My girlfriend & I had a discussion last night about her male friend who said something 2 her over her cell phone that I overheard because her cell phone is so loud. They smoke, I don't, she asked if she could go over 2 his place 2 get happy, he said why don't U come over here & make me happy. I told her that didn't make me feel good after she was gone for 25 minutes. After our hashing out of the situation, she threw away her thong, said it was holey. I looked @ it later, & they were completely fine. Y would a woman do that? Y would a woman throw away perfectly good underwear? could it be because I had questioned her fedility? She became so upset after my concerns, that she threw her thong away because they would remind her of my jealousy? What do you think? I have yet 2 address this issue with her, but when I do, how would B a good way 2 do it?
2007-02-10 02:11:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's a strange time to test my "trust" level, so I don't see that as controlling, I didn't control her and tell her she couldn't go, after hearing him say what he said, but I did have to tell her that hearing that comment did not make me feel very good. Especially with her laughing and switching the phone to the other ear away from me. I'm not the controlling type, but I am suspicious when there is a need for it. I think this is in the "need for it" catagory. & now I need to know what others think. "Do I need to question her on why she discarded a perfectly good pair of underwear, but said they were holey?"
2007-02-10 02:30:10 · update #1
Of course you have to question it! She threw them away to get rid of them....she could have washed them but maybe now she is feeling guilty. So throwing them away means she'll never see them. She sound as confused as you are. I wouldn't trust her, though.She'll do it again when shes "happy"
2007-02-10 02:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by M.R.M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to feel suspicious under the circumstances. I know I would! All said though, you are the one in the relationship and only you know whether it is worth preserving. It sounds like she has done something she would rather never remember and she wants to be with you (otherwise she would hang-on to the memory by keeping the thong) which is a good sign if the feeling is mutual and you are able to truly forgive. You need to let her know what you think and why emphasizing that her honesty will dictate the level of trust in future and take it from there. If she shows no respect for your emotional well-being it might be time to call it quits because things will only go downhill from there. Hope you both do the right thing. All the best. x
2007-02-10 10:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by kahahius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing sounds a bit strange to me. When you start checking your girls underwear that's a bit controlling. Either you trust her ot you don't. If not, then go ahead and move on before you get hurt. A relationship will go nowhere without trust.
2007-02-10 10:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest you tell her to "shape up" or "ship out"! Doesn't sound like she really cares how you feel about the situation; and you do deserve better!
2007-02-10 10:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like she did something that she regrets and doesnt want the undies around to remind her. You need to ask your self , is she cheating or am i being over jealous
2007-02-10 10:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by slynswope 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋