or release anger.
An assertive person deals with people in a firm but polite way. I had to learn the techniques myself and they really changed alot in my life and stopped me being bullied and treated like a doormat.
These include:

If someone has annoyed you find the ability to speak up, but don't loose your temper. Say things like "I can understand why you said some things , but I feel that you are acting unreasonably towards me", as opposed to "why are you doing this to me? this isn't fair, you don't care about anything but yourself" - this is accusing and too emotional which makes the situation even more out of control. If you feel like the person hasn't listened to you, repeat yourself using the same technique.
(the trick is to use "I feel/think" instead of "you are ****/unfair").
Also recognise that you have listened to the other person's point of view as it wins them over e.g. "I understand where your coming from but..."
Dont put yourself down all the time in conversation. This gives the impression of someone who doesn't care about themselves enough to love themselves which means your a walking target.
Learn a good posture and most importantly hold your head up when walking and talking to people. Look in peoples eyes with a steady and firm way thats friendly when talking. Dont speak to fast or too slow and keep the tone of your voice firm but friendly (really important).
Make an effort over your appearance - its important to look like you care about yourself.
Mostly, you need to get out of the pattern of thought that sticking up for yourself or having self-respect equals being cruel. They are totally different things. If you put up with people being cruel to you you are being cruel to yourself which isn't particuarly nice. Every person was born with the right to be respected. Cruel people are usually weak, insecure people and anything but healthy. If you have a kind spirit then you should celebrate that, but just learn not to be a pushover by being assertive. Cruelty will make your situation much worse.


There are actually assertiveness evening/weekend courses at local colleges where I live - maybe you should look into doing one.
There is also a very good book called "Self Esteem by Gael Lindenberg" which teaches you stuff like the above.

Good luck

Answer 5

lmao! dnt worrie, youre not the only one, i consider mahself pretty soft too! but its a good thing! have you ever heard of the saying "its not what you knw but who you knw" well if you only look at the positives in a person and accept people easily, for who they are, and dont judge them, its nothing to be mad about. i used to think like you. i used to think that its weird that im like this, being all nice and positive about people, while everyone around me bitches. well guess what! i have more frnds than those ppl who *****. so its a good thing that you have what ppl call a "rich nature". it could lead to nothin bad. believe me. love yourself for who you are. not many ppl are like you! not many ppl are so called soft. poor them! they dnt knw wat there missing!

Answer 6

Other than the typos, misspellings, bad grammar and lack of punctuation, you seem like a nice person. Relax.

Answer 7

what so you can be the same as all those Hollywood dudes who get punched, kicked, thrown about, stamped on, beaten all over but who, 2 seconds later still look sexy & hunky?
Oh! Come on, please, that aint like real life.
Hard people aint nice.

Answer 8

i love points. 2 please