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What do you think , most people say woman should stay home and take care of the kids and man should work. I dont agree with that, explain your answer.

2007-02-10 01:11:04 · 39 answers · asked by Salaama 2 in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

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Not possible for most people. Especially if you have kids it takes TWO incomes to raise a family.

:-)~

2007-02-10 01:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6 1

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2016-12-24 03:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-07-21 23:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Society has changed since the 50's and 60's. First of all things are so expensive these days that it is almost impossible not to have two incomes. Not to mention, most men that stay at home are looked down upon as lazy and not wanting to work. My husband and I have had many "discussions" about this issue. In the 50's and 60's most women did not work. They stayed home and took care of the house and the kids. Nowadays women do work full time jobs and then have to come home and take care of the house and the kids. If the woman does work a full time job, then the responsibility of the house and the children should be equally distributed as is the financial burden of the household.

So to answer your question, if it is possible I think women should stay home. On the other hand, if it is possible and the dad wants to stay home, then he should. But if neither is possible then the burden of taking care of the house and children should be equally divided.

2007-02-10 01:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 2 0

Dun take the word 'stay at home' as in really stay at home. In other words, you should feel lucky that your husband is willing to work for the family. At least he doesn't sees you the same level as he is. He thinks that as a man, he should raise the family and he doesn't expect much from you. Since you have this opportunity (if your husband is able to support the living), why not stay at home. Enjoy the most of what every woman always dream of. On the other hand, you can be a 24hours kinda mommy and wife. Preparing breakfast for your husband. Do the house chores to make sure things are in place. Take care and spend time with your kids. At night, do what you should do as a wife. This way, your husband will feel more 'lucky' as he has an understanding and capable wife like you.

2007-02-10 01:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by Bun#2 in the oven 2 · 0 0

each relationship is different. After a women has a baby the descison on who is to stay home can be made many different ways.

1. who is making more money
2. who has more room for growth in the job?
3. who wants to stay home?

I also don't see a problem with day care when 2 parents are working and want/need to continue working. They might have to take a few months of leave but then again now a days a man can take leave for a child in the first few months too.

2007-02-10 01:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I don't believe that is the way it should be. I have a friend whose husband stays home while she works. I'm amazed at how much flak they get for that choice. If he had a vagina instead of a penis no one would bat a eye at that choice.
I basically stay at home with my kids. The main reason being that it is honestly cheaper. Daycare is outrageous and I would make much money after daycare, gas etc. So I chose to stay home. I do work a few days a week at a retail store in our downtown and I clean my in laws house once a week but during the summer when the kids are home I have to pay the babysitter basically what I make in a day just to sit here with my kids.

2007-02-10 01:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by sunnydreams1123 3 · 3 0

Nice...it's a Dark Ages question! :)

Anyway, women should be allowed to work if they so choose. There is a trend developing in some places where men are staying home with the kids now. Just do what you feel is best, as long as you can afford your choice. Personally, I would rather work than stay home with the kids...which is one reason I don't have any.

2007-02-17 09:43:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lost_Lady 3 · 0 0

The woman, a mother, should stay near her baby as long as the baby needs breast milk. Then we may say that the mother should take the baby with her wherever she goes so she can give proper nursing and direct motherly affection. But it is never normally so that the mother should give breast milk the whole day long. Sometimes the baby sleeps and sometimes the baby is satisfied and may play on its own.

Many think that the mother should stay nearest to the baby during the first year of a baby's life. There are also many who think that the father should participate actively in most phases of his baby's early life. All this is wonderful thinking, and it is corroborative to see instances of it in concrete life.

Life is hard, and money and work are ever necessary to make a household survive and so to make babies and children thrive.

All the community should be involved in the process, and the wishes of the individual mother should be taken into great account. A woman has got other roles in life than just being a mother. So her own further personal development should be taken into great account, and it should be safeguarded.

Nowadays where most families have only got one or two children it may be very important to introduce small children into a communal place where they may socialize with other children, even much before their starting at elementary school. In old times families had many children, and many children were seen playing together down into the yard or into the street.

Modern communities have kinder gardens, also for very small children, therefore there is no reason why the mother should stay at home the whole day long alone with babies doing nothing else than nursing own babies.

It is important for children to be together with others so they may be socialized, otherwise when going home always together with their own mother they may end up being nearly as shy and as egoistic as wild animals.

In addition to this we may agree that it is very important for the father to participate in his children's life so to satisfy his sense of direct fatherhood and also to be a concrete role-model for his own children.

2007-02-15 23:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by pasquale garonfolo 7 · 0 1

I spent 24 years of my life as an 'at home mother/wife'...and I would do it all again. The only thing that is difficult for the stay-at-home woman is that she will miss out on the growth of her mind unless she finds time for at home studies, etc. When I finally went to college at 41 I told a Philosophy class that the only way I knew something wrong was going on in the world was when the price of bananas / coffee went sky-high. That is dull and boring. She must/he must keep up on the world and then he/she will be more enlightening to talk with for the other partner out in the world. To me, it really is good for the children to have a parent with them but it is not always practical. Whatever meets the families needs is to be done.

2007-02-16 00:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by missellie 7 · 0 0

Oh dear...you could make some enemies with this question! Not very politically correct. My sister is a stay-at-home mom & there's certainly nothing wrong with that if that's what a woman chooses & if financially the family is able to do it however it's not an option for most people. I don't plan to have children myself so I couldn't say. I do think it's important to be there for the kids & I am grateful that my Mom was always there for me (even though she drove me nuts half the time!) I know that it would be hard for me to be financially dependent on someone because I'm very independent & a bit of a control freak. I bought my own house, by myself. It was a big move but very empowering for me. I came from a household where my Mom never wanted to work & always stayed home with the kids. It was a different generation. I hate my job but to me it's a necessary evil to be financially independent, even if I were to get married I think I would always have to work (unless I win the lottery or something!)

Women are natural nurturers & caregivers & normally seem to spend the most time with their children whether they go out to work or not. It must be difficult for women who try to do it all (balancing career & caring for children). Certainly their spouses should be doing their part to help out as well. I've heard of cases where the husband stays home with the kids because the wife is in a more lucrative position & doesn't want to jeopardize her career. Times are changing. It would be chauvinistic to assume it's a woman's responsibility to stay home with the kids & not go to work.

It's a difficult issue though because a lot of the problems with kids today stem from neglect. Both parents go out to work, both are overscheduled, stressed & don't have the time or energy to invest in spending time with kids, cooking healthy meals. Look at the number of obese kids now in North America because they're eating fast food & junk food instead of home-cooked meals. My Mom never let us eat at McD's or have Kraft dinner growing up. She force-fed us carrots & broccoli. At the time I thought she was evil but now I'm grateful that I ate healthy & never had a weight problem. That would certainly be a good argument for having a Mom at home. I guess there should be a compromise. Working part-time etc to still have time for the kids. A lot of it boils down to finances. Kids are expensive! Most people need two incomes just to put food on the table & clothes on their backs
(& ipods etc tee hee...spoil kids with gadgets & maybe they won't notice you don't have time for them...)

Anyway, I'm babbling but the short answer is that no your question is over-simplified, it is a complex issue. It depends on the family & their unique situation. It wouldn't be fair to say that women have to stay home, but it also wouldn't be fair to say that they can't or shouldn't if that's what they choose...

2007-02-10 01:45:33 · answer #11 · answered by amp 6 · 0 0

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