My muslim husband of 9 years married a woman behind my back we have two children together. This was so unexpected for me.I just found out he was married again two months ago.and yes he did this while we were still married and the woman knew about me she just didnt care. There was no known problems in our relationship.I went online found out some info about this woman nadia smith oakland ca I found out she has been to jail she is a bad woman for forceable entry .He wanted to be with me still i am not muslim i can not do this.I have been with him for 9 years and now he is becoming someone else he is doing things I've never seen him do he is becoming really volient he has called me bitches something he has never did while we were together he has attacked our 9 year old son.He has only known this woman for 2 months he acts as if I am the stranger now Who is he what has he become
2007-02-10 07:20:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
xxxxxxx b You are so right I have not been the best mom since this has accured. I have made the choice to leave him. He moved me out of the house we bought and away from my family into a different city. I am moving out and away from his control over me into my own home.I just wantefd to know who is he now because i swear to you he has become someone else
2007-02-10 07:35:19 · update #1
when men are cheating on u they become someone else, think that's really what hurts the most. think they become exactly like the one they are sleeping with. i was married for 10 years, and suddenly one day he began to change, he became someone i didn't even know, or like. best to get out of there, as there isn't a thing u can do, it will hurt u for awhile but after that u will realize u are better off. my ex totally became a different man, and life as i knew it was gone. the woman he became involved with even went so far as to come to where i worked to show me she was with my husband, and there was nothing i could do. but what is more important now is deciding what u want to do about all this, best to distance yourself and try to get on with your life, it will be tough for awhile but u will make it. they do change as i believe they are under a bad influence and theres no bringing them back, we don't really want them back anyway. yes i got treated like a stranger also and it hurt me more than anything.
2007-02-10 08:02:57 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHat is the question here?
Who cares who she is! Why are you wasting so much energy on HER? she is not married to you, HE IS!
Neither one of us know what he told her about you.
She is not the problem here, HE is.
Also, you ARE being abused.
why would you put up with this?
If he calls you a bytch, oh well but that he ATTACKED your 9 year old son...WHAT KIND OF MOTHER ARE YOU?
If A N Y man attacked my son, I wouldnt be on yahoo answers talking about it. I'd like to think I would be in the back of a squad car but at the very least, I would not have my son stick around for round two!
She can have him and I would pack his shyt to expedite the process if I decided not to stab him first.
If you know that she is dangerous that is all the more reason for you to leave because now you have to worry about HIM AND HER. He might be telling her what a bytch you are. What is to stop him from doing that since he doesnt mind calling you one to your face. So now she thinks that YOU are the enemy and maybe she will break in and help him kill you!
please leave him today.
you obviously dont know this man
he is violent to your child (more than enough reason)
has married someone else
calls you bitches
a better question is why would you stay?
guess you are going to wait around till he kills your son
Great mom you are!
2007-02-10 15:30:08 · answer #2 · answered by xxxxxxx b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the US it is illegal to have more than 1 wife at a time. If a man commits bigamy then he does jail time. I believe a person has the right to choose their own religion, but when the religious beliefs differ from the law than the law should precede. If a person comes to America and wants to live as an American then he should forfeit his religious rights when they go against American Laws.
2007-02-10 15:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and far most thing for you is to should think about the welfare of your 9 year old son. for that you had to do what ever is right and that include leaving him (your husband) and do not waste your time in trying to sort things out, they will NOT going to be easy for you, as you have to look after your son too. And i am sure you do not want your son to be part of all this. So i would suggest you to leave him as soon as possbile, and if possible try to move out of his sight also, i am not saying all these b'coz i am thinking you are women but why to waste your time, money and energy to sort out thing which l you know wont be solved by any means. Atleast try to move forward in your life for the sack of your son! I can understand how you are feeling, but keep in your mind about your SON...
2007-02-10 15:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by Scoute M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, my answer to you is to get an attorney. if he is hitting you go to a friends home and call the police. this man is commiting a crime by marrying someone else while still being married to you. file a police report. his other marriage is not legal as long as you two are still married. leave, go to family or friends that will take you in while you get yourself some help. call the 'United Way', they will help you if you cannot come up with the funds. this relationship sounds like it is over and he is abusing you mentally. PLEASE GET HELP SOON.
2007-02-10 15:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by Hi its me again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a Muslim, and i know that Muslim men have the right to marry another women while they are married, but the law also says that he has to be fair to both of them, treat them the same or not to go through it all together, but of course men forget this fact and just do it for other reasons.
i am really sorry that he has been nasty with you and your son, i cannot defend him nor do i want to, if it was me, i would leave him, it's degrading enough that he makes you feel that you are not enough for him, but to attack you and your son is more than any one can handle!
i should be fair here and tell you if you feel like it, try counseling, try finding compromising grounds that are accepted by both of you, but if he is not responsive, do what makes you feel better...
Good luck with everything....
2007-02-10 15:33:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jumana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to call the police if he ever does this again..Report him and get a restaining order.It will only get worse.
2007-02-10 15:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get this guy out of your life, or else he will continue to treat you that way! Good luck.
2007-02-10 15:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can lock him up.. it is illegal to marry a person while you are still married.. report it to the police and he will go to jail
2007-02-10 15:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by road runner 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT EVEN GET A MARRIAGE COUNSELOR GET OUT AND AWAY FROM HIM!!!!!!!!
2007-02-10 15:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋