im just wondering if im being to hard on my husband.the problem i have is he gave his checking account card to his his wife so if he needs to send her money she can just take it out of his account.he has 3 kids with her.im fine that he sends the kids money,but he also 4 other kids by different mother's and they dont have a card nor do they even talk to him.he's always talking to his exwife and about everything to.just about everything he has is in her name.and when she came with the kids he thinks its ok that everyone hangs out.i feel unconferable about it.she has a boyfriend but still i dont get it.i have a son with my exhusband and i call to talk to my son but not really my ex.nor does he have my check card.and he dont hang out with me.he say's im jeoulas,but really im not i just dont find it right.he says he ante got feelings for her.they been split up for 3years now.but he ante got that kind of relationship with the other mother's of his kids.am i just being retarted??
2007-02-10 03:29:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i just wanna add no im not jeoulas.that ante the problem at all,but when he's given her over 1,000 month then i think about it.i dont even have his bank card.i have talk to him about this,but he just tells me it ante my business.i understand the whole friends after divorce im friends with my ex husband but to a point.because he gets mad at me.
2007-02-10 04:46:41 · update #1
I think you got the short end of the stick. I dont know if i could marry someone who has that many kids with different people. But if i did i would not like the situation either. So i dont think you are over reacting
2007-02-10 03:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with all the answers on here, but "Grandma" put it best!
Have you heard that Ex's can get along better once Divorced than while married??? Could be they are just good friends and it's hard for you to see it, being the man IS your Husband. Are U sure you aren't a little jealous?
Anyway, I feel your Husband is going a little FAR when letting the EX have his bank Card. Maybe it's for the kid's sake? Anyway, he HAD an obligation to discuss this with you FIRST of all, and since he didn't, sounds like he's unfeeling about how you're taking to this! You should let him know right away that it's making you uncomfortable!
Could be that his other EX-Wives left with a bad note, get what I mean?
It is one thing for your Husband to be good friends with this Ex you mentioned, but, he does need to "draw the line" and when it comes to money, I'd feel uneasy too.......
SO, for this, tell him before you get too much resentment built up, ok?
If he continues to do this with the Acct., concerning his Ex, you can move on.................... you don't have to be forced to live this way! If it isn't good, then you deserve BETTER! Good luck!
2007-02-10 12:32:46 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your house and you have a right to be comfortable in YOUR house. It doesn't matter who is there. Yes he has a responsibility to those kids but not to her. I know for a fact that NONE of my money would go into the account that his ex wife has a card to. If you aren't comfortable in your own home then he has a responsibility to make his wife (you) comfortable. He made a commitment to you and he should follow through with it!
2007-02-10 11:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by 84cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you are not over reacting, he need to get his priority's straight, if he needs to send or give her money there are other ways of doing it, other than giving her his band card. Talk to your husband, get a clear understanding of what is what and make your decision from that, but if there is anyone else that is getting the respect that should only be bestowed upon you, then maybe you are with the wrong person. to thine own self BE TRUE
2007-02-10 13:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ann J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's to say why he doesn't have that particular relationship with his other kids' mothers; perhaps because he wasn't married to them. It sounds like you either need to accept things as they are, or move on. It's unlikely that he's going to change the set-up, so you need to make some decisions. If you believe he's not cheating on you, then it may be worth the effort to stay with him.
2007-02-10 11:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya git what ya pay for.
Why would you marry a man who had bebe kids?
He's gonna do what he wants. You may as well give up any idea of changing him.
2007-02-10 11:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋