I met him in college, dated for 3 years and married him. He wants to spend money we don't have, argues with me, punches the walls and last night he got mad because he wanted a video game and we didn't have the money for it. He slammed me into a wall and bruised my arms. I live almost 2 hours away from my parents and I want to call my parents and tell them. They like him but they don't know what he does. My husband isn't home right now, he left and hasn't come back yet. I'm 23 and so is my husband. I just want my parents.
2007-02-10 00:13:00 · 27 answers · asked by hurting_one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks to everyone who answered. I called my parents and told them and they came and got me and brought me home. They took me to the police station and charges will be filed against my husband. On Monday my mom and dad are going to help me move my things back home. I'm filing for divorce and my parents are wonderful, they're right here for me.
2007-02-10 08:20:46 · update #1
I bet he always goes out and leaves you not knowing when he will be back. He is an abusive partner this is one strategy used by domestic violence perpetrator's. Do an Internet search on domestic violence and you will see that is what you are living with.
Your Mum wants you to go home right now. It is a parents nightmare for there child to living in a situation like this. Stop reading pick up the phone and call your Mum now.
2007-02-10 00:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by mixie 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call your parents. Take pictures if you have bruises. File a police report and file for divorce.
First pack some of your most important stuff and GO. Go before he gets home. Go to your parents house. NEVER tolerate hitting. If it happens once it will happen again. Glad you found out how he is before you started a family.
You have to think. If you stay with this man and it happens again, or several more times. Is this what you are willing to deal with? I think not. Good luck!
2007-02-10 01:05:40 · answer #2 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has hit you that is abuse. Time to leave and get out now and go stay with your parents. File for divorce in this situation and get a lawyer. Call your parents and tell them what he has done to you. Get out now! Dont look back. You will also need counseling and help for what you have been through. You will also need to get a restraint order against him and report what he has done to the police.
2007-02-10 00:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO ME! I work in a domestic violence/homeless shelter. I see the things you are describing on a everyday basis. please dont think that you are alone. You have taken the first step by asking for advice of what to do..my advice to you is to leave right now while you are breathing. You have to trust you gut instinct. there is a national hotline number for domestic violence you can call it from anywhere in the world and get relocated to safety..even closer to your parents if you like. Somewhere safe that you can take the time to sort things out in your head without worrying that you will be treated like this again. Do Not keep giving him your power. You have to be strong for yourself and your children if you have any. The number is...1-800-799-7233 it is FREE to call this. You need to get a safety plan in affect in case he ever gets mad enough to really harm you physically. You never know how someone else is thinking. It could be over before you realize that he is even mad and it could not even be with you. PLEASE be safe and get help.
2007-02-10 00:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by lucy_2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love on the rocks.
He is violent for trivial reasons. He's very immature if the gets so upset about not having video games. Generally, in relationships like this, the violence only gets worse. If I were you I'd make a good plan to leave, get all the preparations in place, and then leave.
2007-02-10 00:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, get to a safe place and call your parents. Do not keep this a secret. Forget about what anyone is going to think or say to you. If you are in physical danger, and it really sounds like it, you need to go. Go to a shelter, call a local hot line for battered women. Get off the internet and get out of danger...figure the rest out later.
2007-02-10 02:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going through something with my husband im 23 and so is he but he cheats on me i even caught him with a girl but just yesterday he was at a hotel and this guy that knew him i asked where he was and his friend asked me was i his lady and i said no then he came right out and told me that he had a girl in the room and he would be out in a minute so i went and knocked on the door and he wouldnt open it of course so i left and i called his cellular phone and he didnt answer but like 5 minutes ago he asnwered so i left and he calls back like 20 mins later and say i wasnt even in the room i had walked around the corner which was a bold face lie so me and ,my two kids that we have together went to my grandmothers house for the night and he didnt even call to see where we were at.......................LISTEN
you need to let some one know whats going on because if anything happens and you have to protect yourself then you will go to jail because you wouldnt be able to say it was self defense
2007-02-10 00:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by mrspooh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he hit you last nite and you are still there this morning????? Why is that???? Call your parents to come get you before he gets home....pack a bag and go there if you have a car...if not..call a neighbor or friend and have them take you to the police station and have your parents meet you there...good luck
2007-02-10 00:56:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not get any better until your husband gets some help for his anger. You should get out before he hurts you a lot worse. You don't have to live that way. Call your parents and get away.
2007-02-10 01:14:02 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better to leave him chances are he will do it again, If you have a car pack some things up and drive to your parents house if you don't have a car call your parents and ask them to go pick you up and tell them what happened.Take pictures of your brusies and record on paper what happened and what time keep a diary
2007-02-10 00:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋