when i walk into a night club, i feel overwelmed and "out of my depth". How can i learn 2 cope and mingle?

Answer 1

Go to the club w/ some friends and remember your goal is to have fun, not to be the perfect friend for everybody.

Clubbing isn't for everyone. I did a survey on campus in college asking over 200 students how many times they had gone clubbing in their life and how many times a week. Almost half had only gone clubbing 5 times or less in their life and the average was just once every other week during their active clubbing periods (everyone doesn't go clubbing yearround).

Because there really isn't such a thing as a professional clubber, it's really just trial and error. Bring a wingman that isn't too pushy, but is someone who knows you and someone that you can trust. There's no point in bringing a friend that encourages you to do everything if you reall don't want to. Bringing someone who will focus on you and tell you what your strengths are though WILL help though.

Dancing, drinking, talking, laughing and everything else can also make clubbing feel like an aristocratic thing to do. People go clubbing so they can feel good about themselves by showing others that they're all that. Still, you can do this without feeling arrogant about it. Just get in there and be yourself.

Answer 2

You could certainly do some work with a therapist - hypnosis, EFT, EMDR perhaps, cognitive-behavioral work. They may help this experience feel different for you - help you feel more comfortable with it.

That said, too often we don't accept ourselves and find things we love to do. The effort to fit in sort of takes over. Perhaps you might consider what you enjoy doing and find some friends to join you.