I'm dating a really good guy who wants to get married but he is not financially stable.
2007-02-10 06:02:48 · 29 answers · asked by beautiful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not if it's real love. Financial stabilty sometimes doesn't come for people. Unless you're wanting to join bank accounts I wouldn't worry about that, unless it's important to you.
2007-02-10 06:05:06 · answer #1 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not get married! I married a wonderful woman with no job or money. I am fairly well off. It was good for 1-2 years. By the 3rd year, the once wonderful woman was awful and unbearable. I still can't believe how drastically she changed. In any case, we divorced by year 4 and I had to give her a substantial amount of money. I am not bitter, but there is a reason some people are financially unstable - we reap what we sow.
I know you will think, your situation is different, I did too. You need to stay within your own financial class. As discriminatory as that sounds, it is true if you want to remain financially stable and happy yourself.
Good Luck!
2007-02-10 14:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by fatsomoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst marriage situation that you could ever be in, is, A LOVELESS marriage..I realize that you can not live on love. In all practicality, love will not pay your bills, buy you materialistic "things", and money is tough to do without. If your boyfriend has future plans for a career, or a profession he is working towards, discuss your feelings. If you love each other and decide that you both want to marry, form a plan," before you get married." Talk about your financial future and what you would like to aim for. Set financial goals that are attainable, maybe decide on a specific amount of money you would like to have saved before you enter into marriage.To marry just for financial security, I feel would be a lonely existence. Sure, money buys a lot of things, but...LOVE?
2007-02-10 14:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying for love IS the reason for marrying. And if you pay any attention to the vows as you do his financial statement, I think it mentions somewhere in there that you two stay together for richer or poorer. You have no idea that if you marry a man that has money he will keep it forever. Then you will be tested by that vow. Conversely, you can marry this wonderful guy and he starts to go further and further, earning more. There are no guarantees in life so stop being the typical superficial girl that gives the rest of us a bad rep!!
2007-02-10 14:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by lanibear55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marrying for love i myself is the one and only reasons to marry.why if you were deeply inlove trusted had great communication believed that you two couldn't work together to become financially stable.Working as a team is part of the joys of marriage if you love with a true heart all you go through wether good ,bad is a building block for a much stronger structure.to many people marry for reasons that are not what the meaning of marriage is about two shall become one not wait for a richer or better looking person.you make a oath to the lord to love for better or worse if you go in looking for the prizes you are not seeing a marriage of love your trying fix something in yourself that is lost .being inlove and to marry your other half wouldn't that make you whole?finanically stable ...we all need n money to survive.why does one have to have it or maybe there not good enough to marry money can't buy you love.love gives it all
2007-02-10 15:05:59 · answer #5 · answered by sheryl g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the ONLY reason to marry.
If you are so shallow that you'd refuse to marry him because he's not "financially stable", then dump him so someone who can appreciate him can have him!
He should be saying "I want to marry this girl but she's such an immature money-grubber!"
2007-02-10 14:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying for love should be your MAIN reason. As for financial stability,do you have a job? Most couples today both work.
2007-02-10 14:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not overrated, because when the going gets tough, love is what you fall back on, and if you don't have it, you might as well give up. Finances are all in how you think about them- if you live within your means and you are happy, then you are living the life of luxury. :)
2007-02-10 14:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying for love is the ONLY reason to get married. financial stability is very important. but doesn't mean crap if there is no love.
2007-02-10 14:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jon P 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love is the most important part of marriage.
But, if he can't control his spending then you will think of divorcing him in the future when he comes home with a 80 inch plasma TV.
2007-02-10 15:54:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋