Constantly remind your kids of things you "had to do without" when you were their age, and "it didn't do me any harm". There is a program on in the UK next week about parents (now) as children in the seventies (so was I). It should be interesting. Incidentally I'm not one of those kind of parents and have a great relationship with my kids. I would be interested in your comments.
2007-02-10 00:41:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Television
I'm not a parent yet, but if my parents did that, I'd flip.
2007-02-10 00:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by lilmissperfect_2013 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was born in 1973 and I think it was a very hard time to be a child. There were strikes and no coal to keep the house warm. I have a 4 year old daughter and I love the fact that she can get her games up on the computer via the internet and make her DVD's play on the X-Box. My mother-in-law however is always banging on about "how it was in her day". When I said that she couldn't come and pick us up from the airport without a child seat she said "none of mine had them and they're all fine". It's just pointless even having the conversation with her, I just nod and say - well just humour me ok. I'm sure she thinks I'm an over protective mum because I insisted on buying low sodium water in France for making up baby bottles.
I think about the food I used to eat in the 70's and hate to think how much artificial colouring there was in that Quosh orange drink I used to drink gallons of. No matter how badly our kids eat I'm sure they're still better off than the blancmange and space dust we used to fill ourselves with.
2007-02-10 00:55:30 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i dont rub in what I did and did not have compared to them no point really past is past. They ask me what was it like in the olden days lol How did I manage without computor,mobile phone but what you never had you dont miss.
I did not go without anything when I was their age with what was around at the time I had the latest what ever it was and they dont go without anything in this age.
I have a great relationship with all my girls youngest 17 and her friends think I am a cool mom so we are happy as we all are however saying that. Last night my 21 year old telephoned asking me to pick her up as bus had dumped all its passengers to dangerous to drive and she had a five mile walk home. I could not get my car out so I did find myself reminding her that when we had snow years ago it was a lot deeper and yes I too had to walk five miles home after finishing shift at hospital same as her lol. I would not mind but she had brought some boots from town they were in a bag in her hand and she did not think to change into them to stop feet getting wet reason "Mom they are brand new did not want the snow to ruin them" ha ha
2007-02-10 02:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think every parent struggles with that annoying "well, when I was a kid" stuff. I worked on my outlook and came to the realization that in order to be progressive and in a healthy relationship with my children I needed to focus on the here and now and not the past or my own negative experiences. This is way easier said than done, as evidenced by all of the dysfunctional parents out there.
2007-02-10 00:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mon-chu' 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um, I am a parent, and a child of the seventies, and to be honest, yes we did do without a lot of stuff kids have today, purely becuse they werent invented!
I dont think it good for kids to be bestowed with tons of material crap anyway, I had a fab childhood without much money, but we had what we needed, we were not spoilt, and nor is my daughter now.
Gonna watch the programme, will keep an eye out for it.
Just had a thought, do you think kids today would survive what my parents and many others did? Surviving a war, being evacuated to live with total strangers, having to eat whatever was in front of them whether they liked it or not due to rationing?
Can you imagine some of todays spoilt brats surviving?
I think not! They wouldnt know how to survive without mobiles and i-pods.
2007-02-10 00:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a good idea to make kids aware of how hard life was before they were born. Just like letting them know that there are countries where children are starving. Things like this is not nagging or bad relationship between you and your kids, it is just to let them know and make them feel like they should be grateful for their good fortunes.
Why do they teach history at school? Why are we constantly reminded of what happened to the jews in the II. worldwar? To show people that we don't want to go back to those times and that we need to be more tolerant and understanding so that we don't get ourselves in those kinds of troubles.
2007-02-10 00:54:14 · answer #6 · answered by Luvfactory 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No i don't . I strive to make sure they have what i didn't (which actually wasn't too much). My husband, who is 7 years older than i , and grew up in the country, and took molasses sandwhiches to school, and walked 3 miles in the snow to school, uphill both ways, and was working 30 hours a week at your age, and could fix a car at 9 and, and , and, and, and,. He is a different story.
2007-02-10 07:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no i am not. there are more useful ways to teach children, don't think that what i had or did not have has any bearing ....i grew up "poor" one of many children on a farm, had school aid for lunches..the whole nine yards..but was rich with the love of my family..that was a while ago..i too, have a great relationship with my 23 year old.
2007-02-10 00:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by darlin12009 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, when you have children you immediately turn into your own parents and repeat all the things they said to you e.g. 'Money doesn't grow on trees', and lots of sentences beginning with: 'When I was your age....' My guess is that it has always been the case and probably always will. So in 2030 it will be 'When I was your age we had to use a KEYBOARD to get information!'
2007-02-10 00:49:18 · answer #9 · answered by mad 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not one of those parents, but I do have to find myself constantly explaining what the 'old' stuff that I own is. Things like vinyl records, music cassettes, that kind of thing. All the stuff that they aren't that familiar with, because it was being phased out before they were born.
2007-02-10 00:46:18 · answer #10 · answered by Tish P 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, for the simple reason that all parents should give their kids the things that they couldn't have "in their day",but not to the extent that they think they deserve everything for nothing
2007-02-10 01:10:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋