my boyfriend has told me that on valentines day hes not going to send me a card or present which has really upset me. the way i see it, every year i always go without a card when all my friends are ringing me up telling me that their boyfriends just sent them flowers and other things and i always sit at home wishing it was me getting the card and made to feel someone specail for once and now ive got this great boyfriend and he said that im not getting anything and it makes me feel so unwanted and not special.
2007-02-10 06:18:58 · 35 answers · asked by xx angel 3m xx 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
If he doesn't love you all year round, you do not have a reason to be with him.
If he shows you love every day, then Valentine's is but one day.
Sorry he is being a git, in any case.
--That Cheeky Lad
2007-02-10 14:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Charles-CeeJay_UK_ USA/CheekyLad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he could be not getting you anything.
likewise he could be planning something big as a surprise, so he is telling you he has nothing for you so that the surprise is just that a big surprise.
though that kind of thing would be extremely rare. he may only be using you and not really love you, so getting you a card or gift on valentines day would be leading you on.
no one on here will know the real answer. all you can do is wait for wednesday to come and go, if he does something special then great if not and it is important to you the talk to him about how you feel.
if he is an insensitive pig and does nothing on the day then you have to think abvout getting rid of him and moving on, if you think that is best for you.
though personally i'm 33 and never been in a relationship to warrant the giving nor receiving of gifts and cards. though to be honest in my opinion valentines day is an over hyped and over comercialized event. if you love someone then you should be showing them how much every day not just on feb 14th.
your boyfriend if he loves you should be showing you and telling you how special you are to him every day. if he does then does valentines day really matter?
is he on a low income so can not afford to get you anything special?
talk to him about your feelings!.
good luck, and try to have a happy valentines day regardless of your boyfriends insensitivities in this matter!.
2007-02-10 06:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same ship-
My boyfriend hates holidays and has never bought me a birthday present, hardly a christmas gift, he gave me his gift card that his work gave him and he tries to cover it all up with more kisses.
We have been together 2+ years and have a house together and no ring. He could care less! But he says he cares and that he shouldn't have to buy all that stuff!
I am not sure what to do either- I don't think crying over every holiday is much fun, though! I am not materialistic - just used to being spoiled a little bit and made to feel a little special!
2007-02-13 12:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Miriam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend said the same thing as many of you that Valentine's day is only made up by card companies to steal their money. He told me that he'll be too busy that day to come out to see me FOR ME TO GIVE HIM HIS PRESENT! Sure guys probably think that they tell you they love you everyday already, but they should still respect the fact that some of us women would want to celebrate Valentine's day. Does it really hurt to send a card or just take some time out to spend together on that day?
2007-02-12 11:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is valentines day really? A day of showing what you should be sharing everyday. That is our philosophy on the subject, and is why we do not participate in what seems more a keep up with someone elses one day show of affection. It appears to be more of a cute competition than what love is really all about.
We, sometimes go out of our way to show each other how we feel about one another.
Another reason I do not celebrate and am glad that she is not into the whole thing. I , for lack of a better term, buried my daughter, or returned her to God arms, on valentines day. She was 5 1/2 months old and we dressed her in a red dress with white frilly, lacy, fringe stuff.
She passed away feb 8 1994, I was a truck driver and was some 400 miles away with a trailer load of deliveries to make on the return trip. It was the hardest drive of my life. I got the deliveries made and 14 hour later was home.
Maybe I should celebrate it as her day but I prefer to remember better days with her.
It may be or seem insensitive that your boyfriend does not send you anything. It may be he is cheap. What does he show you every day, how does he show you everyday. If he does show you everyday, isn't that more special than someone showing it one day a year or on holidays???
You know better than us his affection level, his financial situation and more of who he is. Decide if who he is is right for you or not, make sure you know what is important to you. You are number one in your book first, after God of course. So find some one who shows you everyday.
good luck
ED C
2007-02-10 06:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He maybe teasing you and have a big surprise planned. Alternatively, you could tell him how much it would mean to you to receive a card, and that you understand that it might be over rated but your a romantic and would love a card.
And I'm afraid it is true, men can be very mean sometime. This is not the most important thing in the world, and if he is lovely the reast of the year, sometimes it better to have him for the rest of the year with no card than not to have him. If you love him and get on with him talk to him. Good luck
2007-02-10 06:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by sezbra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have that same situation..my boyfriend refuses to buy me anything as valentines day is a made up day as he says even so my mates all get big bouquet of roses and jewellery and i hate it. thing is i don't think there is really an answer for it....I'm just going out tonight with my single mates and i brought my self sum nice underwear to make myself feel good. I've been with my boyfriend 3 years i love him hes a great boyfriend this is the only thing what really pisses me off but its no need to dump him over and hes never gunna change so i don't bother with him no more.
2007-02-13 22:14:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well come on think about it : Valentines day is a little corny and your boyfriend probably hates the commercialized crap about it all. Maybe he had a bad experience with it. I used to mistakenly call Valentines day Halloween and then one day I was seeing a guy who had a birthday on Halloween and it was THE worst heart-renching experience of my life. Well I don't know what that has to do with your question but I thought that I would share. Even though I kind of hate Hallow -whoops, I mean Valentines Day I still get sad that no one gets me anything so I understand your plight.
2007-02-10 06:37:54 · answer #8 · answered by elflocks62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also hate all cards esp' valentines, but I try to go through the motions, last year was unforgettable , I did the last minute dash thing, into the shop saw the card rack 'valentine cards, big poster all the usual BS, I grabbed one and a box of chocs, scribbled 'lots of love' on them both.
Job done I had done my duty, fulfilled my obligations etc.
My wife was not very pleased, se asked "Did you even read this card you sent me"? On the front of the card in large capitals was 'Happy Birthday Gran' Some pra** had slotted into the wrong rack in the shop.
2007-02-10 06:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by budding author 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is not a romantic man like me.
Even if he does not particularly like the holiday, he should still do something special for you because it's important to you.
When you are in a relationship that is good, then you do things for each other, as long as they are reasonable things, and I think a card or a gift on Valentines is reasonable.
Let me know if you want me to send your boyfriend some lessons on how to romance a woman properly.
2007-02-10 06:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be because Valentines day along with Mothers day, Fathers day, Grandparents day etc.... are only set up so that companies can make money out of all the gullible people buying into it, does your boyfriend show you how much he loves you on other days, if yes then why worry I don't buy things for valentines day either and I have been married for 10 years this year, it isn't about what you buy on one day but how they treat you every day. As for your friends if they knew how much it upsets you why are they still doing it and why are you still friends with them?
2007-02-10 06:27:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋