Did you always know, or was it like a sudden realization?
I've never, ever been attracted to girls (maybe deep down I was, but not that I consciously knew!)... until I guess everything 'exploded' a few days ago. And now, basically, I know that I am really attracted to women as well as men. At some point in the not too distant future I want to be with another woman, but I'm not ready yet. Got to get used to everything first >:)
It's overwhelming, this shift in my feelings, and it's exhilarating and scary at the same time.
Was it the same or different for you?
2007-02-10 03:43:13 · 12 answers · asked by Rissa 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think it's normal to have been in denial for some time. For some it's years, some decades. Can agree with the feelings of when you first accept and embrace that. Pretty amazing thing. I didn't "acknowledge" fully until after high school. And yes, it was overwhelming and wonderful. Welcome.
2007-02-10 04:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in almost this exact same position. I fell head over heels for this ONE girl and was willing to do anything for her. At the same time I had no interest in men or any other relationship type things. After dwelling on it..and on HER for MONTHS on end...I finally discovered that I was just insane about her. After my attraction to her finally faded I gained back a bit of interest in other relationships but was just plain old enjoying being single. The freedom of not being tied down, or overwhelmed emotionally by somebody else. She had sucked out all my love-type energy for months to come. To this day, I've never looked at a girl the same way I looked at her. I've decided that im NOT gay/bi...I DO like men more...but I WOULD be gay in a heartbeat JUST for this girl. And thats perfectly okay. I dont need to be gay/bi FOREVER just because I felt love for the same sex. I consider it bi-curious because she was a total turn on for me and had me wrapped around her little finger. But as life goes on, im much more interested in having a husband, having a family, and doing the whole hetero thing. Im 22 btw. I hope you get it figured out. Good luck!
2016-05-25 01:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myself I am a male crossdresser, and to look way back when to my point of realization, Scary as hell like you cant believe, I felt like I was the ONLY guy in the world that felt that way, So I had no idea what to say to who , so I didnt, I kept it all inside, and then to realize one day I was having a bi- encounter with my best friend at the time, and he knew about my crossdressing, so that helped me knowing he was OK with it all, (someday I need to finish what was started then), I have learned to pretty much not worry what others think,, enjoy being who you are and enjoy the feelings and emotions you have now,
2007-02-11 11:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 12 and entered the middle school/high school building at my rural school my sexual side was awakened. The realization that I was bi was about as much of a shock as realizing that I like vanilla ice cream over chocolate ice cream.
2007-02-10 17:27:15 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its pretty normal...as women are far more emotional and physically close with one another. Being 'with' another woman doesn't seem as large a leap as two men together...so it doesn't seem to be as much a taboo for heterosexuals.
I would say to stop analyzing it, and if the opportunity presents...enjoy. Afterall, its just another exploration of sexuality.
2007-02-10 03:47:43 · answer #5 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea,it was the same for me...I realize that when I ended up watching girls butt in their tight jeans pants,panties..ect..I had a strong feeling for girls...and am a very popular girl at school and in my community...and mostly all guys would wonder "don't I fall in love"...only to know,I was interested in girls.However now..all these feelings have disappeared..but may have a little...interest in girls...and I never had a boyfriend.,but when I feel am ready..for sure I know I can get any guy I want around..me...lol..chow
2007-02-10 03:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Annabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I probably always knew it on some level, but I really realized it at about 13.
2007-02-10 07:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by dc87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realized when I was in high school and I fell in love with a classmate. Looking back, though, I had little crushes on girls much earlier than that - I just didn't really admit it to myself.
2007-02-10 04:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it was like that when "Eve" ate the forbidden fruit. It is normal to be attracted to members of the same sex. It is perversion to express that affection in a sexual way.
2007-02-10 03:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
i never realized that i was bisexual untill my best friend told me that she had feelings for me... stupid to have some1 else show u the path but thats how it went for me :P
2007-02-10 04:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋