I have been dating a man for 9 months. During that time I thought we had become very close. He often talked of the future and having children, we have met each others families and I am the first woman he introduced to his son . After christmas I went off the pill to give my body a break and he was away on holidays. I told him on his return that I was off the pill. We made love and during that time he said I am going to *** in you .. you know what that means.. I thought he was asking me to have a baby.. this happened twice.. He is an incredible father to his son. He is financially independant and an intelligent man. When i told him he looked flawed and stated babbling about how no woman would put up with his lifestyle. I was shocked and said that I would probably have an abortion. He called that night asked if I was ok and I said I needed space. The next day. text message are you ok I am here to talk to but will give you space. then silence for two days..confused...
2007-02-10 01:36:22 · 10 answers · asked by Bridget A 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I dont think you should ask strangers on the internet a life changing decision for you. This is something that only you and your boyfriend(if he is still in your life) can decide
2007-02-10 02:12:01 · answer #1 · answered by KP 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
So are you pregnant or aren't you? I'm assuming yes, so if you have an abortion or not is completely your choice. If you keep the baby, this man will be in your life for the next 18 years....that could be good, that could be bad....you be the judge. He doesn't sound too intelligent if he's going to freak out over you being pregnant when he knew you weren't on the pill and didn't use protection. Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do.
2007-02-10 10:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not tell you where you should have and abortions
First he is tr yin to talk to you, give him a call or text message
This is the thing about abortion, some people regret it for the rest of their life. What you need to know when deciding on having an abortion is where do you believe life begins. If you believe that life begins at conception, then abortion will not be a good thing to do.
You can consider adoption instead. You love the child enough to give her life, and to loving parents. This is also hard
You can keep the baby. This will be hard also
You need to talk to your boyfriend.
Do not have an abortion because you think it easy.
2007-02-10 12:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a good man and is just giving you the space YOU asked for. Have you even talked to him about having the baby, or did you just automatically tell him you were gonna have an abortion? I think you need to talk to him a little more about where you want this relationship to go.. And dont get an abortion just because you think HE doesnt want a baby right now. Do what is right for you. Good Luck!!
2007-02-10 10:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by jaysgurl28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure exactly what to make of the situation with your boyfriend. At the moment, he is being irresponsible and selfish. If he really cared about you, he wouldn't ask you to put yourself at risk, and he is not an incredible father if he wants you to kill his own son or daughter.
Regardless of the circumstances of your baby's conception or the current status of your relationship with her father, your baby is totally innocent. She did not ask to be created and she does not deserve to die. I think you know this. If you are seriously considering abortion, please take a look at this information before you do something you regret:
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http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf
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Maybe your boyfriend will come around and be a great father to this baby as well, and maybe he will not. Either way, you will find out what kind of a man he really is. The only thing you can control right now is your own actions. Your baby is depending on you for protection. You can do the right thing.
2007-02-10 11:41:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and find out where he stands. .. . .
If you are pregnant I suggest adoption as opposed to abortion. Its not the child's fault that this happened so why would it hurt to place them in an adoptive home if you do not want this man's baby?
There are many people out there that would love to adopt the child with an open or closed adoption (my husband and I included). I hope you will consider this.
Good luck!
2007-02-13 19:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by stitch604 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Abort! The child you carry is a growing life and has a right to live! If things don't work out between you and the dad, there is always adoption! There are lots of couples ready to adopt! Couples whom can not have there own for what ever reason.
2007-02-10 12:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by Gramms 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you given him a chance? You need to sit down and discuss this with him, before you make any rash decisions. Having an abortion will affect you mentally and physically for the rest of your life(believe me)...
Ultimately its your decision, but if you want to be with this man, then you need to talk to him and ask him what his opinion is on the matter at hand.
Good luck
2007-02-10 10:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by wheezerthill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him. I was only dating my boyfriend for a few months when i got pregnant i was confused too but its not that childs fault how the parents act. If you dont think you can do with him stop talking to him period have the baby and raise it be responsible. or adoption
2007-02-10 11:07:24 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont think you should have an abortion. your boyfriend seems like a very nice man and im sure he can be a very nice father to your baby.
2007-02-10 11:16:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋