My brother in law named his son after my husband(middle name only). Now that I'm pregnant my brother in law is demanding that we name our baby after him!! I don't really like his name and I don't really like my brother in law. What should I do?????
2007-02-10 02:24:15 · 19 answers · asked by ms 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh heck no! I named both my girls after their grand mothers because they are both deceased. I gave my girls 2 first names, the first is what I wanted and the 2 first name was grand mother name and very nice too. But, I would NEVER give my kids a name of someone I dont care, a name I dont like or even someone who is DEMANDING me to give the baby his name.....Big NO NO on any type of class from this guy.Tell him you will name your next dog after him but leave the child to YOU. You actually dont have to tell him anything. Naming your child is a very private and personal decision for mother and father and everyone else should stay out of it. Name your child what you want and when you have the baby and come home, he will find out. No big deal...what are you going to lose....having his next child not named after you??? Big deal...Good luck and stick to your guns here sister.
2007-02-10 02:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not that I'm an expert at this but since it is after all your own child, no one else but you and your husband should have a say one what you should name your baby. What do I think of naming kids after relatives? I think its great as long as you really want to, I mean if I greatly respected a relative I might consider naming it after them otherwise I wouldn't..
2007-02-10 02:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by MixMasta DTF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I read the details of your question, I thought, "Well, it depends on how nice the relatives' names are..."
And, that's still my answer. If you don't like his name, you don't like his name. Don't pass it on.
It's entirely possible that your brother-in-law just happened to like your husband's name, too, and thought it would be nice to claim the kid was named after him instead of just saying "Dude, I'm stealing your name."
At any rate, your husband needs to tell said brother to get stuffed, in a polite way. Or, is your mother the sort of useful family matriarch who can be made to meddle for good? Having back-up wouldn't hurt for the two (er, three) of you.
2007-02-10 02:50:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's sweet that he used your husbands name, but that in NO WAY obligates you to use his. does your husband agree with you? if so, he should politely thank his brother for using his name, but tell him you have other plans for your child. it is YOUR baby. if you don't want to have to say your brother in law's name a million times a day, that's very understandable!
2007-02-10 02:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by Emily H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not your brother in laws choice. So just pick out a name that youand your husband like and stick to it. OR if you absolutley feel like you have to use his name even if you dont like it, then use it as a 3rd name. Like Michael James Norton Parker. That way no one would really ever use it anyways. It would be there, but not used.....:)
2007-02-10 02:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ur kid. u can name him whatever u want. ur brother in law doesn't have the right to tell u what to name the baby. u should just tell him that u dont want to name the baby after him or tell his wife to tell him 4 u
2007-02-10 02:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dude! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only give your child the name you want him or her to have. It's very uncouth for someone to demand you name someone after him. You should do what you want to do and if your brother-in-law doesn't like it, then tough cookies!
2007-02-10 02:33:34 · answer #7 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't DEMAND anything. They named the baby after your husband by choice, because they obviously like him and wanted to honor him. If you don't feel the same, don't be pressured. In my family, every firstborn boy is named after his Grandfather. So we have a million Alvins, Williams, and Daniels!!! It's hilarious, but, also an honor to have such a rich tradition.
I hope you have a girl to spare you this misery!!!
2007-02-10 02:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by C. J. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He has no right to make such a demand. It is your child. Tell him that you have had a name chosen for a long time. Just because he named his child for your husband is no reason or obligation. He made that choice by himself. No one insisted on it.
2007-02-10 02:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You name your child whatever you want. It is not your fault that your brother-in-law assumed that you would name your child after him...he sounds pushy and rude! Have your husband tell him because it is his brother!!!
2007-02-10 02:31:53 · answer #10 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋