how long do you think you should be boy friend and girl friend before you get marred ,, and do you think a couple should have sex at least once just to see what the other person is working with even though love is suppose to over come all a person who does not know how to comfort his or her mate will soon lose him or her ,,,right ??? you tell me
2007-02-10 07:08:26 · 6 answers · asked by PROPHET_83 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage is a huge commitment, until and unless you know what goes into a marriage you shouldn't do it. age does not matter.
sex is a personal choice, for both parties to agree upon.
2007-02-10 07:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting is fine. You will learn together what you like. Discussing it would be good. If you have NEVER slept with ANYONE - waiting would be absolute best. If you have had partners before, you need to discuss at least what you like and disklike. I think a year of dating and living in separate homes is good before getting engaged. It takes a good 6 months - 1 year to plan a weeding (statistically speaking). Take your time. Don't get married just so you can have sex. If that's all it is. Have sex now so you don' t committ too soon for physical pleasure. Most importantly - talk to your mate - and make sure you are both on the same path. Sounds like you have only been dating a couple months and are pretty young. You better hang tight and get to know each other MUCH better.
2007-02-10 15:17:50 · answer #2 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've known people that have known one another for 2 weeks and have married (30+) and others childhood sweethearts and the marriage lasted less than 5 years. It isn't how long you know the person but how well you get along and love one another. As for sleeping together to "try it out" wouldn't life be great if we could all of life that way...like, kids...I'd liked to have tried it first but dang, once those little rascals started popping out there was no stopping it...I can just see it now in the delivery room halfway through the labor saying "I no longer want to have this baby, we'll just stop it right here." or food is another good example...kids don't like meat and vegetables when they are young but as they grow older their taste buds change and for quite a few of us our diets change from Cotton candy and ice cream to steak and potatoes...life does not come with guarantees ( I wish they did ) just because you enjoyed someone in bed doesn't mean they are the right lifelong companion to you
2007-02-10 15:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should date a lot for at least a full 12 mos. and that's on the FAST side in my opionion. Take your time to get to know that person. What's the rush?
As far as the sex.... It takes time once you begin a sexual relationship to get to know what pleases eachother. That's the least of your worries b/c that's a relationship that you develop and learn together with time and communication.
2007-02-10 15:16:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~Me~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know each other until it is the best time for the both...there is NO time limit!! Sex does not matter FOR every day each of you can learn something from a book, friend, ETC. till the day you die! Single, married ...Love helps, knowledge is better.
2007-02-10 15:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have sex before marriage. practice makes perfect. how can you have perfect sex just one time? what if you went to the gym and wanting to lift 300 lbs? you have to start somewhere. a bf and gf should know about what marriage is, it's not the time before, it's the knowledge before that matters.
2007-02-10 15:21:35 · answer #6 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋