The other night I intercepted a text message between my husband and his co-worker. The messages stated "Msn u too!" He erased what I assume was the sent text, since "too" was used. I confronted him about and he states they are just good friends and there is no sexual involvement. Is there a way for me to find sent and received erased text messages from his phone or have any future text messages monitored with out him knowing?
2007-02-10 06:01:27 · 18 answers · asked by lolaray 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can get a copy of the bill but that won't show you what the msg said. I'm not sure that there is a way to have it monitored :( I wish there was!
One way to find out for sure is to call a private detective and ask them if there is a way to do that. I'm sure they would know.
I would be suspicious if I were you! It doesn't really sound like just friends. ...missn you too?? I son't think so. Sorry I couldn't be more help but you should definately look into this.
2007-02-10 06:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by KJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so, but you might call your service provider and pretend to have lost a message on your phone and see how you would go about recovering it (or check their website). I do think you can track when messages are sent and received but all you'll see is the number. I'd ask why his co-worker would be sending text messages in the first place. Express to him that this behavior does not make you feel safe in your relationship and that you would like to have him not communicate with her outside of work issues. It's inappropriate no matter how you look at. You are his first priority as his wife, and making you feel safe should be at the top of his list.
2007-02-10 06:07:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all you can get of text messages are a date and time. You can log on however, with some companies and keep a calculation of how many are sent, look at his phone and see how many he has on there, if he doesn't have any then you know he's deleting them for some reason. Check the phone numbers and time too on the bill. Online keeps records daily, best way.
2007-02-10 06:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say this is the start of some serious problems. Intercepting messages is not going to change what you already know. You need to confront him. Maybe even find out who this co-worker is and confront her. This is your marriage you need to let him and her know this is not acceptable. Maybe even make a visit to work. Don't just let it go though because it won't just go away.
2007-02-10 06:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't retreive the Text or SMS messages, BUT,
If you would like to confidentially hear ALL his voice msgs, Go to www.gotvoice.com
You just have to be able to have access to his phone for a little while (while sleeping maybe??) so you can answer the message they send with the validation code. Then they will start sending his messages to your email! Be sure to check when he isn't around!
Good Luck!
2007-02-10 06:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very inappropriate for a female co worker to be texting your husband,may be there is nothing going on, but she is definitely flirting with him.
Think your being cheated is the same as being cheated or at least feels the same, If you don't trust him I think it is time to say good bye
2007-02-10 06:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by pas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyway to call his cell phone provider? That sounds realy fishy. If you know the coworker he is corresponding with you could snatch her phone and check it out, I am sure she didnt erase any of the messages
2007-02-10 06:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. to me Missin u too only means one thing! You cant really monitor what the text messages are saying. But if you get the bill you can see who they are to and from
2007-02-10 06:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to get the old messages, because you already know he is cheating on you. If you still unsure take from me...a man who likes discretion! Sorry but it is time to start with counseling or divorce proceedings...your choice!
2007-02-10 06:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try saying this, " just got a Text Message, from a Female Co-worker to my Ex-Husband". That sounds, so much better!
2007-02-10 06:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋