OK - well my question pretty much says it but here is how it happened. -----
To start off with I dont have a girlfriend or partner and never been in a relationship with anyone, so to solve this problem my parents and sister keep trying to fix me up with different girls, none of which i really liked enough to start a relationship with. So to solve the problem I told them I had met this girl and we had been dating a few weeks and they were really happy for me and kept telling me that they hoped we got together properly. This was 6 months ago and they havent tried to fix me up since thinking that I was in a relationship with someone - uot, and here is the but - they now want to meet her I have put them off 3 times already saying she is shy or she was busy but they are persistant and I am not sure how to come clean about the fact that for the past 6 months I have told them a lie - it wasnt intentional it just turned from a white lie into a big lie. So, please help me out here if you ca
2007-02-10 06:27:59 · 31 answers · asked by Benjamin G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Looks like a choice of two options
1. Come clean and tell them you invented her to get peace from their matchmaking.
2. Tell them she dumped you and you are too hurt to even think about dating anyone else right now.
2007-02-10 06:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by freebird 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is always a reason for a lie, and it's usually to cover up the real truth. A man who lies about who he is meeting for lunch or whatever is usually up to no good. Believe me, I'm a man and I should know. You have caught your husband to be out on a number of occasions and it seems he thinks he can now get away with it every time. He knows that the worst that will happen is that you may not speak to him for a few hours, then everything returns to normal. Wake up girl, and smell the roses. Liars get worse and more cunning and more convincing with their lies if you dont nip it in the bud. You need to sit your fiance down and have a serious discussion with him. Tell him that the lies MUST stop, and that there must be no secrets between you. Tell him that if you discover he is lying ONCE more, the wedding is off. What is more, if he lies to you again, even after the marriage,he will have to suffer the consequences. Dont elaborate on what the consequences well be. Just waitr for the moment and then pack a bag and go to visit mom for a day or two. He will get the message. But the message is very important. Make sure he listens and that you carry out any threats to the letter.
2016-05-25 03:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely no reason to come clean on this one... they will never find out or prove otherwise. Act a bit quiet for a few days... lots of love songs blaring or moody music, eat loads of junk food before you get home and then sit at the table knowing you have eaten and just pick at your food. when someone asks you a question keeps saying pardon as if your mind is elsewhere..... then eventually someone will say you are not being yourself..... hence provoking an opportunity for you to say that you were let down / dumped / in the meantime spend hours on the pc chatting to girls and get out there and have some fun monkey!! I disagree about coming clean on this one as the lie has not harmed anyone... in fact it has prob been something that got way out of hand..... I agree that honesty is the best policy and that you should be straight from here onwards! I reckon every one of us had told a lie that has got us nearly in a pickle at some point in life!!
2007-02-14 03:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide wether u want 2 tell the truth or not.If not just tell them uv split up but that ur ok about it coz u werent getting on aswell as what u did or something like that.If u feel u need 2 tell the truth tell them that them pressuring you made you lie but that your happy being single & can they not go on at you as much & let you do things in ur own time.You have 2 decide which way you feel the most comfortable dealing with it.Sumtimes lying is easier.If you did choose 2 lie again that would be the end of the lie becoz u'd b telling them u were finished so u wouldnt hav 2 make anymore lies up about it.Go with wot u find the easiest 2 do.
2007-02-10 08:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Poppypunto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is why you shouldn't lie. Hope you've learnt a valuable lesson young man. An easy way of getting out of it is to say that you split up not so long ago but you were too upset to tell anyone. That will put a stop to them asking. When they try and fix you up with a woman, this time give in. You may end up making a good friend out of it. How are you going to know who the 'right' one is if you haven't experienced others? You will have nothing to compare the 'right' one to and may end up with a drop dead gorgeous female who is just dull, dull, dull. Keep an open mind and good luck. Remember NO MORE LIES.
2007-02-10 07:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing to do if you don't want to come clean which I can well understand you not wanting to do would be to have a sudden and fierce break up - maybe find out she was cheating or something. But remember keep it simple. You can get terribly confused but the tangle of lies. Oh and don't forget to be heartbroken it will keep your family from trying to set you up with someone else. Also you know there is a lot to be said for being single. Don't be afraid to say your single and proud of it. I was got married and now struggling - single is much better. And before you ask yes I am bitter.
2007-02-10 06:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned over the years to be honest no matter what - being respected and trusted is a feeling like no other and lies are almost always found out. At this point, you've got no choice but to come clean, because it's downhill from here. Just be sure to explain why you felt you had too.
Next time, just tell the truth, how you honesty feel isn't a crime. Let them know you appreciate their concern, but you'd rather do it in your own time with someone you choose.
-J
2007-02-10 06:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by Jim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two choices:
Keep it going but say the two of you parted ways unexpectedly because maybe she cheated, etc.
Or you could come clean and hope that this may solve you from having to invent another girlfriend. Explain to them that you know they are trying to help and you appreciate their concern, but that you don't appreciate them thinking they need to treat you that way. Tell them you are an adult and you can find your own girlfriend. Ending the lie may help you stop this from needing to happen again in the future!
2007-02-10 07:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not as bad as you think...
You need to do this NOW, don't keep putting it off for it will just get worse. Square your shoulders, and say..."There is no girl, never has been. I just wanted you all to let up on me about being with any one. I'm sorry for all the lies and everything but I'm just not interested in anyone and don't want to right now. I'm sorry." You don't need to go into defense mode, it's your personal life and really it is up to you to meet people when you want to. Just remember if you make remarks like promising them you will meet someone or promise to tell them when you have or will try harder, you have opened the door to their meddling into you personal life, and unless you want them introducing you to all the bells again I'd just let the sorry part be the final say on your end.
2007-02-10 06:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are not in a relationship but you fabricated it so they would stop trying to set you up. Tell them that you are not ready for a relationship as of now. But if and when it happens they will be the first to know. Honest is the Best Policy. Also it will make you feel better. GOOD LUCK
2007-02-10 06:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, Benjamin, but that is the prob;lem with any lies.....they have that nasty habit of catching up with you.
You could try another lie ("When I asked her round to meet you, she said she wasn't ready for something that serious and broke it off. It will take a long time to get over it so give me space" or whatever. But that would eventually catch up too. The best (but painful way) is to be honest....BUT....to tell them why you did it.
You DO need space. There is no law that you must be part of an 'item' They need to let you be you.
2007-02-10 06:39:06 · answer #11 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋