2007-02-10 06:38:28 · 31 answers · asked by kyla g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you just have to find something that you both can smile about. I say when he seems boring, randomly "wrestle" him to the ground...things will change after that.
2007-02-10 06:41:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is always the case. I am the type of person who bores easily, and so if that was the case, I'll never be in love. Every relationship gets to that point when you are just so comfortable with each other and there is nothing new left to learn that it's like, "now what". But I think it will always happen no matter who you are with. Maybe you guys should just try new things together, or do something you've never done before. I'm not saying you for sure are still in love, only you can decide that.
2007-02-10 14:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh good heavens NO!!! Love isn't and shouldn't be based on the "excitement" level. Don't make your husband responsible for your excitement level!!!! If you are bored, find something to do on your own.... get a hobby, join a yoga class, enroll in the local junior college..... explore your world that surrounds YOU.
Your husband will feel relieved that he is not responsible for YOUR happiness... You want him to pay more attention to you? You want to do more things together? Try this... just for ONE week.... try this.... be grateful for what he DOES do with and for you. Does he take out the garbage without being reminded? Say thank you. Does he care for the kids? Let him know you are grateful... I firmly believe that your relationship will improve if you start being grateful for what you have!!! HE will be amazed that you noticed the "little" things and the "excitement" will return to your relationship.
Change YOUR perspective of your husband's worth and you will re-discover the man you are IN love with!!!!
2007-02-10 14:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It just means you've fallen into a routine or a rut. You might need to spice things up a bit. Go on an unexpected date night or a weekend away. Try something new together. Just call in sick to work on the same day and spend the whole day together reconnecting.
Love is not always easy. Sometimes it is something you have to make a conscious decision to work at. Throughout your marriage, your feelings of being "in love" will come and go. But feeling "in love" is not the same as having feelings of love toward your spouse. True love exists when you can still be happy despite not being "in love" with your partner.
2007-02-10 14:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Lyndsey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
boredom can be cured by starting new things together! Take up new hobbies, join a dinner group, try out a new couple sport! There are ways to bring back a little excitement and conversation. The question is, are you both willing to try to do so!?
Every relationship goes through ups and downs and they take work. It is SOOO easy to get wrapped up in the hustle and bustle of life and then your personal life begins to suffer. Especially if you and your spouse don't work in the same fields or have many friends in common! It becomes difficult to relate when there is little that you do together!
If you want to save the marraige then try starting new things together! If he wants it to work as much as you, then you can both put forth the effort to make it work!
Good luck!
2007-02-10 14:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,it just means that you need a little spice in your life. I don't know how well your your sex life is or if it is just something in general than you and him need to discuss what you both what to do. I've been married for 18 years and after 5 kids things weren't looking to good, that's because I wasn't trying to do anything that daring. But once we started talking about what we want then I had to step up my game. Like we would play sex games....(example) He and I would pretend we didn't know each other and we would meet at bars and make I contact. He would approach me and we take it from there. It really depends on what you want. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. I'm sure he'll understand.
Best Wishes,
Kimberly H
2007-02-10 14:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No-No- & No......Everything loses its original appeal after a while. In relationships it is our job to renew the "shine". Communication is the key. Hopefully you can diplomatically but honestly share your concerns with your husband. And hopefully, he will listen with an objective ear to your thoughts. Above all, think outside the box, get creative with your relationship...here's a thought...create a date night that you and he will go somewhere to share the moment together. This is a night you will not include friends or family..it is exclussively yours. If your shy of funds go to a fast food place and share a milk shake. The main mission is to be alone and to be together. Go get 'em and good luck!!!
2007-02-10 14:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean "if you feel bored with your husband." No, you don't love him. Try some romance and see what happens. Give him compliments even if you don't really mean it.
2007-02-10 14:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO....you can still love him...u 2 just have 2 find things 2 do together 2 keep the marriage alive and interesting!!
2007-02-10 14:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it just means you need to do something interesting. I get bored with my husban sometimes. That's when I plan a day trip, or spice it up at night. It's not just up to him to keep you in the game.
2007-02-10 14:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jilli Bean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋