and my husband has mad plans to go see his family. I have been really down and stressed lately and I told him that I can't handle a lot on my days off which are usually Saturday and Sunday, this weekend I only get Sunday. We barely spend any time as it is because we both work and we have a 14 month old to tend to when we get home from work, when she goes to bed...so do we. Weekends are are only time to try and spend time even if it's taking our daughter to the park. Lately we have been going to his families every weekend except for last weekend because I refused. I need time to relax before starting the week again and forcing a smile on my face (my job is that stressful). Should I be mad that he isn't going to spend my day off with me? He plans to be over with his family for a few hours...they live 45 min. away. I feel bad though when he stays because of me. hes 24 though and attached to his mom at the hip it seems. What to do?!
2007-02-10 05:09:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know exactly how you feel. I usually work 7 days a week. My days are anywhere from 10-16 hours a day. Plus we have a 13 month old daughter. My wife and I don't get to spend a lot of time together either. I would just talk to him about it. Explain how you feel. If he really loves you, he will understand how you feel. Just don't force him to stay home with you though. It won't do any good because he will be there, but you won't really be able to spend time together because he will be mad. Which in turn you will get mad and that will just make your day off be a bad day off. You should just try to make some plans to go out one day. Have one of your parents watch the kid and go have some time to yourselves. Make it a date. It should do you some good. My wife and I have a lot of issues with me working so much. I have experienced this many times. Good Luck.
2007-02-10 05:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he needs time with his family let him go, and have him take your child so you have alone decompression time. Look at the time to yourself as a precious gift and plan how you will spend it pampering yourself. Take a 2 hour bath. Read a delicious book. Never get out of your pjs. My favorite way to destress is to be alone and do nothing with no demands on me. After an entire day of letting myself be lazy and self-indulgent I am usually ready to face the challenges of my regular life.
2007-02-10 05:16:45 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he sees his family EVERY weekend, it's time for some married family time....meaning you and your daughter. Sounds like your husband needs to get his priorities in order.
2007-02-10 05:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you and your daughter are his family now and you want to do fin gs as a family whilst your daughter is growing up and you need some time to unwind why cant his family have your daughter for the day and give you booth time to love eat ch other i me en he can yous the phone to say Hy mom
2007-02-10 05:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by LAWRENCE Plamchops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could take the baby along ... time alone with Dad is good .. and you could get some rest. Maybe even have them bring take-out home for dinner.
2007-02-10 05:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would explain your concern to him...I too run into issues with spending time with my fiancee and we plan things out, along with express concerns to each other. Try it and see if it works, if he understands, then hes worth it!
2007-02-10 05:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Rick Jones 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to show your letter to your husband.
Explain how you need time alone, time with him, and help with the housework...Good luck
Husbands tend to be insensitive boors unless things get explained to them really well.
2007-02-10 05:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by bob shark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you need your rest, and he can take your child with him for a visit. that way you can get LOTS of rest, and go with him next trip. how often do you see your family? you may want to bring that up to bolster your argument.
2007-02-10 05:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Typical for a twenty something, try to really get his attention and tell him flat out what you are going through. Guys can be very blind to things. I was. Tell him right out.
2007-02-10 05:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a babysitter and go to the sauna .
2007-02-10 05:15:46 · answer #10 · answered by RJ2K1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋