Struggling with self issues.?

Question

I want to gain more confidence in myself. I'm a nice person, a good friend, a wife and mother. I want to really get my career going again after a break how can I gain confidence and got my skills up to par?

Answer 1

Good for you for recognizing the problem and addressing it before you jump back into the job market! That's very important.

Here are a few things you can do:

* Make a list of your accomplishments.

Don't limit yourself to the ones you think are related to employment. List them ALL. Being a good wife and mother is a REAL accomplishment, and it's made up of a bunch of other accomplishments. Have you graduated from high school and colleged? Those are accomplishments, too, that many people don't achieve. Keep lisitng!

* Make a list your skills.

Setting priorities, managing your family, being organized, managing the family budget (or the household spending), encouraging your husband and children, helping your children with their homework, cleaning, keeping the house picked up, painting and wallpapering, cooking, planning, diagnosing and treating colds and the flu, etc.

* Volunteer

Don't donate money to your favorite charity; donate time. At your child's school, your community's food bank, one of the breast cancer "walks," anything that appeals to you. Helping others is helping yourself, too. It makes you feel good about yourself to help someone in need of your help. It helps you recognize that you ARE good at some things. It even helps you expand your "network" of acquaintances which will help you in your job search.

* Relieve yourself of the need to be "perfect."

In theory, there was only one "perfect person" (the name depends on your religion), and since you are decidely NOT God, stop expecting yourself to be. Give up perfection and settle for excellence - just doing your best. Isn't that what you tell your children when they get discouraged? Follow your own advice.

* Everyone is really excellent at something. Find your "thing."

Find out what you are excellent at - what you truly enjoy doing. It's a cliche, but that's because it's so often true: follow your "passion." Then, find a job or a business that needs someone with that passion, and you'll have a job you love and do well at.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You have no business to lose confidence in yourself. You have a great profile--a good friend, a nice person, a wife and mother! These are powerful factors and big roles performed. Where and why do you lose confidence is not immediately clear. However, all this seems to be concealed in the catch all caption 'self issues' For you, it is not so much a matter of confidence as of identifying the issues and working out solutions for them.
This may need talking to the partner and others, if involved and available for the purpose. You can work out strategies of action by yourself in collaboration with your spouse. But if this is the critical area, then you need to explore external help.
You need to search out for good friends and supportive colleagues at job, if any, or even at social gatherings or family functions or other get togethers that come your way. And while doing this, you need to be highly positive in your approach. Should you pour out yuur pains over somebody just in the first meeting and in one go, it my recoil and prove counterproductive. Hence, tread the path carefully and you will definitely get results. The world is not wicked and has good persons who outnumber the bad ones. This should give you enough confidence to look out for good friends and get success.
You can be in the company of your kids as well and they can be sources of great joy. Spend prime time with them.
You can try for a job and also for joining some college for a formal program. They would keep you busy and provide many friends and teachers who can be helpful. Also, the knowledge gained may transform your perspective toward life and people and make you an exuberant and confident person.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I have experienced a breakdown myself and have just recovered.

I can tell you to read some philosophical books to get a broader outlook.

Also work out as this releases endorphines in the brain that allow you to feel high and clear up your mind AND help you focus.

Answer 5

Take classes. Also do affirmations and visualizations and most of all BELIEVE in yourself. Maybe volunteer to get the skills. Interact with other adults.

Answer 6

Exercise and take some classes at your local college.