One of my friends introduced me (for marriage) to a divorced man who was 50 and he had a young boy, 20 years. We spoke with each other and went out for about 1 year. We could attract each other so much. But I found that he was with his ex girl friend in weekends while he told me she was going to get married another man. So we quarreled with each other and he told me if we get married he will cut his affair. But as regards I knew they had affairs for about 12 years, I cut our relationship. In fact although we didn’t any sex but I love him. By the way I’m 38 and his girl friend 31. Please let me know if my reaction was right or not? logical or not? Also I want to know is it right if I call him again? Although I’m sure that he’s busy with her girl friend now.
2007-02-10 06:01:09 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, you were right. He was cheating on you during the relationship and he would have continued after a marriage. Marriage does not cure infidelity. A person's character does that. It sounds like this guy had none to start with. I know this was hard for you, but you did the right thing here. Move on. Do not call him. All he has done is lie to you and you do not deserve any more lies. Get on with your life. We never make progress by walking backwards. Go forward. You will make someone a wonderful partner.
2007-02-10 06:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want to call him again? Are you a glutton for punishment?
His telling you that, if you get married, he will end the affair, is a load of crap! If he did not disclose the affair while the two of you were together, he is dishonest, and that will not change with marriage.
Although you may love him, you need to realize that sometimes, love is not enough to sustain a relationship. There must also be trust, and I, personally, could never trust this man.
Your initial reaction was the right thing to do, and you should continue your life without him!
2007-02-10 06:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by legaleagle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to end the relationship. I don't think a man should be seeing one woman and still his Ex at the same time, actually I get the impression she is not an Ex at all but just a weekend playmate. If she was getting married to another why is she still seeing her Ex on weekends? If you two were to get married I rather doubt that after 12 years he would give up his weekends with her for you or any one else. Not wrong to call him to see if he was ready to have a serious relationship with you or he still wanted to play the field.
2007-02-10 06:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy.
He sounds like bad news.
You can do better.
2007-02-10 06:04:36 · answer #4 · answered by spamovision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋