do you think he will come back to me? we talked about getting married someday?

Question

well my bf and i dated for over 2 years. he broke up with me 2 weeks ago. cause he is under so much stress. 4 days b4 he broke up with me we were deciding to take a break to focus on oursleves and school (we are both soph. im college) he is takign alot of HARD classes. high levels of math and physics and woks over 40 hours a week. so i decided to give him his space. a few days b4 hand he said he felt liek he HAD to love me and HAD to be with me cause he was afraid i would hurt myself or drop out of school (which im not!) but yet he says he loved me up until the ppoint he broke up with me "not he wants to stop loving me cause we arent together anymore" which YOU CANT! lol we were eachothers first love, first bf/gf first everything! one minute hes saying we're never going to get back together the next its "maybe i dont want to say anything to get your hopes up" or maybe in 10 or 20 yrs we'll get back together.. and NO its not aother woman. we are VERY honest to eachtoher about our

feelings and he has never lied to me.. he is too busy to be with someone else anyways! anyways.. i konw time will only tell and heal all wounds. i saw him a little over a week ago to exchagne items. it was very hard to see himand i was crying. i gave him one last goodbye hug.. he didnt push me away. he just held onto my arms. he had the look in his eyes that told me he loved me.. i kown that sounds cheesy but it was the same look i saw when he first said he loved me. =[ he also kept apologizing to me. he things being single is going to be great and he says "im free and im planning on keeping it that way: but he said this after i kept bothering him for 4 days straight so i know he only said it to get me to back off.. but i havent talked to him since. hes called me once since then but i didnt answer..

do you think he will come back to me? i konw he still loves me.. and i kown he misses me..

i know he is just confused right now.. i told him id give him till the end of the month to "reconsider everything" i konw time will tell. i just hope he will come back to me someday.. we love and care for eachtoher so much but the stresses of school and work can be overwhelming at times.. kast semester he tried to take a few breaks from me as well.. cause of the stresses of school. but i was stubborn but a few weks ago i t hoguth it would be the best thing for him. so i let him go and now im afriad ive lost him forever... =[ he said he still wants to be my frind cause "id hate to loose someone as special as you" but i really dont want to be his freind....

willhe come back? maybe? he said "maybe" to me... ugh i hate this!

i know he isnt interested in anyone else he just want to see if the grass is greener on the other side (being single) and he said "if it isnt t hen id really be missing out on you"... so im just going to let him get it out of his system and let him do what he feels liek he needs to do... hopefully he will come back when school is over and we could resume our nice peaceful relationship ....

he always told me he wished he met me later in life... since the timing now isnt right..

he knows i wont hurt myself.... i just made stupid remarks one time and regret them... =\

Answer 1

I think he is burnt out on you and wants something more. He is scared to tell you the real truth due to what you said, that you might hurt yourself. He needs time but sometimes people out grow eachother and I feel this is what has happened.

Answer 2

you are still young and i think like what others said is right, let him go and if he comes back later its meant to be...but in the meanwhile move on...meet other people...it isnt easy at first but you never know. As much as you "think" he is the one and only guy for you, you may meet someone else and one day think " how did i ever thing he was the one when this guy is so much more than him". On the other hand if he really does love you and want to be with you maybe one day he will come back. My bf and i broke up once in the beginning, we still stayed friends (we are coworkers so had to keep it civil). we were broken up for a while and during that while i went on so many dates (mostly idiots but a few werent too bad of guys) and when he realized he had wanted to commit to me fully before i found someone else to commit to he came back and things have been amazing since. Don't get your hopes up though, like i said he may not come back but if he doesnt there WILL BE better!!!

Answer 3

You know... there is a saying that if you let something go it may or may not come back to you. You need to begin to focus on You now an your desires and needs in life...become a stronger person if you may by developing more of what you were meant to be. The relationship will change you....you will grieve but you will be better. You will grow. I think this man has thought very hard about his own life and what he needs right now. You need to let go...and let him grow as well. There is alot of life to experience, and maybe that is what he is sensing. Getting married and having a family is not in his plans for now. So, whether you do get back together or not in the future only time will tell. Focus on today. Focus on other aspects of what makes you whole, complete and happy. When the time is right, the right person will come along.

Answer 4

It is over and you need to accept that. I am sure he still cares about you to a degree, he doesnt hate you afterall but that is not the same as wanting to be together. I think he was right that you would have problems w the break up, it seems by your email and the many extra paragraphs you added you are having problems dealing w it. You are both very young and it is hard to let go of your first love - very few 1st loves stay together. You should talk to some of your friends and family about it and let them help you thru this.

Answer 5

Darling, just let him go, never act out in front of him, how much you still want him. Since Humans are really weak and mostly selfish (especially when Young), by continuously being available, you give him power to neglect you, or push you back and forth at his convenience. It is sad but true that the more you try the more he will be doing what pleases him. Like a "Tug a War"
Go on and join others, go out and have fun, if you just sit around, he'll know you'll be there whenever he wants to come back.
NOT GOOD!!!!

Answer 6

You need to assume that he probably won't get back together with you. You need to move on and focus on school instead of pining for him. It sounds like he is very ambitious and may not have a lot of respect for you right now. At the same time, being fair, he doesn't have a lot of time for a relationship. The best thing you can do is apply yourself to school and try to forget about him for the time being. Both of you probably need your own space to develop into your own person.

Answer 7

You need to take to heart the words of a famous man " TURN THE PAGE". It is over, the best you can hope for now is staying friends...and like all the other answers on this page tell you, stop bugging him! He doesn't want a relationship with you HOWEvER, it sounds like he still values your friendship and if you keep on and on and on demanding .....you are going to burn him out of your life forever. Salvage the friendship while you still can but look for another Boyfriend!

Answer 8

wow, you repeat yourself allot. when people hook up at a very young age and have never experienced dating or being single , I think he may just be curious. But if you did to him what you did in your question you could have been getting on his nerves. sorry but im trying to help you. Let him have his space and don't give him a time limit or ultimatums. You seem to demanding when you do and like you said he is stressed overworked tired and maybe needs to think without you putting time limits and things on him. Just be cool and when he sees your not going to demand answers and ask tons of questions maybe you will talk more and he will realize that he misses you.

Answer 9

i know you hurting and i feel for you ive been there too, and i can only tell you when you think you lost the only one you will ever love nothing is going to be alright for a long time then one day you will meet someone and feel the same way maybe ever better it wont happen next week but it will happen it just takes TIME good luck girl

Answer 10

First relationships are not always going to last forever. Usually one or both of the parties start to wonder what else is out there.

Consider this a life lesson and try to move on. If you are meant to be together, it will heappen.