Am I Over Reacting???

Question

I asked this question under women studies, but was told I would get a better response here. I am a victim of violent gang rape. And even though this happen 6 years ago this month. I'm still having the nightmare's the trust issues, the depression, the crying, and I keep reliving what happen to me. My boyfriend get's upset when I cry or talk about it like he is tired of hearing it. So I just wanted to know is it normal for me to keep going through this or is something wrong with me. Please I just need some advice.

Answer 1

I think you are still reliving it over and over because you've never really worked through it in your mind or your heart. What you have been through is a terrible, frightening, life altering event and not something that you can easily get over or put behind you. I suggest seeing a counselor to help you work this out. Honestly, it will help so much to have a neutral party to talk to about it. Someone who isn't related to you or involved in your life because they can be more objective and you can be completely open and honest with them about your feelings and what you are going through. Get some help with this and you will feel so much better and be able to eventually put in in the past and cope with it better. I wish you lots of luck. BTW, I think your boyfriend should never get tired of you talking about your feelings. He should be there to offer you comfort and a sense of security.

Answer 2

It would take a trained counselor to determine for certain, but it sounds like you're suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. Symptoms of PTSD can include the following: nightmares, flashbacks, emotional detachment or numbing of feelings (emotional self-mortification or dissociation), insomnia, avoidance of reminders and extreme distress when exposed to the reminders ("triggers"), irritability, hypervigilance, memory loss, and excessive startle response, clinical depression and anxiety, loss of appetite. It is also possible for a person suffering from PTSD to exhibit one or more other comorbid psychiatric disorders; these disorders often include clinical depression (or bipolar disorder), general anxiety disorder and a variety of addictions. PTSD may have a delayed onset of months, years or even decades and may be triggered by an external factor or factors. Some believe that panic disorder and PTSD are closely related, since panic disorders usually involve fear of a past panic attack. If you have not yet sought the advice of a trained professional, don't wait. Do it. There are a number of websites that can offer some help. One such site is:

http://www.brokenspirits.com/resources/ptsd.asp

Good luck.

Answer 3

This is completely normal, especially if you never really resolved your emotions - saw a councellor or psychologist. You need to see someone that will listen to you and give you strategies to overcome your trauma. You boyfriends is unsure of what to say and doesn't know quite how to handle your feelings. He may not understand all that you have gone through nd therefore belittles your feelings. Any sort of rape is a huge deal in a person's life and just because it happened ten years ago means nothing. Time doesn't solve anything.

Answer 4

Yeah somethings wrong with you - you were gang raped 6 years ago. How would anyone get over that? You have had a serious trauma - you need to get someone to help you overcome the nightmare. You are completely normal - you just really need someone to talk to.

Answer 5

First: I'm so sorry that happened to you, the people who did that deserve a severe punishment.
Second: No! You're not over-reacting, but I tend to believe that you didn't overcome this because you didn't get enough help. I suggest you contact any psychologist or councilor that you can trust (Check him/her first). Only this person can help you get through this. Yes it was horrible, I agree, but life goes on and all of us face problems maybe less than yours and maybe bigger, but to be able to overcome them is the real challenge,

Answer 6

You should see a counselor or a physiologist. It’s okay that you still have trouble dealing with it, it is a tremendous thing that a person has to handle and if you have a really close friend you should also talk to them about it. But professional help is always the best.

Answer 7

You have had a terrible experience but it was just one in a lifetime of experiences. I don't know how natural it is that you keep reliving it but six years is a long time out of your life. Please get a good counsellor who will be able to help you get some closure and move on.

Answer 8

please see a counselor.go to or call a womens crises center and ask for help.its normal to still have issues.a friend of mine was raped and nearly died from the beating.she had to have extensive facial plastic surgery.her jaw and cheekbones were broken,and one eye was popped out of its socket.she was in her 20's when it happened.she is now in her early 60's,and of course,still gets depressed when she thinks about it-who wouldnt?ur boyfriend is impatient and insensitive.please ask to talk to someone about all of this.u will feel better.there was no counseling for my friend long ago,and she had to keep it secret.today,people can get help.good luck.

Answer 9

You need to a therapist or counselor, someone who can help you to deal with this. Until you confront it you'll never be past it.