i have been with this girl for almost 5 years. i love her with all my heart,we have a child together who is nearly 6 months old. about a year ago i lied to her about some things and she has been unable to forgive me. she says she will never trust me again and our relatonship is dead. she wants to leave and take my child with her to live her own life without me. i am a good father and i try to be the best i can for both of them. i have tried reasoning with her and telling her that her not liking me anymore isnt a reason to take someones child away. i mean i live for this child. not to mention im still madly in love with the girl. what should i do. i dont wan to lose my daughter or the girl i love. but she says she doesnt know the future and cant tell me how long she is going to say. am i doomed to lie awake every night wondering if il never se my child again. am i handling this wrong. advice please.
2007-02-10 07:48:52 · 5 answers · asked by homegrownbuddy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She has no right to keep your from your child regardless of what happens with the two of you. It sounds to me like she is playing mind games with you and using your daughter as a way to hurt you. Not a particularly mature attitude on her behalf. There is not a judge on the planet who will keep your daughter away from you on a permanent basis unless you are abusing her. I say end the relationship now in as friendly a way as possible and go to court for visitation. If not one day you are going to come home to an empty house with no way to find your daughter.
2007-02-10 07:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's consequences for the things we do in life. We reap just what we sow. If you're serious about this girl and love her as much as you claims, then why isn't she your wife instead of your girlfriend. You've been together almost 5 years and have a child together. You didn't say what you did, however it hurted her terribly. When parents don't live together, the child can't live with both. She can't stop you from seeing your child. You both need to go to family court so child support and visitation can be arranged. You two needs to seperate and get some councelling. Then make serious plans for the future. Shacking together is not being serious about the future. It's only for temporarily. Sooner or later, it's going to break down. You can't have you cake and eat it too.
2007-02-10 10:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to think about what is best for the child, as should you, and the ending of a relationship should not mean the ending of the parent's responsibilities to the child. You have a right to see your child unless you are a bad influence on the child or put the child in danger.
I can understand why your GF wants to run away from you, but she is being selfish by wanting to take your child away, too.
Of cours,e i have no idea what was the nature of your lies, but if I had to guess, I would say it involved either cheating, or an illegal activity.
Both of you need professional help for the sake of your child.
2007-02-10 08:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by DrRJP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems she's very hurt by what you did, and depending on what it is that you did, she may not want her child to be subjected to that kind of person, but I think some counseling may be good to just get to a civil relationship for the sake of your child...and do this before you two go your ways, counseling may slowly be able to get you 2 back together...if not she won't use your kid as a pawn and it will become a civil relationship
2007-02-10 09:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bet you have cheated on her...well you should have thought all of these before you do something like that.....the only thing you can do is give her some time to think....you did something wrong and now you'll pay for it...i don't think she's going to take your daughter away from you... now you should take it slow and try to earn her trust back...if you really love her you'll do it.....i hope the best for you and your kid......good luck
2007-02-10 07:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by anna gr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋