I am cheating my husband?

Question

hi i am trying to find out way out from last four years but not able to i am 37, Attractive ,housewife mother of two sweet kids have everything in life i duunt know why i got attracted to a man who is much younger to him and started seeing him now he is also married with blessed with sweet daughter i know i am wrong but unable to come out of this i have tried several time infact my hubby is far better then him i know this i think i like his possesiveness My hubby is not at all possesive about me my hubby is busy with his buis ness and hardly get time for us still he is taking good care of us pls help i wann to come out of this mess

Answer 1

I'm not sure what I can say that hasn't already been said. I think the only thing you can do is 100% quit cold turkey. Stop seeing this guy, tell him it's over, and stop answering his calls. If he comes knocking, don't answer. If he is persistent, threaten to call the police. You have to shut this other man out of your life, for the sake of your marriage, your family, and your children, (who are the ones that are hurt the most by infidelity). Stop worrying about his feelings, since he obviously never cared about yours. Infidelity is always completely based upon Infatuation, selfishness, and fantasy; it has nothing to do with real love and commitment with another person.

Whether or not you confess to your husband about this is of course totally up to you. But I don't know if it is worth it to carry around all that guilt inside, and to constantly feel like you are lying to your husband. You could possibly wait until you feel your marriage is more secure.

Regardless, It is obvious you need to start spending a lot more time with your husband. Tell that you are lonely, and you need to see him more. Tell him you like it when he is more possessive of you. Tell him that you honestly could not care less how much money he brings home; you know that working for a living is necessary, but his presence at home is so much more important. No amount of success in his career can justify neglecting his family and his wife.

Many men believe that they are valued for "the things they do", and not valued for "who they are." This is why they may become workaholics, hide their feelings, and avoid real intimacy or commitment. This may be the case with your husband. You need to do your best to let him know that you love him and accept him unconditionally, and that you care about, and want to know his feelings.

Good luck, whatever you decide to do.......
~Donkey Hotei

Additional:
Don't let the anger and hatred of others get you down. Believe you me, they are in no position to judge you, or start casting stones, and neither am I. It is only their guilt and fear that makes them bitter.......

Answer 2

Girl , be careful what you wish for ......if you think your hubby is far better than him then you are going to really be a wreck when he leaves you for your cheating and the other man wont leave his wife and you are on your own !!... I totally understand how this affair stuff can do your head in.. the attention is awesome when you are a bored housewife but trust me when I say you need a hobby or to refocus on your kids and get your head out of the fairytale and back to reality. There is no white horse, no handsome prince, and if you did end up together "Newsflash " He cheats on his wife, He will cheat on you. Throw away your mobile phone and stop this train before it's a total wreck !!
Believe a voice of experience !!

Answer 3

Wow, you just need to stop seeing the other man. Do this: plan a get away you and your husband if you can or a romantic night. You lead, you do all the work. Remind yourself of why you married him. Bring back the spark you let go. He'll see you again the way you were. I know, I live with a dead relationship. I love him but I'm lonely. The only thing we can do is try and if that doesn't work, maybe it's just time to move on.

Answer 4

Your husband kills himself to give you and your children a better life and instead of appreciating it you make excuses for yourself...oww it's ok because my husband never has time for me. I've seen it way too many times. Taking your husbands love and commitment for granted. If you need to spend more time with him why not work by his side in his business? Stop being selfish and think about your children as well. Eventually they will find out and all hell is going to break lose. Is this man worth losing your family over? Everything you and your husband has worked for down the drain for some other man? I'm almost 32 weeks pregnant with our second child and i just couldn't imagine having my husbands babies and then running off with some other man. That's just sick. I'm sorry if I'm coming off a little strong but i myself have been cheated on once by the love of my life and it literally broke me in such a way i could never describe. Change it now before it's too late. Walk away and move on with your life before you have nothing to go home to.

Answer 5

I wouldn't judge you harshly because no one knows if and when they may find themselves in such a situation things happen sometimes, but you do need to make a serious decision whether you are prepared to give up the good life you have for this momentary excitement think about it if you did....and it did not last you would have so much regret....i say stay with your husband, give yourself time to get over this other man, it will only end in tears.

Answer 6

So why would that's considerable to teach infidelity just to get divorced? If he delivers financial risk-free practices now, then a choose would assume him to grant that when divorce. My feeling is he would not have a job and neither do you. He leaves for weeks and would not even call domicile to envision on the youngsters? super Dad you chosen on your toddlers. call it quits and concentration on your self and your toddlers. report for divorce so which you will get an order for new child help for the youngsters and you will initiate getting your existence back on course. Who cares if he's a cheater. he's clearly no longer a solid husband or a solid father. do no longer waste any greater time.

Answer 7

You should remember the good times with your Hubby I am recently Divorced and the only ones that suffer are the children. I had a breakdown from it all but now I am much better. sit with your Hubby and let him know your concerns with the relationship with him. Dump the other guy......

Answer 8

Maybe he is having an affair too.
You are so wrapped up in yourself..I am sure he is a smart man... by your actions...excuse me...but you seem to be a silly dumb person....with no heart. Those poor little children.
If you can't stop...can you try and spend that time with them.
Sounds to me they get no attention....what do you do buy them toys and that's the love they get. I bet you have really gone deep into diverse lust for this man too....that's called being a whore.
Whores don't live very long and neither do their partners in crime....their bed is the doorway to hell....and many have already gone into that place...from seeing whores.
In my life time....I have seen it happen.

Answer 9

How silly you are.You have what you say is a good man who works hard and provides well for you and you aren't woman enough to make a good and peaceful home for him to come home to.I don't get why women who get good men destroy their own relationships?Well,when you want to end this you will ,right now you are just talking from guilt .I hope you can end this without hurting your husband for once his eyes are opened ,he will never see you or the world the same and all the beauty he thought was around him will cease to exist.Kind of like when Adam and Eve betrayed God and their eyes opened and everything looked different,and they had to leave their place of peace for sin had come in.You have done the same allowed sin to come in and the results will be the same and forever you will look different and be banished from your place of peace within your marriage.

Answer 10

First of all..women like you ruin perfectly normal lives of children and wreck other people's families!! You should be disgustingly ashamed of yourself and had better pray for some MAJOR forgiveness on this one.
If you TRUELY wanted to end this AFFAIR 4 years ago..YOU WOULD HAVE. But you didn't..admit it!! You didn't and you're SELFISH acts are going to end up hurting your husband..someone's wife and kid and not to mention your own children!! HOW DARE YOU CALL YOURSELF A HOUSEWIFE WHEN YOUR PRIORITYS ARE SHOT TO HELL? YOUR CHILDREN AND FAMILY COMES FIRST..NOT YOU.
If your husband was smart..he should dump your "attractive" cheating behind and take your kids and make a better life for them and leave your butt with your mess.
THOSE POOR KIDS..HOW CAN YOU KISS THEM AND TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM WHEN YOU'RE THE ONE POISONING THEIR FUTURE?
PLAY WITH FIRE LADY AND YOU'LL GET BURNED.