i have been with the same woman for over 7 yrs and we've had ups & downs,a few months ago she supposedly was going to a relatives house and after 8 hours i called her, she said shes not coming back and gave a reason but i had a hunch about a friend of mine, she denied it but did go on to admit that she wasnt where she was supposed to be and that she met someone and she wants to pursue a future with him. i found out i was right about the guy. her & i talked & agreed to fix our marriage.. every few weeks she would have an excuse to go somewhere and turns out she has still been seeing the other guy., 3 weeks ago she left & moved in with a friend and said she didnt do it to be with the other guy but i know they have since been together and she was wanting to pursue a future with him but now he has dumped her, shes admitted she has feelings for me, we spent last weekend together BUT she says she dont want to be with him or me. do i continue to try to get her back or do i move on? thanks
2007-02-10 06:04:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For now, how about not only giving her space to figure it out for herself but do it for you too. If you really love her, let her know this is what you are doing and let her be. This will also nurish you cause you too are important. Take care of yourself and let her learn how to take care of herself. Good luck.
2007-02-10 06:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally up to you , you have grounds for a divorce and could even remarry however if your heart is still going to be with her you should try to fix it, but you will most likely be in for a world of hurt while she tries to figure out what she wants and keeps you on the back burner cause she thinks you will always be there. Maybe you should start dating, not sleep with other women just get to know them and see what happens when she sees you are not just going to sit around and pine away for her.
2007-02-10 14:21:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, but my advice would be to move on. Remember that what she is doing is all about her and the issues she has in her own life. She sounds like she is looking for something but doesn't even know what she is looking for herself. My instinct says you would be on a constant roller coaster of come back, leave, come back etc. You deserve better and there are many more women out there to make you happy that wouldn't do this.
2007-02-10 14:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, forget this broad and fast. Thank your lucky stars she is gone and now make sure you not only protect your assets but blast her for all that you can.
Be glad that you found out she is a slut and that you can prove it
Just make sure that if you should decide to date later, you are keenly aware of just how women are and how they are every bit as vile and evil as they accuse men of being.
Best of luck to you. Again, dont give this slut a second thought. She isnt worth the trouble or the time.
2007-02-10 14:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by operatingengineerjw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I play devil's advocate?
Say you go back to her and this guy changes his mind?
Say you go back to her and she finds someone else?
Say you go back to her and she still needs to find herself?
Can you blindly accept these things? Do you need loyalty? Some people don't. If you don't require dedication, follow your heart. It WILL lead you down the same road you are currently on.
If this will rip your life/emotions apart, listen to your head this time.
Plan to spend some time recognizing your value before you jump into another relationship though.
Live well
2007-02-10 14:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is playing games with you....she is controlling you ...........step up and be a man
life is to short for games.... let her go.....
Reverse her game as one may put it ----- stop calling, stop taking her back ect... get your life back
I know it will hurt and it will be hard but love is not suppose to be the way you are living it
2007-02-10 14:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by dreamingone39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one lesson Ive learned is that if a person ever cheats. he or she will do it again .. the sacred trust has been broken and you will always be wondering if shes cheating... find another one,plenty of fish in the sea to choose from
2007-02-10 14:19:58 · answer #7 · answered by road runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve something more than this.
Move on and and find a great women that is honest and faithful.
This one is nothing but heartache.
2007-02-10 14:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by Esperenza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love something set it free, if it comes back to you it is yours, if it doesn't it never was.
I feel for you! Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. My opinion.
2007-02-10 14:19:47 · answer #9 · answered by Archangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON!! She is just playing with your emotions, and will continue as long as you allow her to.
2007-02-10 14:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋